On My Own... But Not Alone!

My therapist and several friends agreed with me that it was a good idea to get a kitten. So I did! Enor and I went to the SPCA on Friday and I picked one kitten to take to the "get acquainted" room. We had a good time and the vibes were good. Enor said to get a girl cat b/c boy cats piss in your shoes when they get mad at you, which I do know to be a true fact. Plus, I'm trying to stay away from men right now so even better. Her name was "Star" which I also thought was a good sign.

However Tito J and I had plans to go to the beach on Saturday so I couldn't officially adopt her on Fri, but rather Saturday, (b/c once you adopt them they get neutered and you pick them up the next day) so I promised to come back Sat. morning. Fri. night Tito J came into town and we went to dinner w/his family members and friends that I hadn't seen in a long time. Then we went to a new Karoake place where it was only private rooms and you could BYOB. I sang 3 songs and around midnight Tito J and I were ready to head home, so we did and it was a nice, safe environment for me.

Sat. morning I picked up my bro and he accompanied me to an LSAA meeting. I was nervous, especially when the co-ed meeting I'd decided on was in a building that was locked down (for the holidays?) so he talked me into rushing over just a few miles to another set of meetings that was split women/men. So we split up and I found myself in a room with about a dozen other women. I listened to them, then I spoke and cried and I have to say, it was helpful. I couldn't relate to everything the other women were saying but I certainly could relate to a lot. I'm glad I went to a women-only meeting and I will return. After the meeting there were lots of hugs and people thrusting their phone #'s at me and since I was a newcomer, lots of pamphlets for me to take home and read. Then I met my bro and he had nothing but a comical surreal experience. Yes, I'll return to the women's meeting!

Then I hurried to the SPCA and Star was still there (I knew she'd be) and I went to visit her one more time and then I adopted her and went home to meet Tito J. The beach was awesome. I wore my new pink monokini and bought a new shark-decorated boogie board and 2 shark-tooth necklaces, something I been wanting for awhile. The sun was hot, the water was warm, there were tons of people there (which normally I don't like but right now enjoyed immensely) and we got some good beach time in. On our way home we went to a Louisiana restaurant on our way home that Rozzy happened to be playing at, so it was the perfect end to an excellent day. After that Tito J took me to Target so I could buy the preliminary cat care items.

Sun. Tito J wanted to come and play in the pool, and I had a couple hours before I had to go pick up "Scotty Star" (promised Brandone I'd name the cat after him, even if it was a girl!) so we did that, and found that my HOA would be throwing a 4th of July weekend party w/food/drink but until then we had the pool to ourselves--awesommmmme. Then I hurried to shower, change, go get last-minute cat care items at PetSmart (including a carrier), and bring Scotty Star home! The SPCA was packed so I had to wait a bit, but she was ready and they took my carrier and brought her out to me and we tested her microchip and then I was off w/my new baby. I was feeling so protective and loving I even put the seatbelt on her carrier (which did in fact have a seatbelt notch)! She meowed and cried all the way home and I kept talking softly to her and gently "Shh-shh"-ing her and it made me cry too, chuckle!!! I just knew I loved her immediately and furthermore, the SPCA told me she was brought to the shelter on Sun. June 26--only 1 day after I myself was also abandoned. Awwww, how about that for fate???

True to my fashion I'd gotten a couple cat books at the library and had educated myself as much as possible so our adjustment period was pretty easy. We had a great 1st night together--I'd already decided she will sleep with me--except for when she woke me up at 5am to play for about an hour--but then we slept til about 9:30. Monday was a nice, easy morning and we woke up slowly but surely. I had to leave her twice, once to run down to Pasadena to see Ma, and then again that evening just for a bit to go to a party at a mansion that one of Tito J's friends had invited us to. It's a mansion I'd ridden my bike past w/You Know Who so I really wanted to see the inside. But truth is, I couldn't wait to get home to Scotty Star and was only at the party long enough for one drink and to tour the house.

Same with today, I couldn't wait to get home from work to come home to her since it was the 1st day I'd left her alone for an extended period of time. I left her with plenty of food and water and toys and left the radio on at a soft volume. When I'm home she follows me everywhere I go so bonding and love has happened immediately! I have cut my work hours short this week to help with the adjustment period as much as possible.

Today was rough b/c I went back to work after a great weekend. And I was supposed to be in Chicago w/You Know Who--so that was sad for me. But it helps having a lot to do, even if I don't feel like doing it every minute. I have tons of books to read and some DVR'ing to catch up on, and self-improvement to work on, and of course my Scotty Star to shower with adoration. And practicing, always practicing! I'll be going back to Club Remix tomorrow night w/Enor and her friend and hopefully Phillipo. Thurs. after work I'll attend another LSAA meeting. Fri night is my crazy friend Rolando's bday party, which I guess I'll go to. I still don't want to leave Scotty Star at home alone too much but at the same time I am fighting the feeling of brokenhearted loneliness, even if I realize more and more each day that I'm truthfully mostly fine w/You Know Who being gone. Key word being "mostly".