My feet are cold, dude. I have my heater blowing on them here in my office. It's 50 degrees outside. I had planned on going for a run last night before the cold front hit today but I wasn't able to b/c after Job #2 I had to run back by Job #1 to meet li'l bro for a minute and by then it was raining and dark and I knew there would be no one in the park near my house and for safety's sake (OTHER people's safety!) I figured it would be better to just swing by the grocery store for fruit and my peanut candy, go home, rest, eat Superbowl leftover steak that Stefano had sent home w/me, and tidy up my house (dishes, laundry, etc). It's gonna be this cold through the weekend, too. Boooooo! I want to try to go for a run tonight b/c I am still feeling like I'd like to detox a little from this weekend, all that boozing and eating good food w/Stefano.
In good news, I did find lots of my beloved peanut candy at the store last night, yay! I stocked up since Lent begins next week and I am giving up "chocolate" since giving up "sweets" last year was a colossal failure--too many birthday parties and such! "Chocolate" should be manageable even though it will still kill me. In fabulous news, Stefano is taking me to this restaurant on Sunday for V-day! He threw 3 restaurant ideas at me and I picked this one b/c it sounded like the most fun, also the 6-lb. lobsters sold me completely! Today he said he told his dad he was taking me there and his dad said, "Wow, you must REALLY like her!" Which he does of course! In fact, Stefano told me in a roundabout way this past weekend that he loves me, which totally touched me to the core of my heart. I wish I could say it back b/c he deserves it, but he also knows that I am still very vulnerable and wounded and trying to heal. I know he's patient and incredibly wonderful and if he keeps doing everything he's doing eventually he WILL get it said back to him!
I was puttering around my house last night, doing a bunch of stuff and I suddenly felt that wave of sadness/regret/loneliness that hits me when I am home alone more often than makes sense to hit me, frankly. I wanted to call Stefano but I never want to call him say, after 8pm b/c I suspect he's already getting ready for bed. And I couldn't drink any wine b/c I didn't go for my run and didn't want to waste the calories and also was still detoxing a little from the weekend anyway. I wish I would go ahead and complete the healing process but I don't know what to do more than I'm already doing. I guess I just need for this fucking divorce to be OVER already so I can feel at peace b/c I don't. I'm pissed every month when I have to pay that goddamn credit card bill of HIS fucking custody battle. I'm angry when I see all his shit still leftover in my house. I want to not be scared to tell Stefano--or anyone--I love them. SHIT SHIT SHIT.
So I have tonight and tomorrow night to get through still. I do want to go for a run tonight so that'll take up a bulk of the evening. Wednesday hopefully will be ok. Thursday is rehearsal even though I want to take this week off but I still need to get paid from Leo and I need that money. Friday I am going out w/li'l bro and then I hit the ground totally running all weekend long and nights will be spent in Stefano's adorable arms. Just gotta get through this week...
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
Monday, February 08, 2010
Well Didn't I Have Superbowl Fever!
Excellent awesome good times yesterday at Stefano's Superbowl party, of which the only other attendee was ME! Killer fun times on Saturday at my gig and then that night w/Stefano. And wonderful tasty times on Friday night at Stefano's house for dinner.
Beginning w/Thursday night: George was in a depressed mood due to the death of his uncle the day before so we surely did go out after rehearsal to the icehouse. The boys had little patience to hear of my troubles w/DA, which got progressively worse as Thursday went on and he had now sent me some nasty emails and text messages, even going so low as to call me names like "psycho" b/c I de-friended his mean ass from my Facebook friends. Leo asked why was I even worried about this shit and he's got a point. But it still hurts me that DA could turn right around and be so mean and hateful towards me just so he can lash out b/c HE'S hurt. Thin line between love and hate, isn't there??? Anyway, so we as a band talked about the future and drank and philosophized. Leo got drunk (at least, I hope he was drunk) and was acting very naughty the whole night long. He and I made some private personal plans of our own and all I can say is, I'm looking forward to seeing how those pan out!
Friday was a nice sedate work from home day. After a quick run by Job #2 in the evening I got myself to Stefano's toot suite and he made stir fry shrimp and noodles for us. I brought a heart-shaped cheesecake topped w/strawberries that I got at La Mad. We drank Reisling and settled in for a long warm cuddly night w/each other. Sat. morning he made us a breakfast of scrambled egg whites and then we had to bid adeui to each other so I could get ready for my gig and he could get to the studio to begin mixing some of his band's CD. Although Leo was against my plan to get my haircut before the gig, I indeed made an appt. to do so and she styled me right up with sexy "performance hair." I just knew that after an afternoon of playing and drinking a lot there's no way in hell I'd want to leave the festivities and go get my hair cut!
The gig was fun and the mood was celebratory. The sun was actually FINALLY shining and it was just a great day to be outside, even if poor George was extremely hungover and drinking water. Li'l bro showed up w/his friend; my cousin showed up w/her husband; and the mutual friend I now have w/J2 showed up w/his wife and we finally got to meet live and in person! I was drinking vodka and Sprite and kissing hands and shaking babies before playing so by the time we finally got up I was in great spirits. Later a former librarian colleague/friend showed up as well. Lots of pic's were taken the whole day long!
Someone got the bright idea to ask me to serve as a judge in the Irish Stew cookoff contest so I was somehow able to do that; then I took off for home before I got drunker and once home I proceeded to pass out on my couch for a couple hours. In fact, since my phone was inadvertently left on vibrate it vibrated off the couch onto the floor while I was sleeping it off and people were trying to call me, including sweet Stefano! But it all worked out b/c when I finally woke up it was perfect timing for me and Stefano to go to the Last Concert for Rozzy's b-day party gig. We had sangria and nachos there and saw a lot of friends and musical peeps.
Sunday was going to be our Superbowl party together! We went shopping for dinner and snack items. We decided on boiled shrimp, brie, olive tampanade, steak, twice baked potatoes, portabello mushrooms, beer, Texas whisky, and pints of local famous ice cream from Hank's for dessert. Shit, I just realized I must be happy these days b/c I am actually writing about FOOD. Holy sheep shit. Anyway... so I commenced w/drinking the Texas whisky by early afternoon and relaxing and reading the papers and "sort of" watching the pregame shit while Stefano, or as I call him, Mr. Wonderful, cooked and grilled and took care of everything! What can I say but... we had a truly awesome fun day w/each other and of course our favored team the Saints won and then I stayed the night b/c we just wanted to extend the weekend as long as we possibly could!
Couple of by the ways... I got to hear the 5 finished songs off Stefano's band's CD and they sound very good and clean and polished. Makes me feel like I can't wait to hear our CD. Also, DA kept texting me during the pregame shows to ask if I would please reconsider coming over to his dad's superbowl party and how sorry he was and how much they all miss me and how lonely it is for him to not talk to me anymore, etc. etc. But all I responded was how sorry I am that he was so mean to me. DA will learn that this is why blues songs are written, how people regret treating their loved ones like shit and so the loved ones ending up LEAVING!!! It sucks but it's a fact of life!
Beginning w/Thursday night: George was in a depressed mood due to the death of his uncle the day before so we surely did go out after rehearsal to the icehouse. The boys had little patience to hear of my troubles w/DA, which got progressively worse as Thursday went on and he had now sent me some nasty emails and text messages, even going so low as to call me names like "psycho" b/c I de-friended his mean ass from my Facebook friends. Leo asked why was I even worried about this shit and he's got a point. But it still hurts me that DA could turn right around and be so mean and hateful towards me just so he can lash out b/c HE'S hurt. Thin line between love and hate, isn't there??? Anyway, so we as a band talked about the future and drank and philosophized. Leo got drunk (at least, I hope he was drunk) and was acting very naughty the whole night long. He and I made some private personal plans of our own and all I can say is, I'm looking forward to seeing how those pan out!
Friday was a nice sedate work from home day. After a quick run by Job #2 in the evening I got myself to Stefano's toot suite and he made stir fry shrimp and noodles for us. I brought a heart-shaped cheesecake topped w/strawberries that I got at La Mad. We drank Reisling and settled in for a long warm cuddly night w/each other. Sat. morning he made us a breakfast of scrambled egg whites and then we had to bid adeui to each other so I could get ready for my gig and he could get to the studio to begin mixing some of his band's CD. Although Leo was against my plan to get my haircut before the gig, I indeed made an appt. to do so and she styled me right up with sexy "performance hair." I just knew that after an afternoon of playing and drinking a lot there's no way in hell I'd want to leave the festivities and go get my hair cut!
The gig was fun and the mood was celebratory. The sun was actually FINALLY shining and it was just a great day to be outside, even if poor George was extremely hungover and drinking water. Li'l bro showed up w/his friend; my cousin showed up w/her husband; and the mutual friend I now have w/J2 showed up w/his wife and we finally got to meet live and in person! I was drinking vodka and Sprite and kissing hands and shaking babies before playing so by the time we finally got up I was in great spirits. Later a former librarian colleague/friend showed up as well. Lots of pic's were taken the whole day long!
Someone got the bright idea to ask me to serve as a judge in the Irish Stew cookoff contest so I was somehow able to do that; then I took off for home before I got drunker and once home I proceeded to pass out on my couch for a couple hours. In fact, since my phone was inadvertently left on vibrate it vibrated off the couch onto the floor while I was sleeping it off and people were trying to call me, including sweet Stefano! But it all worked out b/c when I finally woke up it was perfect timing for me and Stefano to go to the Last Concert for Rozzy's b-day party gig. We had sangria and nachos there and saw a lot of friends and musical peeps.
Sunday was going to be our Superbowl party together! We went shopping for dinner and snack items. We decided on boiled shrimp, brie, olive tampanade, steak, twice baked potatoes, portabello mushrooms, beer, Texas whisky, and pints of local famous ice cream from Hank's for dessert. Shit, I just realized I must be happy these days b/c I am actually writing about FOOD. Holy sheep shit. Anyway... so I commenced w/drinking the Texas whisky by early afternoon and relaxing and reading the papers and "sort of" watching the pregame shit while Stefano, or as I call him, Mr. Wonderful, cooked and grilled and took care of everything! What can I say but... we had a truly awesome fun day w/each other and of course our favored team the Saints won and then I stayed the night b/c we just wanted to extend the weekend as long as we possibly could!
Couple of by the ways... I got to hear the 5 finished songs off Stefano's band's CD and they sound very good and clean and polished. Makes me feel like I can't wait to hear our CD. Also, DA kept texting me during the pregame shows to ask if I would please reconsider coming over to his dad's superbowl party and how sorry he was and how much they all miss me and how lonely it is for him to not talk to me anymore, etc. etc. But all I responded was how sorry I am that he was so mean to me. DA will learn that this is why blues songs are written, how people regret treating their loved ones like shit and so the loved ones ending up LEAVING!!! It sucks but it's a fact of life!
Thursday, February 04, 2010
The Talk
Well hell, I am a little sad today. DA tried to call me several times yesterday and I didn't want to talk to him, also I was trying to think of how to word what I needed to say to him. Finally I answered as I was entering the park for my cold evening run in the rain. 1st off the bat he said that he talked to his grandma (the Mexican one that likes me) and she said she was looking forward to seeing me on Sunday at the superbowl party. Shit. Anyway, I told DA that I thought it would be best for both of us to take some time off of seeing each other so we can both reflect on our relationship and how or if we want things to progress--the usual textbook verbiage in this situation. He became a little argumentative, saying he didn't believe in "taking time off" and that I was "overreacting" and that I probably just didn't care about him. Oh my God--but I was too tired and exasperated to yell and scream in my defense so I just calmly stated my position and got off the phone w/him asap so I could go for my run. I only ran about a mile b/c I wasn't dressed nearly warm enough for the cold rainy weather but it was a good mile, very therapeutic. I felt very blueswoman, running in the rain like that.
When I got home I had already been formulating an angry song in my head about our conversation and it pretty much wrote itself. It's called "Quit Arguing With Me" (might change it to "Don't Argue With Me"). Later that evening I saw that he had sent me an email message. It was a long one and he finally came to his senses and agreed about taking some time off and also that he admits he's always been jealous that I have someone else in my life and that's why he hasn't been the best boyfriend he could be. It was a sweet, mature email and I'm glad he redeemed himself. I sent a nice one back, apologizing for hurting him and that I was sorry I'm going through a tough life transition right now where I have to focus on myself, possibly to the detriment and pain of others. I also said I don't know what's going to happen to us but that it's really not fair for me to expect anything from him anymore. I will definitely miss him and I'm totally regretful things turned out this way. But I honestly didn't expect for either him or Stefano to turn into boyfriend material. I didn't have any plans for either of them except for me to enjoy them and have a good time with them.
For some reason DA called me this afternoon but I did not answer and he didn't leave a message. I don't know what's up with that, but time off means time off. I already took his picture down in my office. Sniffle!
Stefano meanwhile continues to be the sweetest, most romantic adorable thing! He suggested us hooking up last night b/c he wanted to bring me flowers and also keep me warm, but I had to go on my run and although we briefly discussed him staying over I'd have had to get up at 4am with him in order to click him out. I hate how our schedules are so disparate, how he's such an early bird and I'm such a night owl. But whatever. I will definitely be on the lookout for another boytoy/manfriend/fuckbuddy asap b/c as much as I adore Stefano I need more attention/affection in terms of quantity than he can give me. Bad timing/scheduling, man, and there's nothing that can ever be done about that!
Rehearsal tonight and I just want it to be short and sweet. We're just gonna go over the CD songs as we're just doing an hour set on Saturday. Maybe the guys will want to go to the icehouse for beers afterwards; I'd love to run these men problems past them. Tomorrow I am SO glad to be working from home!!! My face is finally starting to clear up--Jesus!
When I got home I had already been formulating an angry song in my head about our conversation and it pretty much wrote itself. It's called "Quit Arguing With Me" (might change it to "Don't Argue With Me"). Later that evening I saw that he had sent me an email message. It was a long one and he finally came to his senses and agreed about taking some time off and also that he admits he's always been jealous that I have someone else in my life and that's why he hasn't been the best boyfriend he could be. It was a sweet, mature email and I'm glad he redeemed himself. I sent a nice one back, apologizing for hurting him and that I was sorry I'm going through a tough life transition right now where I have to focus on myself, possibly to the detriment and pain of others. I also said I don't know what's going to happen to us but that it's really not fair for me to expect anything from him anymore. I will definitely miss him and I'm totally regretful things turned out this way. But I honestly didn't expect for either him or Stefano to turn into boyfriend material. I didn't have any plans for either of them except for me to enjoy them and have a good time with them.
For some reason DA called me this afternoon but I did not answer and he didn't leave a message. I don't know what's up with that, but time off means time off. I already took his picture down in my office. Sniffle!
Stefano meanwhile continues to be the sweetest, most romantic adorable thing! He suggested us hooking up last night b/c he wanted to bring me flowers and also keep me warm, but I had to go on my run and although we briefly discussed him staying over I'd have had to get up at 4am with him in order to click him out. I hate how our schedules are so disparate, how he's such an early bird and I'm such a night owl. But whatever. I will definitely be on the lookout for another boytoy/manfriend/fuckbuddy asap b/c as much as I adore Stefano I need more attention/affection in terms of quantity than he can give me. Bad timing/scheduling, man, and there's nothing that can ever be done about that!
Rehearsal tonight and I just want it to be short and sweet. We're just gonna go over the CD songs as we're just doing an hour set on Saturday. Maybe the guys will want to go to the icehouse for beers afterwards; I'd love to run these men problems past them. Tomorrow I am SO glad to be working from home!!! My face is finally starting to clear up--Jesus!
Wednesday, February 03, 2010
It's Complicated
So I am considering breaking up w/DA or at least telling him to leave me alone for awhile. I am ultra-sensitive these days and I have every right to tell people that treat me less-than-lovingly to take a walk off a short pier and hug an octopus. It's my world after all, and frankly you gotta be pretty fucking special to be allowed into it!!!
Meanwhile Stefano texts me every morning telling me how beautiful/hot/talented/smart/etc etc I am and how much he misses/craves/adores etc etc me. This a.m. he called to go over our Chicago itinerary before he booked the plane tix and hotel. God, he is so awesome!!! I texted him asking him if he's "heaven-sent" and he texted back that *I* was. He's so incredible and wonderful!!! And he just called me a minute ago to gush about me some more. We'll be hanging out on Fri. night and he'll be making stir-fry for me and I got to pick what I wanted on it and he constantly says how much he loves to pamper me. He makes me so happy, all the time, everytime!
So why am I so upset about DA? Like J2 asked, what does he have to offer me besides weekday cuddling and 3 Stooges? Well, I love having sex w/him. And he really is funny when he's not being a moody little 24-year old. And I enjoy spending time w/him and his family, who all seem to like me a lot; I mean, they're always inviting me over to do stuff with them. And we really do have fun together. And I love having him as my weekday/Sunday night boyfriend since Stefano is limited to Friday/Saturdays. But yeah, his behavior has been less than desirable lately and it's making me feel a little over him. He needs to learn there are consequences to snapping at me in front of his brother and saying that I'm "annoying" just b/c I asked if he was going to finish his wine a couple of times. Later he said he had a headache and I said that explained why he was acting kind of grouchy all evening. He apologized 3 times for snapping at me but when I left I did so w/out giving him a hug or kiss. This a.m. he texted me and apologized again but I don't want to talk to him. He knows he's in trouble.
I don't know. I think at the very least I may want to take some time off from him. He needs to show better appreciation for having me in his life, me driving down to his house and spending my valuable time with him. And if he doesn't straighten up then that's fine too. I can always find another boyfriend to replace him.
Meanwhile Stefano texts me every morning telling me how beautiful/hot/talented/smart/etc etc I am and how much he misses/craves/adores etc etc me. This a.m. he called to go over our Chicago itinerary before he booked the plane tix and hotel. God, he is so awesome!!! I texted him asking him if he's "heaven-sent" and he texted back that *I* was. He's so incredible and wonderful!!! And he just called me a minute ago to gush about me some more. We'll be hanging out on Fri. night and he'll be making stir-fry for me and I got to pick what I wanted on it and he constantly says how much he loves to pamper me. He makes me so happy, all the time, everytime!
So why am I so upset about DA? Like J2 asked, what does he have to offer me besides weekday cuddling and 3 Stooges? Well, I love having sex w/him. And he really is funny when he's not being a moody little 24-year old. And I enjoy spending time w/him and his family, who all seem to like me a lot; I mean, they're always inviting me over to do stuff with them. And we really do have fun together. And I love having him as my weekday/Sunday night boyfriend since Stefano is limited to Friday/Saturdays. But yeah, his behavior has been less than desirable lately and it's making me feel a little over him. He needs to learn there are consequences to snapping at me in front of his brother and saying that I'm "annoying" just b/c I asked if he was going to finish his wine a couple of times. Later he said he had a headache and I said that explained why he was acting kind of grouchy all evening. He apologized 3 times for snapping at me but when I left I did so w/out giving him a hug or kiss. This a.m. he texted me and apologized again but I don't want to talk to him. He knows he's in trouble.
I don't know. I think at the very least I may want to take some time off from him. He needs to show better appreciation for having me in his life, me driving down to his house and spending my valuable time with him. And if he doesn't straighten up then that's fine too. I can always find another boyfriend to replace him.
Monday, February 01, 2010
Dese Past 4 Days Have Been the Bomb
Friday I called in again to work. I have this damn acne infection on my face and I was hoping another day of REAL R&R would help, but it didn't very much. Oh well. I did spend most of the day in bed and watched this amazing documentary, Lake of Fire. Also I read a little bit and got a good amount of relaxing in. Anyway, Friday evening Stefano came to pick me up so we could go to his parents' synagogue to see their 53rd wedding anniversary announced. The service was in a small classroom-sized room and all it was really was, was singing. The cantor was awesome though! I have always recognized what a musical people the Jews are, for real! I sang along when I could which was not very much, heh. Unfortunately someone missed the boat on the announcement b/c Stefano's 'rents were completely overlooked, which upset all of us! But then we went to eat at one of their fave sushi restaurants so that made up for a lot. Stefano and I drank sake and his 'rents had a couple of beers. His 'rents were so cute and fun and interesting and Stefano told me today that his mother said I was "charming"! After dinner I gave both his 'rents hugs and then Stefano and I went to my house to settle in for the night.
Saturday a.m. Stefano had to leave early b/c his harmonica player was totally nervous about the 2 days of recording their CD and insisted on meeting him for an early breakfast. I guess I have recorded enough that it doesn't faze me really. Stefano was also not nervous. Damn amatuer harp players! I went on patrol by 1500 hrs. and worked w/my FTO pal again. It was soooo cold outside that I didn't have high hopes for anything exciting and I was pretty right. We had one pursuit but we got there after the turds crashed out and were already cuffed and thrown in the patrol car. I found a blue bandanna on the ground and made sure to stand on it and kick it and stomp on it to show exactly what I think of those worthless fuckin' Crips.
I left patrol early so I could go pick up DA and get to my house, change, shower, and get to the Big Easy for the Alan Haynes show. It was SOOOOO packed, I couldn't believe it! I was a little concerned about any of my Big Easy musician peeps seeing me w/another guy that was not Stefano (B/c they're his peeps too), but it was so crowded hopefully nobody got too good a look at me. DA and I had a good time drinking and watching from the dance floor and cuddling/dancing a little. We got back to my house not too late, driving through Jack in the Box on the way home. I got some fried mozzarella and some breakfast biscuits for the next morning. Earlier that day I had bought a tablecloth for the dining room table and DA wanted to eat in there, so we did before we hit the sheets. It was kinda fun and quaint eating in the dining room! It does look kinda nice now, since J. had put out the pretty placemats and napkins.
Sunday we slept in sooooo late, it was so wonderful. We had a busy day ahead of us: finish watching the Mike Tyson documentary; exchanging it for Forgetting Sarah Marshall (DA had never seen); going to eat Mexican food near his house; going to Half Price Books; watching Sarah Marshall, and I wanted to see the Grammy's that night. We got most of it done except for 1/2 Price, but that place ain't going nowhere. We hung out at his house after eating and just lounged around. I got some texts from Stefano saying how well the recording had gone, which was awesome to hear. DA's dad invited me over next Sunday for a SuperBowl party, to which I accepted, and my policy is to accept the 1st invitation from either of my menfolk that comes through, so Stefano has now missed out if he wanted to invite me over. But this is the only fair way to handle my men's.
Stefano also told me that they will be mixing the CD next weekend, so he will have to miss my Saturday afternoon gig at the Continental; therefore I immediately invited DA and his parents, who I hadn't told about the gig b/c Stefano said he would be there. However today when Stefano called me he said he might be done early enough to still swing by my gig, but I am going to have to think of a nice way to say that I would prefer he didn't do that since DA will be there. Sigh. I also feel bad b/c Stefano asked me for my address today so he could send something to my house and pretty much hinted very strongly that it would be for Valentine's Day!!! Double sigh! Suggestions/comments will be accepted from anyone reading this, please! Hmm, perhaps I can get a song out of this too.
Of course... Leo is working on the music for my song I just wrote, "Constant Reminder" that is very much influenced by Stefano, and Stefano knows I wrote a song about/inspired by him. Today we made plans to hang out on Friday night, too. I started my next song, "Chocolate and Liquor" and the rhyming dictionary really helps me crank out these songs. Maybe tonight I'll work on it some more. Tomorrow night is Stooges night at DA's house again.
Saturday a.m. Stefano had to leave early b/c his harmonica player was totally nervous about the 2 days of recording their CD and insisted on meeting him for an early breakfast. I guess I have recorded enough that it doesn't faze me really. Stefano was also not nervous. Damn amatuer harp players! I went on patrol by 1500 hrs. and worked w/my FTO pal again. It was soooo cold outside that I didn't have high hopes for anything exciting and I was pretty right. We had one pursuit but we got there after the turds crashed out and were already cuffed and thrown in the patrol car. I found a blue bandanna on the ground and made sure to stand on it and kick it and stomp on it to show exactly what I think of those worthless fuckin' Crips.
I left patrol early so I could go pick up DA and get to my house, change, shower, and get to the Big Easy for the Alan Haynes show. It was SOOOOO packed, I couldn't believe it! I was a little concerned about any of my Big Easy musician peeps seeing me w/another guy that was not Stefano (B/c they're his peeps too), but it was so crowded hopefully nobody got too good a look at me. DA and I had a good time drinking and watching from the dance floor and cuddling/dancing a little. We got back to my house not too late, driving through Jack in the Box on the way home. I got some fried mozzarella and some breakfast biscuits for the next morning. Earlier that day I had bought a tablecloth for the dining room table and DA wanted to eat in there, so we did before we hit the sheets. It was kinda fun and quaint eating in the dining room! It does look kinda nice now, since J. had put out the pretty placemats and napkins.
Sunday we slept in sooooo late, it was so wonderful. We had a busy day ahead of us: finish watching the Mike Tyson documentary; exchanging it for Forgetting Sarah Marshall (DA had never seen); going to eat Mexican food near his house; going to Half Price Books; watching Sarah Marshall, and I wanted to see the Grammy's that night. We got most of it done except for 1/2 Price, but that place ain't going nowhere. We hung out at his house after eating and just lounged around. I got some texts from Stefano saying how well the recording had gone, which was awesome to hear. DA's dad invited me over next Sunday for a SuperBowl party, to which I accepted, and my policy is to accept the 1st invitation from either of my menfolk that comes through, so Stefano has now missed out if he wanted to invite me over. But this is the only fair way to handle my men's.
Stefano also told me that they will be mixing the CD next weekend, so he will have to miss my Saturday afternoon gig at the Continental; therefore I immediately invited DA and his parents, who I hadn't told about the gig b/c Stefano said he would be there. However today when Stefano called me he said he might be done early enough to still swing by my gig, but I am going to have to think of a nice way to say that I would prefer he didn't do that since DA will be there. Sigh. I also feel bad b/c Stefano asked me for my address today so he could send something to my house and pretty much hinted very strongly that it would be for Valentine's Day!!! Double sigh! Suggestions/comments will be accepted from anyone reading this, please! Hmm, perhaps I can get a song out of this too.
Of course... Leo is working on the music for my song I just wrote, "Constant Reminder" that is very much influenced by Stefano, and Stefano knows I wrote a song about/inspired by him. Today we made plans to hang out on Friday night, too. I started my next song, "Chocolate and Liquor" and the rhyming dictionary really helps me crank out these songs. Maybe tonight I'll work on it some more. Tomorrow night is Stooges night at DA's house again.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Mental Health Day
Today was a joyous day. I spent so long talking on the phone last night to DA that I was all wired up, also from sushi/sake w/L. that I didn't get to bed 'til around 2:30am. It was then that I realized I would be in no shape to go to Job #1 today and so I called in today to take the day off. I have SIX and a HALF weeks' paid SICK LEAVE and I deserve to be able to tap into that when necessary. Unfortunately I only slept in 'til 8am b/c Phillip had sent me an email saying he would be interviewing for a programmer job at my work and could we get together when he was done interviewing? Damn him! I sent him an email saying I had called in, and I wish I'd had advance notice of his interview; however to call me when he got done and if all went well he should come over for a congratulatory drink.
While waiting I tidied up around the house b/c Stefano had called me last night when he got home from taking his 'rents out to say that he'd told them he'd met a lot of my family this past weekend and guess what the 1st thing out of his mom's mouth was? I guessed correctly that she wanted to know when she was going to get to meet me! So he told me that their synagogue would be celebrating/announcing their 53rd wedding anniversary this Fri. night and if I was ready to meet them then maybe I could come and then we'd all go out to dinner afterwards. I said OF COURSE I was ready, and that that would be so delightful! So Stefano will pick me up at my house and we'll go do that tomorrow night, then we'll spend the night at my place. I can't wait to meet his 'rents! That shit never makes me nervous; parents always love me! Can you blame them!
So finally the big Phil called me and he came over and we proceeded to drain a whole bottle of Reisling from Australia. All I'd had to eat was 3 chocolate chip cookies that L. had made me and gave me last night at our sushi dinner. Then we decided to go grub on Mexican at a restaurant near my house, which was very enjoyable, esp. w/the frozen margaritas. Phillipo feels pretty good about getting an offer from my job and I really hope he does! That would be soooooo fun!!!
Now I'm at Job #2 killing 2 hrs so I'm free tomorrow eve. for the big meet Stefano's parents night! Tonight is rehearsal and after that I really, really need to try and get home and get some rest. I'm still buzzing from the wine/margarita afternoon so things are really mellow and happy right now!
While waiting I tidied up around the house b/c Stefano had called me last night when he got home from taking his 'rents out to say that he'd told them he'd met a lot of my family this past weekend and guess what the 1st thing out of his mom's mouth was? I guessed correctly that she wanted to know when she was going to get to meet me! So he told me that their synagogue would be celebrating/announcing their 53rd wedding anniversary this Fri. night and if I was ready to meet them then maybe I could come and then we'd all go out to dinner afterwards. I said OF COURSE I was ready, and that that would be so delightful! So Stefano will pick me up at my house and we'll go do that tomorrow night, then we'll spend the night at my place. I can't wait to meet his 'rents! That shit never makes me nervous; parents always love me! Can you blame them!
So finally the big Phil called me and he came over and we proceeded to drain a whole bottle of Reisling from Australia. All I'd had to eat was 3 chocolate chip cookies that L. had made me and gave me last night at our sushi dinner. Then we decided to go grub on Mexican at a restaurant near my house, which was very enjoyable, esp. w/the frozen margaritas. Phillipo feels pretty good about getting an offer from my job and I really hope he does! That would be soooooo fun!!!
Now I'm at Job #2 killing 2 hrs so I'm free tomorrow eve. for the big meet Stefano's parents night! Tonight is rehearsal and after that I really, really need to try and get home and get some rest. I'm still buzzing from the wine/margarita afternoon so things are really mellow and happy right now!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Chicaaaaago! Chicaaaago!
So I am going to CHICAGO on my birthday weekend!!! May 7-10 specifically, flying out on my actual b-day, Friday the 7th. With Stefano!!! To see my beloved Holmes Brothers in concert at a very hip, quaint lovely looking little theater!!! See, I had mentioned to Stefano recently that I was going to be seeing the Holmes Bros. in June at a festival in Virginia w/Bean and we decided that it would be way fun if he joined me on that trip. I emailed him the deets on Monday, and yesterday he called me to discuss. Apparently Stefano noticed that the HB's had listed many more tour dates on their website that I hadn't seen, and he suggested we go see them in Chicago b/c that is a city we had discussed visiting together someday. I was like, HELL yeah, and called Bean to throw out the idea to him as well although he said he'd have to think about it.
Today Stefano called me to say that last night he'd done some travel research and that the trip was totally doable so I said I wanted to buy the concert tickets NOW. I did so this morning and we are soooo going! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! He's so sweet too, he said b/c it's my b-day weekend he will get the plane tix and hotel. If he does that then I totally want to get most of our meals and the admission tix to the things I want to go do, such as the Art Institute and the Sears Tower. I have already been to the Field Museum but when I tried to go to the Sears Tower in October 2001 they were not letting anyone up there yet, so I must do it now! We also want to check out some great blues music/clubs and also go to Maxwell Street. Shit, this trip is gonna be crazy large FUN! And I'll still do Virginny in June w/the Sweet Dick P.
I hung out w/DA last night. I brought him some huge muffins that were leftover from Job #2. We went to the store b/c we wanted to buy some jeans. I got 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of slick slacks for work and he got a pair of jeans. Then we went to his house, drank wine, watched Three Stooges, and I was so tired from not getting enough sleep the past couple nights I passed out around 10:30p. But I had to wake up around midnight and go home. Disappointingly, he cannot hang out w/me this weekend after all b/c his restaurant called him and said they wanted him to work Thurs-Sat. I was a little miffed b/c we had made plans to hang out on Fri. night and also he had said he'd go w/me on Sat. night to see a Texas legendary guitarist Alan Haynes and now I don't know who I'll go with. Stefano will be busy recording his band's CD all day Sat.-Sun.--they booked 10-hour days, for real. However DA and I made plans to hang out on Sunday and today Stefano said we would hang out on Fri. night, go out to dinner and make it an early night at my house this time so he could leave on Sat. morning to be at the studio in the morning.
Looking forward to tonight which will be dinner w/L. at her fave sushi restaurant. I'm gonna have plenny of Sake and lotsa sushi! Stefano is taking his parents out tonight as it's their 53rd wedding anniversary! I am so glad I get to hang out w/him on Fri. b/c otherwise it was looking like I wasn't going to be able to see him at all this weekend and we all know how I adore him so.
Today Stefano called me to say that last night he'd done some travel research and that the trip was totally doable so I said I wanted to buy the concert tickets NOW. I did so this morning and we are soooo going! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! He's so sweet too, he said b/c it's my b-day weekend he will get the plane tix and hotel. If he does that then I totally want to get most of our meals and the admission tix to the things I want to go do, such as the Art Institute and the Sears Tower. I have already been to the Field Museum but when I tried to go to the Sears Tower in October 2001 they were not letting anyone up there yet, so I must do it now! We also want to check out some great blues music/clubs and also go to Maxwell Street. Shit, this trip is gonna be crazy large FUN! And I'll still do Virginny in June w/the Sweet Dick P.
I hung out w/DA last night. I brought him some huge muffins that were leftover from Job #2. We went to the store b/c we wanted to buy some jeans. I got 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of slick slacks for work and he got a pair of jeans. Then we went to his house, drank wine, watched Three Stooges, and I was so tired from not getting enough sleep the past couple nights I passed out around 10:30p. But I had to wake up around midnight and go home. Disappointingly, he cannot hang out w/me this weekend after all b/c his restaurant called him and said they wanted him to work Thurs-Sat. I was a little miffed b/c we had made plans to hang out on Fri. night and also he had said he'd go w/me on Sat. night to see a Texas legendary guitarist Alan Haynes and now I don't know who I'll go with. Stefano will be busy recording his band's CD all day Sat.-Sun.--they booked 10-hour days, for real. However DA and I made plans to hang out on Sunday and today Stefano said we would hang out on Fri. night, go out to dinner and make it an early night at my house this time so he could leave on Sat. morning to be at the studio in the morning.
Looking forward to tonight which will be dinner w/L. at her fave sushi restaurant. I'm gonna have plenny of Sake and lotsa sushi! Stefano is taking his parents out tonight as it's their 53rd wedding anniversary! I am so glad I get to hang out w/him on Fri. b/c otherwise it was looking like I wasn't going to be able to see him at all this weekend and we all know how I adore him so.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Wrote a Song
I bought me a spiral notebook and some pens from the .99 cent store (receipt to be saved and the cost written off next year--chuckle!) and wrote down a song I wrote primarily in the shower. It's about/inspired by Stefano and it's called "Constant Reminder." He said he'd write the music to it if I wanted but he doesn't know it's about him and now I'm too embarrassed to give it to him. Maybe I'll see if Leo wants to write the music to it, or maybe I'll drag out my guitar and do it myself. I still need to write my other songs: one about chocolate and booze, and one inspired by my old bulletproof vest. I also still want to write a hate song in the vein of Dylan's "Idiot Wind" inspired by all the mean, selfish asshole jerks I've had to deal with lately (S, R. Roo, my aunts, etc.).
Good meeting last night although S was there--I have had the pleasure of not laying eyes on him since October! I tried to speak w/him briefly in the parking lot since his (Mano's) motorcycle was parked 2 spaces from my car and he walked right past me as I was driving out, but he kept his head down and ignored me. He's an immature, uncivilized asshole and I know I need to just forget about his sorry ass and LET IT GO. I went out to eat w/Mudflap and the gang and we had a good time and I ate almost all my enchiladas. Then I had to run by the store to get a big lightbulb for the upstairs bathroom but 2 stores didn't have it. Mudflap said to go to that hellhole BallsMart so I did, at 10pm. I guess that dump is not so bad when it's late and not teeming with the great unwashed. I also bought a big bag of peanut M&M's to take the edge off, and some bathroom accessories.
2nd and last day of all-day-Job #2 today. The accreditation visit has gone well and they spoke to me this a.m. I am Super-Librarian and got my elevator speech DOWN, man. I can't wait 'til tonight when I can go to DA's house and kiss him and cuddle w/him and have sex on his recliner! I may have to write a song about him too. It won't be nearly as mushy as the one I wrote for Stefano though.
This a.m. while driving into work they were talking on the popular radio show about women who date much-older men and what they have in common. I decided to call and tell my story, how I'm dating a 24-yo and a 48-yo and how I have different things in common w/each of them. It took me 3 tries to get through b/c the line was busy, but then they put me on 1st thing, calling me "Gigi" since I didn't want to give my name! They asked which one was better in bed (people always want to know that!) and I said they're both great but different. I said how at my age, 37, I still love to go out and do "young, fun" things which is where DA is a great companion, but as a professional woman I also love to do classy things like go to the symphony, nice restaurants, etc. which is where Stefano comes in. Honestly though, it's my lowbrow activities that I share w/DA, such as eating junk food and watching stupid tv shows and movies--things that I probably couldn't do w/Stefano. But I also need Stefano and his sophistication for my highbrow activities--fancy restaurants, indie movies, etc.! I mean I could probably cross over certain low/highbrow activities between the 2 men, but I just wouldn't feel as comfortable. Things are great the way they are now, and the radio DJ's even asked me that, if I was going to eventually pick one of them and be exclusive but I said I was not ready to do that and didn't know when/if I'd be ready.
Good meeting last night although S was there--I have had the pleasure of not laying eyes on him since October! I tried to speak w/him briefly in the parking lot since his (Mano's) motorcycle was parked 2 spaces from my car and he walked right past me as I was driving out, but he kept his head down and ignored me. He's an immature, uncivilized asshole and I know I need to just forget about his sorry ass and LET IT GO. I went out to eat w/Mudflap and the gang and we had a good time and I ate almost all my enchiladas. Then I had to run by the store to get a big lightbulb for the upstairs bathroom but 2 stores didn't have it. Mudflap said to go to that hellhole BallsMart so I did, at 10pm. I guess that dump is not so bad when it's late and not teeming with the great unwashed. I also bought a big bag of peanut M&M's to take the edge off, and some bathroom accessories.
2nd and last day of all-day-Job #2 today. The accreditation visit has gone well and they spoke to me this a.m. I am Super-Librarian and got my elevator speech DOWN, man. I can't wait 'til tonight when I can go to DA's house and kiss him and cuddle w/him and have sex on his recliner! I may have to write a song about him too. It won't be nearly as mushy as the one I wrote for Stefano though.
This a.m. while driving into work they were talking on the popular radio show about women who date much-older men and what they have in common. I decided to call and tell my story, how I'm dating a 24-yo and a 48-yo and how I have different things in common w/each of them. It took me 3 tries to get through b/c the line was busy, but then they put me on 1st thing, calling me "Gigi" since I didn't want to give my name! They asked which one was better in bed (people always want to know that!) and I said they're both great but different. I said how at my age, 37, I still love to go out and do "young, fun" things which is where DA is a great companion, but as a professional woman I also love to do classy things like go to the symphony, nice restaurants, etc. which is where Stefano comes in. Honestly though, it's my lowbrow activities that I share w/DA, such as eating junk food and watching stupid tv shows and movies--things that I probably couldn't do w/Stefano. But I also need Stefano and his sophistication for my highbrow activities--fancy restaurants, indie movies, etc.! I mean I could probably cross over certain low/highbrow activities between the 2 men, but I just wouldn't feel as comfortable. Things are great the way they are now, and the radio DJ's even asked me that, if I was going to eventually pick one of them and be exclusive but I said I was not ready to do that and didn't know when/if I'd be ready.
Monday, January 25, 2010
This Weekend? Oh jes...
As in it was another excellent, stellar weekend. Man, oh man... Friday was way fun as I picked DA up from his house and we went to see Up in the Air. Really good movie, and DA totally enjoyed it as I knew we both would! Since it was the 7p showing we had plenty of time afterwards back at his place to hang out w/his parents and their friends and DA's dad brought out their Mexican family's tequila that they manufacture and I had a shot of that which was delicious; then I began drinking Canadian whisky w/them. DA was hungry (he's always hungry) so he made some snacks, we nibbled a little, then I wanted to go to his room and watch The Wrestler, which we attempted to do but were unsuccessful. The next morning we slept as late as possible which was only til about 10:30 am, and when I awoke my head was pounding pretty bad from the whisky. This also happened to me back in November, so I think maybe whisky is a bad booze culprit for me! I drove DA to find some slacks/pants that he would need to wear to his cousin's wedding later that day. I also bought a nice candle for my den and some peppermint shortbread, yum. Then we went to buy kolaches for his folks and brother and I paid since his parents are always so hospitable to me. After that I had to head home to get ready for my day w/Stefano.
Stefano picked me up and we went to see Crazy Heart; I treated him since it was my idea, also since Leo would be paying me later that day at the gig. The movie was really good and it was even partly filmed in Houston! Afterwards we came back to my place to rest for a couple of hours and we tried to watch the documentary Tyson, but we were mostly unsuccessful since we had both really missed each other from not seeing each other for 6 days! Soon we had to load up my gear in Stefano's Lexus and head to the gig. My dad, his girlfriend, my Aunt P. and Uncle J. and my li'l brother and his girlfriend were all there so Stefano got to meet all of them (well, he'd met my bro at my Rudz gig in Dec.). Stefano even bought a round of drinks for my dad and his g-friend which was so sweet.
Our gig went well except for the power was iffy so we played w/no lights on us; also the cops showed up twice due to noise complaints and I had to go talk to 'em and ask 'em to lay off, which they did. Rozzy showed up which was great to see! We played 2 solid hours--Leo kept asking me if I wanted to take a break which I didn't so we just played straight through. We even got my Uncle up so he could sing "Red House" w/us, which was so fun and I know tickled him to death that we got him up there! I am hoping to see all the pic's soon, which hopefully will be posted on FB any day now. Stefano and I even got some of the 2 of us together!
After the gig we said our goodbyes and went to Tapatia to grab some grub. While walking into the restaurant I heard someone call my name and it was Jimmy, my old bandmate! He was just leaving and I introduced him to Stefano, and Jimmy gifted me w/his new CD which I was totally delighted to see and get! After a nice light dinner of shared nachos and NO more drinking (I'd had my flask at the gig and also people bought me 2 beers so I'd definitely had enough for the night) we went to Stefano's house and settled in for an early night.
I slept late late late on Sunday and it was a beautiful sunny day! Stefano had gotten up early to throw a bunch of meat on his grill as his bandmates were coming over later to rehearse for their upcoming CD recording. We had a lazy morning together and then I had to get home to get ready for the finish of my CD recording with Leo. We had 4 songs we absolutely had to re-record, and I hit a bad note in one song that needed to be punched in. It was a little frustrating but I think we finally got everything in the can, although "Rude Mood" was pretty rough on all of us. Damn, that song is a workout and it really kind of hurts! My left wrist tendons were aching and George's left shin was hurting bad. But after 5-6 attempts I think we got something we can all live with.
DA had called me earlier asking if I would come to his parents' friend's house (the same friends that had been there on Fri. night) for a steak and shrimp cookout. I had said I didn't know if I could b/c of the recording session, but we were actually done in only a couple of hours, thank GOD! But I had also promised Stefano I'd swing by his house so he could give me a doggie bag of all the meat he'd been cooking up that day too! So I raced to Stefano's house and sat and enjoyed a beer w/him and his drummer (the rest of the band was gone by then), then I bid them adieu, gave Stefano lots of kisses, took my doggie bag home and dropped off the ribs and chicken (1st taking a bite of ribs b/c I was quite hungry--YUMMMMMM!), grabbed a bottle of Reisling from my fridge and then raced over to DA's friend's house which was only about a 20 min. drive from me.
When I arrived they hadn't even begun eating yet so all this racing around served me well. They were watching football of course but they were fast-forwarding through it which I thoroughly enjoyed! The shrimp was deliciously seasoned (DA's idea to use Italian seasoning on it), also the asparagus and potatoes and the steak was a nice pink medium rare. We grubbed, drank, watched a little football, and then DA and I decided to head to his house before the end of the game. Back at his place we again attempted to watch The Wrestler and actually got through some of it, but not all of it. Finally I bid adeiu to DA and headed home, promising of course to return on Tuesday for our Three Stooges night.
Today and tomorrow I am at Job #2 all day for our accreditation visit. So far it's nice and quiet and sedate and I got all the new Vet Tech books catalogued, labeled, and on the shelves at the end of last week. I'm just sitting here in the library waiting for further notification of anything. At lunchtime I'll probably go do a little shopping as I need just a couple items for the house (new trash can, new toilet brush, etc.) and there's plenty good shopping 'round here. Tonight is the 1st monthly sheriff's meeting of the year and I'll have time after work to go home, get my Taser for the annual download, and change into something comfortable. After the meeting hopefully we'll all go to dinner like we usually do, so I am going to be strategic today w/my appetite. I am hoping not to have to lay eyes on S, ugh. I am so ready to be over that whole situation. I have decided to start spending the time when I am in the shower writing songs and I began one yesterday about Stefano b/c he's been so wonderful in my life and has been such an incredible friend and everything else.
Stefano picked me up and we went to see Crazy Heart; I treated him since it was my idea, also since Leo would be paying me later that day at the gig. The movie was really good and it was even partly filmed in Houston! Afterwards we came back to my place to rest for a couple of hours and we tried to watch the documentary Tyson, but we were mostly unsuccessful since we had both really missed each other from not seeing each other for 6 days! Soon we had to load up my gear in Stefano's Lexus and head to the gig. My dad, his girlfriend, my Aunt P. and Uncle J. and my li'l brother and his girlfriend were all there so Stefano got to meet all of them (well, he'd met my bro at my Rudz gig in Dec.). Stefano even bought a round of drinks for my dad and his g-friend which was so sweet.
Our gig went well except for the power was iffy so we played w/no lights on us; also the cops showed up twice due to noise complaints and I had to go talk to 'em and ask 'em to lay off, which they did. Rozzy showed up which was great to see! We played 2 solid hours--Leo kept asking me if I wanted to take a break which I didn't so we just played straight through. We even got my Uncle up so he could sing "Red House" w/us, which was so fun and I know tickled him to death that we got him up there! I am hoping to see all the pic's soon, which hopefully will be posted on FB any day now. Stefano and I even got some of the 2 of us together!
After the gig we said our goodbyes and went to Tapatia to grab some grub. While walking into the restaurant I heard someone call my name and it was Jimmy, my old bandmate! He was just leaving and I introduced him to Stefano, and Jimmy gifted me w/his new CD which I was totally delighted to see and get! After a nice light dinner of shared nachos and NO more drinking (I'd had my flask at the gig and also people bought me 2 beers so I'd definitely had enough for the night) we went to Stefano's house and settled in for an early night.
I slept late late late on Sunday and it was a beautiful sunny day! Stefano had gotten up early to throw a bunch of meat on his grill as his bandmates were coming over later to rehearse for their upcoming CD recording. We had a lazy morning together and then I had to get home to get ready for the finish of my CD recording with Leo. We had 4 songs we absolutely had to re-record, and I hit a bad note in one song that needed to be punched in. It was a little frustrating but I think we finally got everything in the can, although "Rude Mood" was pretty rough on all of us. Damn, that song is a workout and it really kind of hurts! My left wrist tendons were aching and George's left shin was hurting bad. But after 5-6 attempts I think we got something we can all live with.
DA had called me earlier asking if I would come to his parents' friend's house (the same friends that had been there on Fri. night) for a steak and shrimp cookout. I had said I didn't know if I could b/c of the recording session, but we were actually done in only a couple of hours, thank GOD! But I had also promised Stefano I'd swing by his house so he could give me a doggie bag of all the meat he'd been cooking up that day too! So I raced to Stefano's house and sat and enjoyed a beer w/him and his drummer (the rest of the band was gone by then), then I bid them adieu, gave Stefano lots of kisses, took my doggie bag home and dropped off the ribs and chicken (1st taking a bite of ribs b/c I was quite hungry--YUMMMMMM!), grabbed a bottle of Reisling from my fridge and then raced over to DA's friend's house which was only about a 20 min. drive from me.
When I arrived they hadn't even begun eating yet so all this racing around served me well. They were watching football of course but they were fast-forwarding through it which I thoroughly enjoyed! The shrimp was deliciously seasoned (DA's idea to use Italian seasoning on it), also the asparagus and potatoes and the steak was a nice pink medium rare. We grubbed, drank, watched a little football, and then DA and I decided to head to his house before the end of the game. Back at his place we again attempted to watch The Wrestler and actually got through some of it, but not all of it. Finally I bid adeiu to DA and headed home, promising of course to return on Tuesday for our Three Stooges night.
Today and tomorrow I am at Job #2 all day for our accreditation visit. So far it's nice and quiet and sedate and I got all the new Vet Tech books catalogued, labeled, and on the shelves at the end of last week. I'm just sitting here in the library waiting for further notification of anything. At lunchtime I'll probably go do a little shopping as I need just a couple items for the house (new trash can, new toilet brush, etc.) and there's plenty good shopping 'round here. Tonight is the 1st monthly sheriff's meeting of the year and I'll have time after work to go home, get my Taser for the annual download, and change into something comfortable. After the meeting hopefully we'll all go to dinner like we usually do, so I am going to be strategic today w/my appetite. I am hoping not to have to lay eyes on S, ugh. I am so ready to be over that whole situation. I have decided to start spending the time when I am in the shower writing songs and I began one yesterday about Stefano b/c he's been so wonderful in my life and has been such an incredible friend and everything else.
Friday, January 22, 2010
Friday.... Ahhhhhh....
What a good feeling! And it's so nice and sunny and beginning to warm up here again in wonderful, fun, fabulous, soulful H-town!!! I am excited that I am FREE after Job #1 today and I just gotta rush home and change and shower and then get to DA's house so we can go see the 7p showing of Up in the Air. Then we'll hang out at his house and I would like to finally get some drinks in me, and then I'll spend the night.
Tomorrow morning I'll head back home and get ready for a long, fun, romantic day w/Stefano! We'll go to the 2p showing of Crazy Heart and then I've got my gig that evening. After that who knows what we'll do, but of course we'll eventually end up at his place for more drinking and merriment!
Sunday he'll be rehearsing w/his band for their upcoming CD recording and I'm due back in the studio that afternoon so we can re-record some of our songs and tweak some others.
J. is about 99% done w/my townhouse. She just has to do some minor touch ups but the place is really starting to look good. I still have to do some re-arranging though. Stefano has offered to help me w/the back patio project: plants, cactus and such to make it look pretty and green back there. I am going to try and sell as much of S's stuff as I can b/c I am tired of it being there and he seemingly doesn't give a shit about it anyway.
P.S. Last night was kinda strange. Leo texted that our rehearsal was cancelled due to a plumbing prob. that George had to deal with. It was awesome to have an evening free and I felt giddy about the prospect! But when I was at home relaxing/reading the mail/watching Celebrity Rehab/tidying up, suddenly I got some flashbacks of my home as it used to be and who used to be in it. And I felt sad and somewhat lonely. I called DA and he said to imagine him there and it's true that I am working hard on creating new memories in that house and that's definitely one of the reasons for the remodel. But the flashbacks can hit at any moment and it was so weird thinking that I have this incredibly rich, fun life w/2 adoring boyfriends and yet I can still feel lonely in my own home b/c of how things used to be. I wish I had time to read so I could read some of the divorce books I have at my disposal, but in fact I have not had time to crack open a book for months now.
Tomorrow morning I'll head back home and get ready for a long, fun, romantic day w/Stefano! We'll go to the 2p showing of Crazy Heart and then I've got my gig that evening. After that who knows what we'll do, but of course we'll eventually end up at his place for more drinking and merriment!
Sunday he'll be rehearsing w/his band for their upcoming CD recording and I'm due back in the studio that afternoon so we can re-record some of our songs and tweak some others.
J. is about 99% done w/my townhouse. She just has to do some minor touch ups but the place is really starting to look good. I still have to do some re-arranging though. Stefano has offered to help me w/the back patio project: plants, cactus and such to make it look pretty and green back there. I am going to try and sell as much of S's stuff as I can b/c I am tired of it being there and he seemingly doesn't give a shit about it anyway.
P.S. Last night was kinda strange. Leo texted that our rehearsal was cancelled due to a plumbing prob. that George had to deal with. It was awesome to have an evening free and I felt giddy about the prospect! But when I was at home relaxing/reading the mail/watching Celebrity Rehab/tidying up, suddenly I got some flashbacks of my home as it used to be and who used to be in it. And I felt sad and somewhat lonely. I called DA and he said to imagine him there and it's true that I am working hard on creating new memories in that house and that's definitely one of the reasons for the remodel. But the flashbacks can hit at any moment and it was so weird thinking that I have this incredibly rich, fun life w/2 adoring boyfriends and yet I can still feel lonely in my own home b/c of how things used to be. I wish I had time to read so I could read some of the divorce books I have at my disposal, but in fact I have not had time to crack open a book for months now.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
This Past Weekend? Ahhhhhhh......
As in, oh yes...very nice! Extremely wonderful. Plenty of fun-filled activities! With both my menfolks, though Stefano got the bulk of my time which I was happy to give him.
So Friday I went to his place and we headed to the Big Easy to see our friend's band play. They are about to go to Memphis this week to represent Houston in the W.C. Handy blues contest. We said hi to a bunch of folks, danced, drank, and at the end of the 1st set we headed to the Continental for Papa Grows Funk. Unfortunately there were a bunch of juveniles (college age kids) there and I didn't quite understand why. Strangely there is also a new club on the block that is geared towards these kids as well. Bizarre that they would be located there. The band was great, although I wasn't getting into it as much as I usually do. The children and Stefano were both kinda distracting. We didn't stay too long and headed back home.
Saturday we slept in, which is always so blissful for me. But I had to get up at a somewhat decent hour to go on patrol. First I ran by the drugstore to pick up a mustache grooming kit and a birthday card for my Popo, then I went to his house. My aunt who hates me showed up and I was a little amazed at how nasty and bitter she still is; damn, get over it already! Oh well, it's her toxic life and she has to live it. Me and my mom took some pictures w/Popo, then I headed to patrol. I worked w/the fun FTO I worked with once last month; however after making an arrest of the Most Annoying PI Ever, J. called me to tell me my sliding glass door was not locking at my house. I realized I was gonna have to go home and deal w/this problem and call a locksmith on a Saturday night. Sure enough when I got home the lock was not functioning very well and a locksmith said he could come out in an hour or so. I took advantage of being in uniform to go get a discounted meal at friendly Chik-Fil-A while I was waiting.
Long story short, the locksmith said he couldn't get the part until the next day, but recommended I call the place the part was gonna come from anyway. However they were not answering the phone and hopefully would be open on Monday. I didn't know what to do; so I began drinking box wine. Stefano called and asked if he could do anything but I didn't know what to tell him. I decided that the odds of someone trying to get into my place were really, really, really low and I secured the door best I could and went to Stefano's where he distracted me and cheered me up all night long.
Sunday a.m. I really slept in! Like 'til 11am! Then it was time to get home and get all dolled up for our afternoon matinee at the symphony. I have to say, we both looked adorable. It finally warmed up enough where I didn't need a jacket and I wore my red pashmina that I've been wearing a lot lately that was a Xmas gift from my boss. Also a short skirt and tall boots; Stefano wore a gray suit w/black shirt that was sexily unbuttoned just enough! We had great seats; Stefano had splurged a little. And it was so cool to see all these names in the symphony roster that I went way back with, all the way to my teens in a lot of cases! We were treated to an amazing experience indeed: the original arrangement of Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue! I have never seen that and likely never will again. Even Sweet Dick Pete was impressed when I told him about it later!
During intermission we each got a Disarrono on the rocks: YUMMY! After the symphony we headed to the gourmet grocery store and Stefano said he'd make us a nicoise salad w/tuna steak on top and shrimp to snack on. I offered to buy the wine and dessert--b/c I have to have sweets, as we all know. I bought 2 kinds of Reisling (I hadn't yet received my shipment from wine.com) and bread pudding. While there we ran into one of my fellow board members from the High-spanic Health Coalition and I introduced Stefano by his real name since I have decided that Stefano is the new, wonderful, improved, fantastic amazing "S" in my life now!!! [I had really been introducing him to people as "Stefano"; I am ready for this to stop now.]
Back at home we finished off another bottle of sweet white wine that we'd begun drinking on Sat. night. Dinner was quite yummy and then we settled in to watch Cadillac Records, which I had not seen yet. I opened one of the new Reislings and we got a little crazy. It was great watching that movie, especially since Leo is making us do a Muddy Waters song, "I Can Never Be Satisfied". Stefano told me later that I drank the whole bottle of wine by myself although I remember pouring him some! I got pretty crazy and set off his burglar alarm, heh heh! Later I said that was amateur stuff though. I almost lost my booze and Stefano was quite worried about me! He said b/c he cares so much about me... awwww...
The next morning I had to get up early and go pick up my wine.com shipment and also call the other locksmith to see if he could come help me. The guy said he could come possibly around noon; so I struggled to get myself ready for the day and I was feeling kinda lousy, but not anywhere near the worst hangover I've ever had. I went to pick up my shipment later that morning but as I was driving away I did, in fact, have to pull over and... I am officially a crazy bitch that can't hold her liquor! Blehhh. I haven't done that in about 7 years!
My boss at Job #2 had texted me late on Friday to say that there would be a staff meeting on Monday at 1:30 and he'd like me to be there, so I told DA I'd be at his house after that so we could spend some quality time together. Stefano had offered to come help me with the locksmith guy and housesit for me since I had to leave at around 1p but the guy showed up right after noon and I was able to take care of it. $172 and about 20 min. later my door was fixed and better than ever, I must say! I guess that's money well spent. By then I was feeling much much better and after knocking out my 2 hours at Job #2 I picked up DA from his house, we went to Spec's so I could get some Disarrono (my new favorite drink) and some Peppermint Schnappe's so we could put it in some hot chocolate. Back at his house he made us a sandwich and we had chips/queso/salsa and some Friendship Bread his grandma had made and the delicious hot chocolate (which made me a little sick a few hours later but that's only b/c I'm lactose intolerant and DA made it with milk). Then we hung out the rest of the day in his bedroom attempting to watch some movies but that didn't really happen since we hadn't seen each other in awhile... later on we put on some Three Stooges and laughed our asses off. I didn't go shooting after all b/c I decided I'd rather spend the time w/DA. I finally had to bid him adieu around 9:30p so I could get home and try to work on some bass stuff before rehearsal tonight. I called Stefano on the way home since he had called me earlier and I couldn't talk b/c I was with DA. I woke him up but he never minds when I do that and today told me that he had a dream about me!
Today DA went back to school and he is riding his bike since his occupational driver's license has not yet come through. I don't know when I'll be able to see him again; perhaps this Fri. night if he doesn't go into work after all and since Stefano has a gig. (Stefano always wants me to meet him after his gigs, though so far I haven't taken him up on the offer. I'll be w/Stefano on Saturday evening and night for sure anyway since he's coming to my gig!) DA and I will do Stooges again next Tues. night since next Mon. night is my monthly sheriff meeting. Rehearsal tonight and my crazy busy week has just begun! So thank God I had an awesome incredible fun weekend to kick start it off!
So Friday I went to his place and we headed to the Big Easy to see our friend's band play. They are about to go to Memphis this week to represent Houston in the W.C. Handy blues contest. We said hi to a bunch of folks, danced, drank, and at the end of the 1st set we headed to the Continental for Papa Grows Funk. Unfortunately there were a bunch of juveniles (college age kids) there and I didn't quite understand why. Strangely there is also a new club on the block that is geared towards these kids as well. Bizarre that they would be located there. The band was great, although I wasn't getting into it as much as I usually do. The children and Stefano were both kinda distracting. We didn't stay too long and headed back home.
Saturday we slept in, which is always so blissful for me. But I had to get up at a somewhat decent hour to go on patrol. First I ran by the drugstore to pick up a mustache grooming kit and a birthday card for my Popo, then I went to his house. My aunt who hates me showed up and I was a little amazed at how nasty and bitter she still is; damn, get over it already! Oh well, it's her toxic life and she has to live it. Me and my mom took some pictures w/Popo, then I headed to patrol. I worked w/the fun FTO I worked with once last month; however after making an arrest of the Most Annoying PI Ever, J. called me to tell me my sliding glass door was not locking at my house. I realized I was gonna have to go home and deal w/this problem and call a locksmith on a Saturday night. Sure enough when I got home the lock was not functioning very well and a locksmith said he could come out in an hour or so. I took advantage of being in uniform to go get a discounted meal at friendly Chik-Fil-A while I was waiting.
Long story short, the locksmith said he couldn't get the part until the next day, but recommended I call the place the part was gonna come from anyway. However they were not answering the phone and hopefully would be open on Monday. I didn't know what to do; so I began drinking box wine. Stefano called and asked if he could do anything but I didn't know what to tell him. I decided that the odds of someone trying to get into my place were really, really, really low and I secured the door best I could and went to Stefano's where he distracted me and cheered me up all night long.
Sunday a.m. I really slept in! Like 'til 11am! Then it was time to get home and get all dolled up for our afternoon matinee at the symphony. I have to say, we both looked adorable. It finally warmed up enough where I didn't need a jacket and I wore my red pashmina that I've been wearing a lot lately that was a Xmas gift from my boss. Also a short skirt and tall boots; Stefano wore a gray suit w/black shirt that was sexily unbuttoned just enough! We had great seats; Stefano had splurged a little. And it was so cool to see all these names in the symphony roster that I went way back with, all the way to my teens in a lot of cases! We were treated to an amazing experience indeed: the original arrangement of Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue! I have never seen that and likely never will again. Even Sweet Dick Pete was impressed when I told him about it later!
During intermission we each got a Disarrono on the rocks: YUMMY! After the symphony we headed to the gourmet grocery store and Stefano said he'd make us a nicoise salad w/tuna steak on top and shrimp to snack on. I offered to buy the wine and dessert--b/c I have to have sweets, as we all know. I bought 2 kinds of Reisling (I hadn't yet received my shipment from wine.com) and bread pudding. While there we ran into one of my fellow board members from the High-spanic Health Coalition and I introduced Stefano by his real name since I have decided that Stefano is the new, wonderful, improved, fantastic amazing "S" in my life now!!! [I had really been introducing him to people as "Stefano"; I am ready for this to stop now.]
Back at home we finished off another bottle of sweet white wine that we'd begun drinking on Sat. night. Dinner was quite yummy and then we settled in to watch Cadillac Records, which I had not seen yet. I opened one of the new Reislings and we got a little crazy. It was great watching that movie, especially since Leo is making us do a Muddy Waters song, "I Can Never Be Satisfied". Stefano told me later that I drank the whole bottle of wine by myself although I remember pouring him some! I got pretty crazy and set off his burglar alarm, heh heh! Later I said that was amateur stuff though. I almost lost my booze and Stefano was quite worried about me! He said b/c he cares so much about me... awwww...
The next morning I had to get up early and go pick up my wine.com shipment and also call the other locksmith to see if he could come help me. The guy said he could come possibly around noon; so I struggled to get myself ready for the day and I was feeling kinda lousy, but not anywhere near the worst hangover I've ever had. I went to pick up my shipment later that morning but as I was driving away I did, in fact, have to pull over and... I am officially a crazy bitch that can't hold her liquor! Blehhh. I haven't done that in about 7 years!
My boss at Job #2 had texted me late on Friday to say that there would be a staff meeting on Monday at 1:30 and he'd like me to be there, so I told DA I'd be at his house after that so we could spend some quality time together. Stefano had offered to come help me with the locksmith guy and housesit for me since I had to leave at around 1p but the guy showed up right after noon and I was able to take care of it. $172 and about 20 min. later my door was fixed and better than ever, I must say! I guess that's money well spent. By then I was feeling much much better and after knocking out my 2 hours at Job #2 I picked up DA from his house, we went to Spec's so I could get some Disarrono (my new favorite drink) and some Peppermint Schnappe's so we could put it in some hot chocolate. Back at his house he made us a sandwich and we had chips/queso/salsa and some Friendship Bread his grandma had made and the delicious hot chocolate (which made me a little sick a few hours later but that's only b/c I'm lactose intolerant and DA made it with milk). Then we hung out the rest of the day in his bedroom attempting to watch some movies but that didn't really happen since we hadn't seen each other in awhile... later on we put on some Three Stooges and laughed our asses off. I didn't go shooting after all b/c I decided I'd rather spend the time w/DA. I finally had to bid him adieu around 9:30p so I could get home and try to work on some bass stuff before rehearsal tonight. I called Stefano on the way home since he had called me earlier and I couldn't talk b/c I was with DA. I woke him up but he never minds when I do that and today told me that he had a dream about me!
Today DA went back to school and he is riding his bike since his occupational driver's license has not yet come through. I don't know when I'll be able to see him again; perhaps this Fri. night if he doesn't go into work after all and since Stefano has a gig. (Stefano always wants me to meet him after his gigs, though so far I haven't taken him up on the offer. I'll be w/Stefano on Saturday evening and night for sure anyway since he's coming to my gig!) DA and I will do Stooges again next Tues. night since next Mon. night is my monthly sheriff meeting. Rehearsal tonight and my crazy busy week has just begun! So thank God I had an awesome incredible fun weekend to kick start it off!
Friday, January 15, 2010
Friday Take Me Away
So last night ended badly too and was just the perfect capper to a crappy couple days. DA had decided he was going to get in his truck and meet me at my house after my rehearsal--suspended driver's license be damned! I was excited and told him I'd cut rehearsal off at 9p so I could meet him at my place at 9:30. I did so and I was racing home when he texted me that now his parents (!!!) were telling him he couldn't leave b/c they didn't want him taking the risk of driving. AAAAARRRRGHGGGGGHGH!!!!! I was pissed. Mainly b/c I had cut rehearsal short and didn't go out drinking w/my bandmates so I could get home and hang w/DA. Also I really needed him to come over and cheer me up and eat peppermint ice cream with me and hold me all night and keep me warm.
However--I tried a new thing. Instead of ranting and raving and saying some fucked up shit, I told DA I was pissed and that I needed to get off the phone so I could cool off. I did so, went home, drank 2 glasses of box wine, ate 5 bites of chocolate cake, and relaxed on the couch and watched tv and read a magazine. After about an hour I finally decided to call him and he answered by immediately apologizing, to which I accepted b/c I was cooled off enough to realize it wasn't him, it was his parents doing this. Also the box wine helped mellow me out a bit. And I also kept thinking of Stefano's Serenity Prayer advice. I was still a little pissed though! But not as much as I was. DA and I made plans for me to come over on Monday afternoon since I have a holiday from work. Also, I will have spent tonight, tomorrow night, and all day Sunday and Sunday night w/Stefano and surely I'll be able to make a graceful exit on Monday morning. B/c otherwise it's gonna be a good couple of weeks before DA and I can see each other again.
I cannot WAIT for tonight to begin the weekend of festivities w/Stefano! 1st thing we'll do tonight is go see our friend's blues band (incl. a really hot drummer that I dated very briefly years ago--that'll be interesting to see him) at the Big Easy, where we went last Fri. night. That's at 9:30; then we'll head to the Continental Club to see Papa Grows Funk, who we all know I love and adore and who Stefano has never seen! They'll be playing around 11pm so the timing is just perfect. After that we'll go home and spend the night in each other's arms, which is the BEST.... Tomorrow we'll sleep late and then I gotta get home to get ready for a 2p-10p patrol shift. Before doing so I will head to my grandfather's house as tomorrow is his 94th birthday! Then tomorrow night after my shift I'll head back to Stefano's warm bed and adoring arms... Sunday is going to be awesome as Stefano is taking me to the symphony's matinee performance, after which he said we'll go to the gourmet grocery store and buy fixings so he can make me dinner! I am so excited about that b/c I want to hang out in the kitchen while he does it and maybe learn a little bit about cooking! Then Sunday night we will love and adore each other all night again.
Monday we'll sleep in and I'll get to DA's house by noon whereupon he will make lunch for me and we'll hang out until I go to Job #2 around 4pm. That evening I will probably go shooting w/my uncle and his new gun! Ahhhhh... holiday weekends....!
However--I tried a new thing. Instead of ranting and raving and saying some fucked up shit, I told DA I was pissed and that I needed to get off the phone so I could cool off. I did so, went home, drank 2 glasses of box wine, ate 5 bites of chocolate cake, and relaxed on the couch and watched tv and read a magazine. After about an hour I finally decided to call him and he answered by immediately apologizing, to which I accepted b/c I was cooled off enough to realize it wasn't him, it was his parents doing this. Also the box wine helped mellow me out a bit. And I also kept thinking of Stefano's Serenity Prayer advice. I was still a little pissed though! But not as much as I was. DA and I made plans for me to come over on Monday afternoon since I have a holiday from work. Also, I will have spent tonight, tomorrow night, and all day Sunday and Sunday night w/Stefano and surely I'll be able to make a graceful exit on Monday morning. B/c otherwise it's gonna be a good couple of weeks before DA and I can see each other again.
I cannot WAIT for tonight to begin the weekend of festivities w/Stefano! 1st thing we'll do tonight is go see our friend's blues band (incl. a really hot drummer that I dated very briefly years ago--that'll be interesting to see him) at the Big Easy, where we went last Fri. night. That's at 9:30; then we'll head to the Continental Club to see Papa Grows Funk, who we all know I love and adore and who Stefano has never seen! They'll be playing around 11pm so the timing is just perfect. After that we'll go home and spend the night in each other's arms, which is the BEST.... Tomorrow we'll sleep late and then I gotta get home to get ready for a 2p-10p patrol shift. Before doing so I will head to my grandfather's house as tomorrow is his 94th birthday! Then tomorrow night after my shift I'll head back to Stefano's warm bed and adoring arms... Sunday is going to be awesome as Stefano is taking me to the symphony's matinee performance, after which he said we'll go to the gourmet grocery store and buy fixings so he can make me dinner! I am so excited about that b/c I want to hang out in the kitchen while he does it and maybe learn a little bit about cooking! Then Sunday night we will love and adore each other all night again.
Monday we'll sleep in and I'll get to DA's house by noon whereupon he will make lunch for me and we'll hang out until I go to Job #2 around 4pm. That evening I will probably go shooting w/my uncle and his new gun! Ahhhhh... holiday weekends....!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Ugh Day
Yesterday was Ughhhh... but 2010 has been stellar so far for the MOST part so I guess I was due for an UGH day. In the morning, my mom called me and got on my nerves; then at work I had to get IT to upgrade my computer to the new Adobe Flash 15 minutes AFTER I needed it (online web meeting); then J. was at my house to finish painting as well as be there for UPS's delivery of my wine.com purchase but the driver guy didn't knock on the door according to her so now I gotta go pick it up at the UPS store tomorrow; then we had our High-spanic Health Coalition board meeting at the president's house who fortunately lives right near me but it ran an HOUR over 'til 8:30 b/c it was 10 women who just yakked and yakked and yakked so when it was over I raced to the park for my run but the park was completely deserted and I thought it unwise to run in an empty park (armed or not, I just don't need the hassle of having to kill someone if I can avoid it); so I decided to salvage the night by running to Home Depot 10 min. before they closed to buy a new toilet seat so J. could install it today and when I got home found that I'd bought the wrong damn size...
So while home I decided to FINALLY vacuum the upstairs after it's only needed to be done for over a month now and also go through some papers in the file cabinet so it can be moved upstairs and I was recycling and purging when I found a drawing made by S's daughter for me of a mermaid that said "I love you today" and it really got to me. No tears fell but I was tempted and yes, definitely got a little choked up. And I was alone and there was no one I could talk to about it that would understand. Also my chin is badly broken out and has been for over a week now and last night I had to resort to popping a Minocycline, the medication that got me so incredibly sick early last year (loss of appetite and dizziness) so obviously I was feeling desperate. I couldn't even drink a drop of booze last night though the box wine was calling to me, b/c I didn't want the calories since I couldn't get my damn run in.
Today I have a long ass day of my 2 jobs and then rehearsal tonight. But I should be getting the rough mix of the CD so that'll be fun and good to listen to, though we do have to go back in the studio and re-record 2 songs. I have a rainy-weather-induced headache and had to go mail off some more documents to my attorney. I haven't heard from DA today at all and don't know what's up w/him, though we spoke for a long time last night before I went to bed. Fortunately Stefano called me a little while ago and totally made me smile like he always does, the sweetheart! I am also pretty--make that VERY--upset b/c I changed my W-4 at Job #1 to reflect that I am now "single" and my paycheck tomorrow is a shocking $83 less and I am freaking out just a bit about that. I have been praying to Jesus all day, honestly, to get me through today.
So while home I decided to FINALLY vacuum the upstairs after it's only needed to be done for over a month now and also go through some papers in the file cabinet so it can be moved upstairs and I was recycling and purging when I found a drawing made by S's daughter for me of a mermaid that said "I love you today" and it really got to me. No tears fell but I was tempted and yes, definitely got a little choked up. And I was alone and there was no one I could talk to about it that would understand. Also my chin is badly broken out and has been for over a week now and last night I had to resort to popping a Minocycline, the medication that got me so incredibly sick early last year (loss of appetite and dizziness) so obviously I was feeling desperate. I couldn't even drink a drop of booze last night though the box wine was calling to me, b/c I didn't want the calories since I couldn't get my damn run in.
Today I have a long ass day of my 2 jobs and then rehearsal tonight. But I should be getting the rough mix of the CD so that'll be fun and good to listen to, though we do have to go back in the studio and re-record 2 songs. I have a rainy-weather-induced headache and had to go mail off some more documents to my attorney. I haven't heard from DA today at all and don't know what's up w/him, though we spoke for a long time last night before I went to bed. Fortunately Stefano called me a little while ago and totally made me smile like he always does, the sweetheart! I am also pretty--make that VERY--upset b/c I changed my W-4 at Job #1 to reflect that I am now "single" and my paycheck tomorrow is a shocking $83 less and I am freaking out just a bit about that. I have been praying to Jesus all day, honestly, to get me through today.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Sausage Balls Recipe
Ok ok, I can take a damn hint. Here's the recipe for the notorious sausage balls. It is actually my evil aunt's recipe but I am now becoming famous for it in my own right and definitely on my other side of the family.
1 lb. raw sausage--Jimmy Dean or some such thing
2 cups finely shredded cheese
2 cups Bisquick or some such thing
In a big bowl combine all of the above which is kind of fun and messy. Form about 1" sized balls and place on big cookie sheet in rows. I put aluminum foil on top of the sheet for easier cleanup. (It took me a few years but I can perfectly get 8 balls down and 7 across on a big baking sheet now!) Bake at 350 degrees for about 25-30 min. Let cool, enjoy!
For holidays/parties I do it twice and make 2 batches. DA texted me this a.m. to tell me he had my sausage balls for breakfast, and he sent some to work w/his dad yesterday. Yum-my!!!
1 lb. raw sausage--Jimmy Dean or some such thing
2 cups finely shredded cheese
2 cups Bisquick or some such thing
In a big bowl combine all of the above which is kind of fun and messy. Form about 1" sized balls and place on big cookie sheet in rows. I put aluminum foil on top of the sheet for easier cleanup. (It took me a few years but I can perfectly get 8 balls down and 7 across on a big baking sheet now!) Bake at 350 degrees for about 25-30 min. Let cool, enjoy!
For holidays/parties I do it twice and make 2 batches. DA texted me this a.m. to tell me he had my sausage balls for breakfast, and he sent some to work w/his dad yesterday. Yum-my!!!
Monday, January 11, 2010
Stellar, Legendary, Joyfilled Weekend!
Because it was spent with my two menfolks, both of whom make me happy in their own unique ways! In fact, obviously I am having too good of a time b/c I had to shlep myself to the E.R. on Friday evening in desperate need of a prescrip for a bladder infection! Also knows as "honeymoon cystitis" as my mom always used to warn me about. (Although that was primarily from my time spent w/Stefano since DA and I hadn't been intimate since 12/30.)
So Thursday night's rehearsal went well, we have to add a few more songs for our upcoming gigs and we are adding some good ones. Then I raced home so I could shower/change and get to Stefano's house at the last quarter of the big football game that apparently the whole entire world was watching! Stefano had already given up though and indeed his team ended up losing, and he'd already put all his party food away but I made him get out the caviar and feed me. Then I cheered him up in my own unique way and we headed to bed pretty late.
He had taken Fri. off from work and it was my work from home day so we had a nice lazy morning. He made us bagels w/yummy whitefish instead of salmon this time. I couldn't believe it when I checked my phone but I had gotten 2 unbelievable, nervy text msg.'s that morning: 1 from JR and 1 from that rude state trooper from Thanksgiving night!!! JR said Happy New Year and that he'd been thinking of me lately. I did not respond. And the state trooper wanted to know what I was doing on Saturday night! Again, I was pleased as punch to NOT respond to him either! Especially after spending so much time with Stefano, a wonderful, affectionate, cultured, adorable REAL gentleman!!!
I headed home and tried to get some work done but it was rough going. My mom had also called that a.m. to tell me that my li'l bro was crying and suicidal and would I do something about it? [Li'l bro's best friend killed herself right before Christmas and we've been trying to help him through it.] But when I called li'l bro he voicemailed me and then my mom called me back and I got frustrated and snapped at her (while at Stefano's, unfortunately) but she always pulls shit like that on me--makes it seem like the whole world is depending on me when in reality there's nothing I can do sometimes--and I just get so sick of it. Well, li'l bro called later that a.m. to say that he made an appt. with a therapist and since the wind chill was in the teens I offered to take him so he wouldn't have to walk. I did in fact do so, and decided that since my week of drinking cranberry juice wasn't helping, I did need to get my ass to a Dr. to get that prescrip so I wouldn't be in for a long, miserable, uncomfortable weekend. Fortunately I found an ER that had NO ONE in the waiting room so I took care of that while li'l bro was at his appt.
After I was done I picked up li'l bro and asked him to please tell me what he needed or where he would like to go, that whatever he wanted to do, we would do it! (Hell of a deal, huh? I wish someone would make that offer to me sometime! Oh, who'm I kidding? I live my life like that!) He said he wanted to go to the grocery store so we did and I wandered around looking at the beautiful pastries, cake slices, and cookies while he bought some soothing tea he needed. I ended up buying some gourmet soup, 2 kinds. Then he wanted to get a "Lucky Burger" and just go home, so we did that and I got some fried cheese and li'l bro got a fuckin' Oreo shake! I knew he was in bad straits b/c he never eats shit like that!
BTW... this is why I still resolve to spend more time w/li'l bro. He cracks me UP!!! I was telling him about how Stefano says he doesn't want kids, yet has never gotten a vasectomy b/c he says he doesn't want any blades/knives anywhere near down there. Yet li'l bro badly wants one, my ex RB got one, and J1 supposedly is looking to find someplace in Botswana where he can get one. Li'l bro laughed and said, "Botswana Vasectomy" at which point I exclaimed, "Good band name!!!" Also related to our conversation about my ER visit, li'l bro said he can't believe there hasn't been a cow-punk band yet to call themselves "Reverse Cowgirl"! and said it would have to be an all-girl band. He also said his all-time favorite band name he's come up with has been "Cul De Sac Kids." The concert poster would have any still pulled from the documentary Scared Straight! Then he said "Botswana Vasectomy" would be the perfect name for the "Cul De Sac Kids" 1st album!!! We were dying laughing!
After dropping him off I raced home to shower/change and get ready for my date w/Stefano. I wanted to wear my new leather thigh-high boots from Victoria's Secretions! I put that with a tiny black skirt, black tube top, black sweater, and my furry leopard coat and hoped I didn't look too much like a streetwalker! I put my hair up in a clip. Stefano loved the outfit! He drove us to the blues club and I drank coconut rum and we saw lots of folks we both knew. Fortunately there was cake there for the 80-year old birthday boy and I of course had to have some. Stefano and I danced and danced and then we SPLIT so we could have lots of quality time together at his place.
Sat. a.m. we had to be up at a somewhat decent hour for the 10:30am bar mitzvah. I drove the 90 seconds home and showered/changed into my pinstripe "Italian funeral suit" as I call it b/c it was too damn cold for a dress. Stefano picked me up and we went to the humongous synagogue as it actually turned out to be a bnai mitzvah (2 boys). Lots of Stefano's crazy friends were there and it really tickled me to see these normal looking grown up citizens actually cutting up a little and joking around in temple! I had met a lot of them at the NYE party. Stefano looked adorable in his yarmukle and I really tried to pay attention and "get" the whole experience! I even referred to the Torah when necessary. Stefano was very attentive to me during the 2-hour ceremony, holding my hand, rubbing my back, etc. Then there was a nice luncheon and I got to meet more of Stefano's friends. I was, however, feeling a little shy but everyone was very friendly to me. I even ran into the legendary violin teacher that is Stefano's friend's aunt! I got to say hi and tell her what an influence she'd been on me and generations of us young string players!
After Stefano got me "one of each" from the dessert tray we left and went back to his place for a snort of Dalwhinnie scotch and also thought we might try to take a nap but that didn't happen. After spending some fun quality time together he had a gig he needed to get ready for that night and DA was trying to call me and so I knew I needed to get w/him on what time to pick him up. I went home, showered/changed and called DA who said his dad had made a bunch of chili and they were having friends over so I should plan on hanging out at his place for awhile, which was fine w/me. (Sadly, Stefano called me while I was about to go to DA's to tell me that his gig had been cancelled due to the heat going out at the club! Awwww--but I had made these other plans and frankly, when you're a musician you certainly shouldn't plan on your man/woman always sitting at home waiting on you! Especially when your woman is ME!)
I went to the store and picked up the fixings for sausage balls to make later and some beer and headed to DA's house. We ate chili, drank beer, and watched some football with his folks and their friends--though I soon begged DA for us to go to his room and watch...anything else!. We watched the end of the Dark Knight in his room and then Working Girl came on and I got inspired by the tequila-drinking scene and told DA we should go get some! DA's dad gave me a container of chili to take before we left and his mom gave me a hug. We headed to Spec's, got 1800 Reposado, and then I said we needed to go to the grocery store b/c I had been craving cake since taking li'l bro to the store on Fri. night! At the store we got brie, wine port almond cheese, crackers, cake slices (white and chocolate), white chocolate peppermint bark, and those wonderfully delicious cookies w/the chocolate drops on top! (I told DA, "We look like stoners!") Back at my house DA set up the drinks and a snack plate and we drank and ate and drank and ate and watched Swingers, which I had never seen before and which cracked both of us up. DA and I decided I would start calling him "Daddy" and he would call me "Gorgeous"!
Sunday a.m. we slept in, ahhhh... I woke up 1st though when li'l bro called to tell me everything was good with him for the time being. I figured DA would sleep in some more so I went downstairs and made the 2 batches of sausage balls he (and his parents!) had requested. It was a really nice morning and it was great to not have to rush off anywhere, which is how it seems I constantly live my life. DA woke up when the 1st batch was ready and then he made eggs for us. We ate and lazed around. And had fun with each other. But then it was time to do some more work on the upstairs bedroom and we got 2 more garbage bags of things/trash to get rid of. The room is actually finally starting to empty out, thank God. Then we went to the video store to get Zack and Miri Make A Porno since neither of us had seen it. While we were watching it Stefano called me and left a message saying he missed me and for me to call him. I texted back asking how late could I call him and he said anytime, he'd keep the phone by the bed. Awww! So the movie was a riot and had us cracking up and it ended just as it was time to go to the Improv, as I'd gotten free tickets and DA had never been there.
The 2 opening comedians were funny and I had this deliciously tropical fruity drink that had coco rum in it. We also ordered the Date Plate, which I always get. But the headliner, Ian Bagg, was disappointing--he did about 10 min. of his set and then just messed w/the audience for the next 40 minutes! Lame! Unfortunately after the Improv I had to take DA home. He wanted to spend the night again but as I said, I was not about to get up at the dawn of crack on Monday and fight traffic to drive anywhere I didn't have to. DA wanted me to come inside and hang out but I had to get home and get some sleep! On the way home I called Stefano who again told me how much he missed me. Then I called DA when I got home to say good night. And thus ended a stellar, fun, fabulous Adela weekend!
So Thursday night's rehearsal went well, we have to add a few more songs for our upcoming gigs and we are adding some good ones. Then I raced home so I could shower/change and get to Stefano's house at the last quarter of the big football game that apparently the whole entire world was watching! Stefano had already given up though and indeed his team ended up losing, and he'd already put all his party food away but I made him get out the caviar and feed me. Then I cheered him up in my own unique way and we headed to bed pretty late.
He had taken Fri. off from work and it was my work from home day so we had a nice lazy morning. He made us bagels w/yummy whitefish instead of salmon this time. I couldn't believe it when I checked my phone but I had gotten 2 unbelievable, nervy text msg.'s that morning: 1 from JR and 1 from that rude state trooper from Thanksgiving night!!! JR said Happy New Year and that he'd been thinking of me lately. I did not respond. And the state trooper wanted to know what I was doing on Saturday night! Again, I was pleased as punch to NOT respond to him either! Especially after spending so much time with Stefano, a wonderful, affectionate, cultured, adorable REAL gentleman!!!
I headed home and tried to get some work done but it was rough going. My mom had also called that a.m. to tell me that my li'l bro was crying and suicidal and would I do something about it? [Li'l bro's best friend killed herself right before Christmas and we've been trying to help him through it.] But when I called li'l bro he voicemailed me and then my mom called me back and I got frustrated and snapped at her (while at Stefano's, unfortunately) but she always pulls shit like that on me--makes it seem like the whole world is depending on me when in reality there's nothing I can do sometimes--and I just get so sick of it. Well, li'l bro called later that a.m. to say that he made an appt. with a therapist and since the wind chill was in the teens I offered to take him so he wouldn't have to walk. I did in fact do so, and decided that since my week of drinking cranberry juice wasn't helping, I did need to get my ass to a Dr. to get that prescrip so I wouldn't be in for a long, miserable, uncomfortable weekend. Fortunately I found an ER that had NO ONE in the waiting room so I took care of that while li'l bro was at his appt.
After I was done I picked up li'l bro and asked him to please tell me what he needed or where he would like to go, that whatever he wanted to do, we would do it! (Hell of a deal, huh? I wish someone would make that offer to me sometime! Oh, who'm I kidding? I live my life like that!) He said he wanted to go to the grocery store so we did and I wandered around looking at the beautiful pastries, cake slices, and cookies while he bought some soothing tea he needed. I ended up buying some gourmet soup, 2 kinds. Then he wanted to get a "Lucky Burger" and just go home, so we did that and I got some fried cheese and li'l bro got a fuckin' Oreo shake! I knew he was in bad straits b/c he never eats shit like that!
BTW... this is why I still resolve to spend more time w/li'l bro. He cracks me UP!!! I was telling him about how Stefano says he doesn't want kids, yet has never gotten a vasectomy b/c he says he doesn't want any blades/knives anywhere near down there. Yet li'l bro badly wants one, my ex RB got one, and J1 supposedly is looking to find someplace in Botswana where he can get one. Li'l bro laughed and said, "Botswana Vasectomy" at which point I exclaimed, "Good band name!!!" Also related to our conversation about my ER visit, li'l bro said he can't believe there hasn't been a cow-punk band yet to call themselves "Reverse Cowgirl"! and said it would have to be an all-girl band. He also said his all-time favorite band name he's come up with has been "Cul De Sac Kids." The concert poster would have any still pulled from the documentary Scared Straight! Then he said "Botswana Vasectomy" would be the perfect name for the "Cul De Sac Kids" 1st album!!! We were dying laughing!
After dropping him off I raced home to shower/change and get ready for my date w/Stefano. I wanted to wear my new leather thigh-high boots from Victoria's Secretions! I put that with a tiny black skirt, black tube top, black sweater, and my furry leopard coat and hoped I didn't look too much like a streetwalker! I put my hair up in a clip. Stefano loved the outfit! He drove us to the blues club and I drank coconut rum and we saw lots of folks we both knew. Fortunately there was cake there for the 80-year old birthday boy and I of course had to have some. Stefano and I danced and danced and then we SPLIT so we could have lots of quality time together at his place.
Sat. a.m. we had to be up at a somewhat decent hour for the 10:30am bar mitzvah. I drove the 90 seconds home and showered/changed into my pinstripe "Italian funeral suit" as I call it b/c it was too damn cold for a dress. Stefano picked me up and we went to the humongous synagogue as it actually turned out to be a bnai mitzvah (2 boys). Lots of Stefano's crazy friends were there and it really tickled me to see these normal looking grown up citizens actually cutting up a little and joking around in temple! I had met a lot of them at the NYE party. Stefano looked adorable in his yarmukle and I really tried to pay attention and "get" the whole experience! I even referred to the Torah when necessary. Stefano was very attentive to me during the 2-hour ceremony, holding my hand, rubbing my back, etc. Then there was a nice luncheon and I got to meet more of Stefano's friends. I was, however, feeling a little shy but everyone was very friendly to me. I even ran into the legendary violin teacher that is Stefano's friend's aunt! I got to say hi and tell her what an influence she'd been on me and generations of us young string players!
After Stefano got me "one of each" from the dessert tray we left and went back to his place for a snort of Dalwhinnie scotch and also thought we might try to take a nap but that didn't happen. After spending some fun quality time together he had a gig he needed to get ready for that night and DA was trying to call me and so I knew I needed to get w/him on what time to pick him up. I went home, showered/changed and called DA who said his dad had made a bunch of chili and they were having friends over so I should plan on hanging out at his place for awhile, which was fine w/me. (Sadly, Stefano called me while I was about to go to DA's to tell me that his gig had been cancelled due to the heat going out at the club! Awwww--but I had made these other plans and frankly, when you're a musician you certainly shouldn't plan on your man/woman always sitting at home waiting on you! Especially when your woman is ME!)
I went to the store and picked up the fixings for sausage balls to make later and some beer and headed to DA's house. We ate chili, drank beer, and watched some football with his folks and their friends--though I soon begged DA for us to go to his room and watch...anything else!. We watched the end of the Dark Knight in his room and then Working Girl came on and I got inspired by the tequila-drinking scene and told DA we should go get some! DA's dad gave me a container of chili to take before we left and his mom gave me a hug. We headed to Spec's, got 1800 Reposado, and then I said we needed to go to the grocery store b/c I had been craving cake since taking li'l bro to the store on Fri. night! At the store we got brie, wine port almond cheese, crackers, cake slices (white and chocolate), white chocolate peppermint bark, and those wonderfully delicious cookies w/the chocolate drops on top! (I told DA, "We look like stoners!") Back at my house DA set up the drinks and a snack plate and we drank and ate and drank and ate and watched Swingers, which I had never seen before and which cracked both of us up. DA and I decided I would start calling him "Daddy" and he would call me "Gorgeous"!
Sunday a.m. we slept in, ahhhh... I woke up 1st though when li'l bro called to tell me everything was good with him for the time being. I figured DA would sleep in some more so I went downstairs and made the 2 batches of sausage balls he (and his parents!) had requested. It was a really nice morning and it was great to not have to rush off anywhere, which is how it seems I constantly live my life. DA woke up when the 1st batch was ready and then he made eggs for us. We ate and lazed around. And had fun with each other. But then it was time to do some more work on the upstairs bedroom and we got 2 more garbage bags of things/trash to get rid of. The room is actually finally starting to empty out, thank God. Then we went to the video store to get Zack and Miri Make A Porno since neither of us had seen it. While we were watching it Stefano called me and left a message saying he missed me and for me to call him. I texted back asking how late could I call him and he said anytime, he'd keep the phone by the bed. Awww! So the movie was a riot and had us cracking up and it ended just as it was time to go to the Improv, as I'd gotten free tickets and DA had never been there.
The 2 opening comedians were funny and I had this deliciously tropical fruity drink that had coco rum in it. We also ordered the Date Plate, which I always get. But the headliner, Ian Bagg, was disappointing--he did about 10 min. of his set and then just messed w/the audience for the next 40 minutes! Lame! Unfortunately after the Improv I had to take DA home. He wanted to spend the night again but as I said, I was not about to get up at the dawn of crack on Monday and fight traffic to drive anywhere I didn't have to. DA wanted me to come inside and hang out but I had to get home and get some sleep! On the way home I called Stefano who again told me how much he missed me. Then I called DA when I got home to say good night. And thus ended a stellar, fun, fabulous Adela weekend!
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Isn't Fun the Best Thing to Have?
That's a quote from one of my fave movies of all time, Arthur. He's a loveable drunk, just like me! But that's not really fair, I mean I didn't even drink last night at all. I still have to lose 1 of the 2 lbs. I gained over the holidays. Even though it's bitterly and unreasonably cold here in H-town this week (wind chill will be in the fuckin' teens the next 2 days!) I am getting my ass to the park tonight to run the 3 miles that I did w/Tito J. last week. I put my workout clothes in the car this a.m. and I'll change at Job #2 and then DO IT, baby! Besides, I want my naked ass to look as good as possible now that I've got these 2 adorable men looking at it all the time, hee hee!
Had rehearsal last night and we were all out of shape, i.e., my fingers were just not moving as fast as they needed to and Leo's voice was ragged and George's drums were out of tune. I even drank a Lone Star beer which I never do, since I thought it might help. But they guys loved my song suggestion of Gram Parson's "She" and we're also going to add Albert Collins' "I Ain't Drunk" with me singing to the set list. The next gig is at a beloved local icehouse on Sat. Jan. 23rd. DA had wanted me to go with him and his family to his cousin's wedding that day but his cousin was being completely weird and ridiculous about him bringing a date; anyway that's moot since I now have the gig which takes precedence over everything. We have another gig coming up on Sat. Feb. 6 and I am a little concerned b/c it's an afternoon gig and conceivable both Stefano and DA could come and I don't want that. But as always, I won't worry about that 'til it gets here.
I miss both my men, but they are constantly texting/calling me. Yesterday I was texting both of them literally at the same time which was a little bizarro. I am thinking of making an appt. with my therapist in order to work out some head stuff I still may have that needs working out re: my transition period. Or--I could just read some of the many books I have on the subject that I have not yet had time to read!
So my upcoming week and weekend looks like this: rehearsal tomorrow night again (I know I had decided to keep rehearsing to once/week but I actually suggested another rehearsal this week b/c I want to be SOLID for our upcoming gig--there's my classical music/perfectionist background rearing its head) after which I will meet up w/Stefano once his UT/Alabama football game is over. He took Friday off from work and I am working from home on Friday so that worked out well! Friday night we're going to one of our local blues bars for a concert/birthday celebration for a local 80-yr old blues piano legend. Saturday a.m. he is taking me to my 1st ever Bar Mitzvah and I am pretty excited about that! Then we will spend the day together until he has to get ready for his gig that night. At which time I will make more sausage balls by popular request from DA and his parents, go pick up DA if he is still not cleared to drive (he has a court date tomorrow) and then we will spend Saturday night-Sunday night together at my place. Fun certainly IS the best thing to have!
Had rehearsal last night and we were all out of shape, i.e., my fingers were just not moving as fast as they needed to and Leo's voice was ragged and George's drums were out of tune. I even drank a Lone Star beer which I never do, since I thought it might help. But they guys loved my song suggestion of Gram Parson's "She" and we're also going to add Albert Collins' "I Ain't Drunk" with me singing to the set list. The next gig is at a beloved local icehouse on Sat. Jan. 23rd. DA had wanted me to go with him and his family to his cousin's wedding that day but his cousin was being completely weird and ridiculous about him bringing a date; anyway that's moot since I now have the gig which takes precedence over everything. We have another gig coming up on Sat. Feb. 6 and I am a little concerned b/c it's an afternoon gig and conceivable both Stefano and DA could come and I don't want that. But as always, I won't worry about that 'til it gets here.
I miss both my men, but they are constantly texting/calling me. Yesterday I was texting both of them literally at the same time which was a little bizarro. I am thinking of making an appt. with my therapist in order to work out some head stuff I still may have that needs working out re: my transition period. Or--I could just read some of the many books I have on the subject that I have not yet had time to read!
So my upcoming week and weekend looks like this: rehearsal tomorrow night again (I know I had decided to keep rehearsing to once/week but I actually suggested another rehearsal this week b/c I want to be SOLID for our upcoming gig--there's my classical music/perfectionist background rearing its head) after which I will meet up w/Stefano once his UT/Alabama football game is over. He took Friday off from work and I am working from home on Friday so that worked out well! Friday night we're going to one of our local blues bars for a concert/birthday celebration for a local 80-yr old blues piano legend. Saturday a.m. he is taking me to my 1st ever Bar Mitzvah and I am pretty excited about that! Then we will spend the day together until he has to get ready for his gig that night. At which time I will make more sausage balls by popular request from DA and his parents, go pick up DA if he is still not cleared to drive (he has a court date tomorrow) and then we will spend Saturday night-Sunday night together at my place. Fun certainly IS the best thing to have!
Monday, January 04, 2010
Treasure In, Garbage Out
I regret titling the blog post that b/c of what I'm about to write about but I feel I have been left no choice. I am happy that yesterday's 1st blog post of the year was so happy and fun-filled and hopefully that reflects my optimistic outlook which I am going to adopt from here on out, just as J2 has committed to doing. I think it says a lot that all I wrote about yesterday was happy, joyful stuff--that that's what is totally overshadowing any bad stuff currently going on in my life and it is doing so magnificently and effortlessly.
So what happened was, last Weds. afternoon I found out that I have no best friend/sister in R. anymore. In fact, I have completely stricken her from my life forever as far as I'm concerned. The last time I saw her was at my gig, the one Stefano came to. She brought her husband and then sent me a nice text message the next day. I saw some Facebook status updates throughout the rest of the month, and then all of a sudden I noticed that she was no longer my FB friend. I knew she had a FB hacker get into her account so I assumed somehow I was accidently unfriended and I re-friended her. I tried to call her last Monday morning, knowing she'd be off work and watching cartoons and did not hear back from her. Meanwhile I saw her posting things on FB on our mutual friends' pages, so I knew she had to have seen my re-friend request. I sent her a message thru FB telling her I'd been trying to contact her, and was she avoiding me? I was only 1/2-kidding. But she sent back a message saying "Yes, actually."
I immediately responded asking why, was she going to tell me or was she just going to continue to avoid me and the situation??? While waiting for her response I tried to call her husband whose voicemail I got. I called my mom to ask her to call R. on my behalf and try to find out what's going on. I called Tito J. and asked him to do the same thing. I wracked my brain trying to figure out what the hell I had done to her (since my gig) and could come up with nothing! Awhile later she wrote back that I am "out of control" and while she still loves me, she cannot pretend to "condone my behavior" any longer. I. Was. Flabbergasted!!!!!!!!!! Then I was pissed. And offended at her junior-high, passive-aggressive behavior. I wanted to reply back that I'm sure my lifestyle seems out of control in comparison to her boring, married old existence which revolves around her fat, boring engineer husband, cat, 2 dogs, and 2 guinea pigs!!! But I didn't. I responded that in the words of Dave Barry, everyone is entitled to their opinion and hers is wrong. I pointed out that I am happier now than I have been in years and I'm sorry she feels that way and that someday if she ever decides to try and fix this, it will be a tough fix indeed. I ended with "Fine. Goodbye!" She had to have the final word of course, and responded that all she did was voice her opinion which I "forced" her to do. Oh my God. That deserves absolutely no response and I realized that I don't need her in my life anymore if this is how she's going to be, and obviously she is.
I FB-unfriended her husband and another friend that is really her friend. I untagged the photos of her in my photo albums. I deleted her stupid dog blog link off my blog here. I removed her from 2 of my FB fan pages as I don't need her "fan-dom". I told my mom, Tito J., my brother, J.Fu, DA, and Stefano what had happened. Everyone said fine, be done with her! which kind of shocked and surprised me, that they would all be so lackadaisical about me losing my best friend/sister. But Stefano reminded me of the Serenity Prayer and although this hurts me/pisses me off, there truly is no point in wasting my time lamenting over this at all. Because my #1 NY's resolution is to continue to have as much fun as is humanly possible, and R. is just no fun at all anymore and also wants to be, as Tito J. put it, "Judgey McJudgey." I mean shit, I could've done the exact same thing to her: "Well R., since you never want to go anywhere anymore or do anything fun anymore and you're in bed by 9pm every night, I can't condone your lifestyle or your behavior any longer and I'm done with you!!!"
So yeah, I had already decided to do this during the course of my divorce process but it just bears reminding and that is to not let ANYONE be in my life that does not deserve to be there. And my #2 NY's resolution is to not do anything that I don't want to do, such as feel obligated to do anything or go anywhere or hang out with anyone I don't really want to! I think with those 2 resolutions I can't go wrong in life, for real.
Tonight I am looking forward to going to buy a coat rack to put by the door. I got a lot done yesterday hanging out at my house--threw away a bunch of crap, recycled a bunch more. I took the TV rolling cart from the 2nd bedroom upstairs downstairs to the dining room and turned it into a liquor cart, heh heh. I need more liquor to put on it though, some more wine, etc! At the risk of seeming "out of control" and a danger to myself and others or WHATEVER.
So what happened was, last Weds. afternoon I found out that I have no best friend/sister in R. anymore. In fact, I have completely stricken her from my life forever as far as I'm concerned. The last time I saw her was at my gig, the one Stefano came to. She brought her husband and then sent me a nice text message the next day. I saw some Facebook status updates throughout the rest of the month, and then all of a sudden I noticed that she was no longer my FB friend. I knew she had a FB hacker get into her account so I assumed somehow I was accidently unfriended and I re-friended her. I tried to call her last Monday morning, knowing she'd be off work and watching cartoons and did not hear back from her. Meanwhile I saw her posting things on FB on our mutual friends' pages, so I knew she had to have seen my re-friend request. I sent her a message thru FB telling her I'd been trying to contact her, and was she avoiding me? I was only 1/2-kidding. But she sent back a message saying "Yes, actually."
I immediately responded asking why, was she going to tell me or was she just going to continue to avoid me and the situation??? While waiting for her response I tried to call her husband whose voicemail I got. I called my mom to ask her to call R. on my behalf and try to find out what's going on. I called Tito J. and asked him to do the same thing. I wracked my brain trying to figure out what the hell I had done to her (since my gig) and could come up with nothing! Awhile later she wrote back that I am "out of control" and while she still loves me, she cannot pretend to "condone my behavior" any longer. I. Was. Flabbergasted!!!!!!!!!! Then I was pissed. And offended at her junior-high, passive-aggressive behavior. I wanted to reply back that I'm sure my lifestyle seems out of control in comparison to her boring, married old existence which revolves around her fat, boring engineer husband, cat, 2 dogs, and 2 guinea pigs!!! But I didn't. I responded that in the words of Dave Barry, everyone is entitled to their opinion and hers is wrong. I pointed out that I am happier now than I have been in years and I'm sorry she feels that way and that someday if she ever decides to try and fix this, it will be a tough fix indeed. I ended with "Fine. Goodbye!" She had to have the final word of course, and responded that all she did was voice her opinion which I "forced" her to do. Oh my God. That deserves absolutely no response and I realized that I don't need her in my life anymore if this is how she's going to be, and obviously she is.
I FB-unfriended her husband and another friend that is really her friend. I untagged the photos of her in my photo albums. I deleted her stupid dog blog link off my blog here. I removed her from 2 of my FB fan pages as I don't need her "fan-dom". I told my mom, Tito J., my brother, J.Fu, DA, and Stefano what had happened. Everyone said fine, be done with her! which kind of shocked and surprised me, that they would all be so lackadaisical about me losing my best friend/sister. But Stefano reminded me of the Serenity Prayer and although this hurts me/pisses me off, there truly is no point in wasting my time lamenting over this at all. Because my #1 NY's resolution is to continue to have as much fun as is humanly possible, and R. is just no fun at all anymore and also wants to be, as Tito J. put it, "Judgey McJudgey." I mean shit, I could've done the exact same thing to her: "Well R., since you never want to go anywhere anymore or do anything fun anymore and you're in bed by 9pm every night, I can't condone your lifestyle or your behavior any longer and I'm done with you!!!"
So yeah, I had already decided to do this during the course of my divorce process but it just bears reminding and that is to not let ANYONE be in my life that does not deserve to be there. And my #2 NY's resolution is to not do anything that I don't want to do, such as feel obligated to do anything or go anywhere or hang out with anyone I don't really want to! I think with those 2 resolutions I can't go wrong in life, for real.
Tonight I am looking forward to going to buy a coat rack to put by the door. I got a lot done yesterday hanging out at my house--threw away a bunch of crap, recycled a bunch more. I took the TV rolling cart from the 2nd bedroom upstairs downstairs to the dining room and turned it into a liquor cart, heh heh. I need more liquor to put on it though, some more wine, etc! At the risk of seeming "out of control" and a danger to myself and others or WHATEVER.
Sunday, January 03, 2010
2010...Peach of a Year!
Great things going on this year. I have beautiful red blooming roses on my coffee table courtesy of Stefano. I have eaten so many delicious meals the past few days. I went for 3 runs w/Tito J. and I have drank a lot of booze. I spent most of today still trying to get my home in order and relaxing here and enjoying some Adela time. I have decided to cut back on my hours at Job #2 so I have more free time. Hopefully I will get to see DA tomorrow and get some! Lots of fun so far.
So Wednesday was great. I went to DA's house and spent the afternoon with him and got some in his bedroom while his mom and stepbrother were elsewhere in the house... it was very high school! Then he went to work and I came home and got ready for my date w/Stefano. Stefano's heat was not working at his house so he came over to stay w/me and he brought me the red roses, totally melting my heart! He took me to see the klassic kuntry band I wanted to see and we danced a little and had fun but didn't stay long b/c we wanted to come home and get it on. The next morning he left early to go meet the heat folks and I slept in until it was time to go meet Tito J. for a run. We did 3 miles and I can't believe I was actually able to do it b/c for me, 1 mile is totally fine! But it was a great end-of-the-year activity. Later I did a little shopping as my new sweaters from Victoria's Secretions had arrived so I was totally ready with a cute NYE outfit, however I needed pants and new boots which I managed to find at the last minute.
So I finally headed to the party at around 8pm and I was wearing my sexy new off the shoulder sweater, tight black pants, new party jewelry, and new boots. The party was at the beautiful big home of Stefano's friends. I knew a couple of their friends as I had met them at Stefano's blues jam a few weeks ago (when I almost got into the bar fight). The host couple were very sweet to me and immediately got me plenty to drink. I did, in fact, get pretty drunk but a lot of people were also so hopefully I didn't stand out too much! At one point one of Stefano's friends told me I had lipstick on my face and when I went to the restroom to look someone had left lip prints on my lower cheek and I have no idea who did that or when! Stefano's band sounded great and I even danced a little w/various people and when the band finally got to stop for the night I got lots and lots of hugs and kisses from Stefano. I got to meet a lot of Stefano's other friends and we stayed just until midnight for the champagne toast and kiss, and then we headed home to his house. Unfortunately I had a real, as Stefano described it, "Woody Allen moment" b/c I was so drunk I couldn't finish getting it on w/Stefano and apparently I rolled over, told him, "We'll have to finish this tomorrow", and passed out!!! Hee hee.
The next day we slept in and Stefano made us bagels w/lox, cream cheese, tomato and capers! He promised to make black eyed peas, cabbage, and chicken for dinner for me that night and I promised to make cornbread and bring mimosa supplies. He told me his friends' son's bar mitzvah is next Saturday and would I like to come with him. Would I! My first bar mitzvah! So then I had to leave to run down to Pasadena to see Ma, then get home and make the cornbread. I went to Stefano's that evening and he had made a lovely dinner and even set a nice table w/cloth napkins, etc. What a romantic! After dinner we tried to watch the movie Garden State and almost got through the whole thing before getting distracted.
Saturday morning I had to come home and make sausage balls for DA, who was all depressed b/c he got his license suspended for 180 days due to his pending DWI case (a long story). So I had promised to bring him sausage balls and we'd go see Invictus. I went to his house early so we'd have a little time to hang out before the movie. DA's dad heated up some of his black eyed peas for me, which were absolutely delicious! The movie was very good, a beautiful story, and I wouldn't mind reading the book except for the fact that I already have over 90 titles on my "To Read" list as it is. Poor DA was not feeling well though and didn't want to kiss me since his throat was sore and he had a slight cough. So I didn't get very much kissing/cuddling action.
I left just in time to go meet Tito J for another run in the park. His friend D. joined us and I couldn't believe anyone was a slower runner than I, but she sure did slow us down! Just b/c she's been doing Bikram Yoga forever and therefore had no cardio endurance. But I finished our run just in time to run home, shower, change and get dressed for a romantic dinner w/Stefano who wanted to take me to his favorite French bistro! I had never had escargot before but I am, of course, an adventurous eater so we got some and it was delicious! Also we had plenty of wine and we shared pate, salmon salad, and some wonderful bread. Finally we shared a decadent dessert. On the way home we decided to go meet Tito J for a quick nightcap at the bar behind my house, but Tito J was too late in meeting us however we did run into my other librarian friend/neighbor. Back at Stefano's house he gave me a present: a fishnet bodystocking! Later on I got bold enough to ask Stefano if he was crazy about me, and he confirmed that yes he was.
This morning he was cuddling w/me and told me again how crazy he is about me; then he said he's not dating anyone else and doesn't want to. I said, "Aw, that makes me feel bad!" and when he asked why I reminded him about the conversation I'd had with him a couple of weeks ago and he said, "Oh because you're seeing other people?" and I said yes. But he said not to worry about it, that these things usually work themselves out. He said he wants to spend more time w/me in 2010 and I said I did with him too. And he also asked me out on Friday and Saturday night but said he didn't want to co-op all my time from the "other men" in my life and I said that was ok and pointed out that he got NYE and is also getting all my weekends and I was happy to give them to him! He said he can't imagine any man who spends time with me not falling completely in love with me. Hmmmm! He's so incredibly sweet and adorable and I can't even believe it sometimes.
I left his house just in time today to run home and freshen up and meet Tito J and a couple other girlfriends for lunch at Frenchy's fried chicken. I had invited Stefano to come too but he didn't want to be tempted by the decadent food! We had a great lunch, finalized the dates for Tito J's Vegas birthday party weekend "Pleasure and Treasure", and then I headed home to try and get some things around the house accomplished. I've talked/texted to DA throughout the day. I also have Stefano's NY Times here which he gave to me to read. DA is going to try and come see me tomorrow night for our Stooges Monday if he is feeling better and feels lucky enough to drive!
So Wednesday was great. I went to DA's house and spent the afternoon with him and got some in his bedroom while his mom and stepbrother were elsewhere in the house... it was very high school! Then he went to work and I came home and got ready for my date w/Stefano. Stefano's heat was not working at his house so he came over to stay w/me and he brought me the red roses, totally melting my heart! He took me to see the klassic kuntry band I wanted to see and we danced a little and had fun but didn't stay long b/c we wanted to come home and get it on. The next morning he left early to go meet the heat folks and I slept in until it was time to go meet Tito J. for a run. We did 3 miles and I can't believe I was actually able to do it b/c for me, 1 mile is totally fine! But it was a great end-of-the-year activity. Later I did a little shopping as my new sweaters from Victoria's Secretions had arrived so I was totally ready with a cute NYE outfit, however I needed pants and new boots which I managed to find at the last minute.
So I finally headed to the party at around 8pm and I was wearing my sexy new off the shoulder sweater, tight black pants, new party jewelry, and new boots. The party was at the beautiful big home of Stefano's friends. I knew a couple of their friends as I had met them at Stefano's blues jam a few weeks ago (when I almost got into the bar fight). The host couple were very sweet to me and immediately got me plenty to drink. I did, in fact, get pretty drunk but a lot of people were also so hopefully I didn't stand out too much! At one point one of Stefano's friends told me I had lipstick on my face and when I went to the restroom to look someone had left lip prints on my lower cheek and I have no idea who did that or when! Stefano's band sounded great and I even danced a little w/various people and when the band finally got to stop for the night I got lots and lots of hugs and kisses from Stefano. I got to meet a lot of Stefano's other friends and we stayed just until midnight for the champagne toast and kiss, and then we headed home to his house. Unfortunately I had a real, as Stefano described it, "Woody Allen moment" b/c I was so drunk I couldn't finish getting it on w/Stefano and apparently I rolled over, told him, "We'll have to finish this tomorrow", and passed out!!! Hee hee.
The next day we slept in and Stefano made us bagels w/lox, cream cheese, tomato and capers! He promised to make black eyed peas, cabbage, and chicken for dinner for me that night and I promised to make cornbread and bring mimosa supplies. He told me his friends' son's bar mitzvah is next Saturday and would I like to come with him. Would I! My first bar mitzvah! So then I had to leave to run down to Pasadena to see Ma, then get home and make the cornbread. I went to Stefano's that evening and he had made a lovely dinner and even set a nice table w/cloth napkins, etc. What a romantic! After dinner we tried to watch the movie Garden State and almost got through the whole thing before getting distracted.
Saturday morning I had to come home and make sausage balls for DA, who was all depressed b/c he got his license suspended for 180 days due to his pending DWI case (a long story). So I had promised to bring him sausage balls and we'd go see Invictus. I went to his house early so we'd have a little time to hang out before the movie. DA's dad heated up some of his black eyed peas for me, which were absolutely delicious! The movie was very good, a beautiful story, and I wouldn't mind reading the book except for the fact that I already have over 90 titles on my "To Read" list as it is. Poor DA was not feeling well though and didn't want to kiss me since his throat was sore and he had a slight cough. So I didn't get very much kissing/cuddling action.
I left just in time to go meet Tito J for another run in the park. His friend D. joined us and I couldn't believe anyone was a slower runner than I, but she sure did slow us down! Just b/c she's been doing Bikram Yoga forever and therefore had no cardio endurance. But I finished our run just in time to run home, shower, change and get dressed for a romantic dinner w/Stefano who wanted to take me to his favorite French bistro! I had never had escargot before but I am, of course, an adventurous eater so we got some and it was delicious! Also we had plenty of wine and we shared pate, salmon salad, and some wonderful bread. Finally we shared a decadent dessert. On the way home we decided to go meet Tito J for a quick nightcap at the bar behind my house, but Tito J was too late in meeting us however we did run into my other librarian friend/neighbor. Back at Stefano's house he gave me a present: a fishnet bodystocking! Later on I got bold enough to ask Stefano if he was crazy about me, and he confirmed that yes he was.
This morning he was cuddling w/me and told me again how crazy he is about me; then he said he's not dating anyone else and doesn't want to. I said, "Aw, that makes me feel bad!" and when he asked why I reminded him about the conversation I'd had with him a couple of weeks ago and he said, "Oh because you're seeing other people?" and I said yes. But he said not to worry about it, that these things usually work themselves out. He said he wants to spend more time w/me in 2010 and I said I did with him too. And he also asked me out on Friday and Saturday night but said he didn't want to co-op all my time from the "other men" in my life and I said that was ok and pointed out that he got NYE and is also getting all my weekends and I was happy to give them to him! He said he can't imagine any man who spends time with me not falling completely in love with me. Hmmmm! He's so incredibly sweet and adorable and I can't even believe it sometimes.
I left his house just in time today to run home and freshen up and meet Tito J and a couple other girlfriends for lunch at Frenchy's fried chicken. I had invited Stefano to come too but he didn't want to be tempted by the decadent food! We had a great lunch, finalized the dates for Tito J's Vegas birthday party weekend "Pleasure and Treasure", and then I headed home to try and get some things around the house accomplished. I've talked/texted to DA throughout the day. I also have Stefano's NY Times here which he gave to me to read. DA is going to try and come see me tomorrow night for our Stooges Monday if he is feeling better and feels lucky enough to drive!
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Whew! Part Deux
Ok so on Sunday a.m. P. and I were passed out--well, I was, P. had woken up at 8am due to his internal alarm clock. But I was woken up by my mom calling me and then ANOTHER text message from that trumpet player saying, "U R Hot!" Oh, that's real suave and mature. I ignored it, of course. P. wanted to hang out and go to IHOP but I couldn't b/c I just had too much shit to do and I also needed some major Adela time since I had had NONE in I don't even know how long! DA was scheduled to come by around 2pm so he could help me get the 2nd bedroom and dining room in order for J.'s return on Monday to continue the painting, etc. I had to do my nails, laundry, hang up clothes, read my mail, tidy up downstairs, get the latest pic's off my camera, etc. Etc. ETC.!!!!!!!!!!! And try to read my book if I had time, which of course I didn't. I didn't even have time to do my damn nails.
Anyway, DA came over later and we ran to the grocery store to get trash bags and chocolate so we could get through the project. He was being really funny all day long; he is totally the quiet type but he has a great sense of humor just under the surface. We got a lot done although it was difficult for me at first to be spending all that time in the room, but DA's emotional support and humor made it all right. We filled 4 garbage bags of trash (things I was sure S's daughter would not use/miss) and I also gave DA a couple of S's nicer button-down shirts since S was stupid enough to leave them behind. We didn't have a lot of time b/c we were to meet Tito J at 6pm for Thai dinner, but we got most of the room taken care of. We went to Thai dinner and it was deeeee-licious! We ordered a ton of food and had leftovers, of course.
Back at my house after dinner the trumpet player kept texting me and I still was not responding! DA was getting annoyed and we took a nasty X-rated picture to send back to him which I ended up not having the balls to send, but it was a hilarious thought! DA ended up going home that night late but we made plans to do our Monday night Three Stooges viewing. I realized I hadn't had pizza in months and so DA said we should have that on Monday. Meanwhile Stefano had also called me but I couldn't call him back as I was busy w/DA. (Glad I was in the bathroom when the "Let's Get It On" ringtone came on so DA didn't hear it!) I felt a little bad about not being able to call Stefano back, but oh well! (I texted him 1st thing Monday a.m.)
So now it's time to get ready for New Year's! I am, as always, swamped until this weekend. I am so glad I decided to bring in the New Year w/Stefano, although it would've been DA until DA found out he had to work! DA spent the night last night and we were sad thinking it was gonna be our last time to see each other until 2010. But today we decided to hang out at his house tomorrow afternoon after I get done w/Job #2 and before he has to go to work. Tonight is dinner w/J.Fu so we can catch up, and then tomorrow night Stefano wanted to hang out. Today we were Facebook chatting and I said I wanted to go out to see the kickass klassic kuntry band I had seen before Thanksgiving w/Rozzy, and Stefano agreed! I am so happy!!! Then Thursday is the big day of fun and merriment! Stefano has to be at the private party at 6 in order to setup to play from 7-11 but I don't think I want to be there that early so I'll probably meet him there. It's a little weird thinking that we'll be very close to DA since the party is in the same nearby town/Houston suburb that DA lives/works in! But DA and I also made plans to go see a matinee on Saturday before he has to go to work. So no matter what I'll still have plenty of time for my fun menfolks!
Anyway, DA came over later and we ran to the grocery store to get trash bags and chocolate so we could get through the project. He was being really funny all day long; he is totally the quiet type but he has a great sense of humor just under the surface. We got a lot done although it was difficult for me at first to be spending all that time in the room, but DA's emotional support and humor made it all right. We filled 4 garbage bags of trash (things I was sure S's daughter would not use/miss) and I also gave DA a couple of S's nicer button-down shirts since S was stupid enough to leave them behind. We didn't have a lot of time b/c we were to meet Tito J at 6pm for Thai dinner, but we got most of the room taken care of. We went to Thai dinner and it was deeeee-licious! We ordered a ton of food and had leftovers, of course.
Back at my house after dinner the trumpet player kept texting me and I still was not responding! DA was getting annoyed and we took a nasty X-rated picture to send back to him which I ended up not having the balls to send, but it was a hilarious thought! DA ended up going home that night late but we made plans to do our Monday night Three Stooges viewing. I realized I hadn't had pizza in months and so DA said we should have that on Monday. Meanwhile Stefano had also called me but I couldn't call him back as I was busy w/DA. (Glad I was in the bathroom when the "Let's Get It On" ringtone came on so DA didn't hear it!) I felt a little bad about not being able to call Stefano back, but oh well! (I texted him 1st thing Monday a.m.)
So now it's time to get ready for New Year's! I am, as always, swamped until this weekend. I am so glad I decided to bring in the New Year w/Stefano, although it would've been DA until DA found out he had to work! DA spent the night last night and we were sad thinking it was gonna be our last time to see each other until 2010. But today we decided to hang out at his house tomorrow afternoon after I get done w/Job #2 and before he has to go to work. Tonight is dinner w/J.Fu so we can catch up, and then tomorrow night Stefano wanted to hang out. Today we were Facebook chatting and I said I wanted to go out to see the kickass klassic kuntry band I had seen before Thanksgiving w/Rozzy, and Stefano agreed! I am so happy!!! Then Thursday is the big day of fun and merriment! Stefano has to be at the private party at 6 in order to setup to play from 7-11 but I don't think I want to be there that early so I'll probably meet him there. It's a little weird thinking that we'll be very close to DA since the party is in the same nearby town/Houston suburb that DA lives/works in! But DA and I also made plans to go see a matinee on Saturday before he has to go to work. So no matter what I'll still have plenty of time for my fun menfolks!
Monday, December 28, 2009
Whew!!!
What can I say, but... GOOD TIMES, MANE. It has been a whirlwind of nonstop activity these past few days and it has all been fun... fun... FUN! Well, except for getting PO'd at DA on Thursday b/c he is basically only 24 and makes the kind of unsophisticated immature mistakes that 24-yo's tend to make. Lucky for him I am trying to be more laid back and appreciative of the fact that he is so young. But things are going really great w/me and DA and also me and Stefano and today I decided to bring in the New Year w/Stefano. It was going to be DA but DA just got hired on full-time at the restaurant where he waits on the weekends, so the good news is that he will now be making mo' $ but the bad news is that he has to work New Year's Eve. And although I will miss him I know I am going to be having a KICKASS time w/Stefano at his friends' private party where there will be tons of booze, food, great music, and lots and lots and LOTS of kisses and hugs from Stefano the whole night long!!!
So where the hell did I leave off? Oh, Wednesday me and DA went to the House of Blues and I had to give DA a quick lesson in two-stepping before we left the house. The drinks were incredibly overpriced there but we had drank egg nog before leaving and then I had 2 Southern Comforts on the rocks and I was feeling pretty, pretty, pretty good! The bands were great but we didn't stay long b/c we wanted to get home and drink some more and have sexy time with each other. But unfortunately when we got home I began drinking coconut rum and drunk dialing my cousin and breaking the bottom off my crystal wine glass and eventually passing out. Gotta love the holidays!!!
The next morning we slept in and tried the warming Astroglide and then I had to get ready for patrol. I got mad at DA b/c I told him not to read my text messages when he was playing w/my phone b/c "You will not like what you see." He read them anyway and saw sexy hot mushy stuff from Stefano and what pissed me off more than anything was that I had TRUSTED DA to honor my request and not read my fucking text messages. We left on a bad note and I didn't even hug him or kiss him b/c he also did not apologize like I kept waiting for. But after he left he did call me and left messages saying he was sorry and that he doesn't know what he was thinking and he was really just curious to see what Stefano said to me. DA had invited me to his house on Saturday to meet his family and I had accepted and even wanted to go but now I wasn't even sure I wanted to keep seeing DA due to my hypersensitivity to trust issues. Anyway, patrol was busy but mostly bullshit calls all day, and I decided to accept DA's apology after awhile and lots of texts on the subject and discussing the situation w/Brandone and just decided to get over it--as long as it doesn't happen again.
Meanwhile--my ex M. kept calling me all day wanting me to go to Christmas service with him that night at our old church, and then he just came out and told me he's not completely over me yet and is jealous that I'm seeing Stefano and that he was also jealous when I married someone else! OMG. I couldn't believe the conversation we were having and I felt nothing when he was telling me all that. Ain't it funny how time slips away... Like I told our mutual friend, my drummer George when he told me a couple weeks ago M. was not over me: "When you take bitches for granted, bitches pack up their shit and leave." Snap!
So after patrol I raced home, changed and showered and got to Stefano's house toot suite where he greeted me with Scotch and chocolate! Then he gave me a back massage w/warmed up baby oil and I returned the favor and then we took a bubble bath together! See, now that's a sophisticated gent! And I just LOVE and ADORE sleeping with him b/c he holds me tight and constantly kisses me and doesn't ever seem to stop and we all know what an affection/attention junkie I am. I hated to leave so early on Friday but I had to get home and make my 2 batches of sausage balls and wrap presents still.
Friday morning was so cold and I was moving real slow and running late as always but I picked up li'l bro and we headed down to see the fam. Fortunately it was a slow casual kind of day anyway and actually pretty pleasant. I was just glad li'l bro was w/me and I wasn't alone like I was on Thanksgiving. (Incidentally--LDB has a new girlfriend which is why he did not contact me about sneaking away for drinks again. Good for him! He needs someone to love and I'm glad he got it.) I had brought my flask and me and li'l bro spiked our drinks; later my uncle brought out the Crown Royal which we also enjoyed. Before heading back to Houston we stopped by and saw our mom and grandfather.
After dropping off li'l bro I raced home to change out of my slacks into a cute girly outfit and got to Stefano's house again (oh man--it's so fucking awesome driving only 90 seconds to see him!) and we got in his Lexus and drove to the sushi restaurant. I was so NOT hungry but we got large hot sakes and I tried 2 pieces of sushi and we just talked and talked and had a great time. He later said I looked so good we almost didn't make it to the restaurant. He lays it on pretty thick all the time but I am just hoping it's sincere and if it truly is, then I love it! Back at his place we broke out the scotch and tried to watch a movie but that didn't really happen. The next morning he let me sleep in a little and before I left made me a bagel w/lox and cream cheese and a cup of tea which is what I always drink in the mornings at his house. What a man!
I raced home (see how my life goes?) to change clothes and get to the park to meet Tito J for our run we had planned on doing to pay penance for eating too much on Christmas. He wasn't even awake when I was on my way so I did 3 laps before he even got there. We did a few more laps and then I had to split to get to DA's house in time. I raced to the store to get 2 bottles of wine to bring and then raced home to shower and change into an appropriate "Meet Your Boyfriend's Family for the 1st Time" outfit. You know, cute but not sexy, classy but fun since they also know I'm 13 years older than DA and I also wanted to look as young as possible! I wore a black scoopneck velvet top, tight dark blue jeans, cowboy boots, and I had blow-dried my hair very straight. DA lives in a very nice house on a cul-de-sac w/his dad, stepmom and stepbrother and his parents were really, really friendly and nice to me! We hung out in DA's room while his dad was frying the turkey and then I suggested to DA that we not be so antisocial and get out there and mingle a little. We got some drinks and soon people started showing up: their family friend--a drunk, funny desperate Housewife type--and DA's stepsister, her husband, and then his grandparents. His grandmother is actually Mexican and she very clearly adored me and kept saying how pretty I was and later pulled DA to the side and said that of all his girlfriends I was her favorite one she's ever met!
The turkey and everything was delicious and I also had to sample all 4 desserts, forcing DA to help me w/that project. Then everyone opened Christmas presents and DA had some for me and even his parents had got me a couple of things, which was SOOOOO sweet!!! DA got me 2 books and I got him 2 books but he forgot to inscribe my books and I made him do it right then and there. He wrote in one, "To Adela, the love of my life!" He said that his whole family really liked me and I was like, "Of course they do! Everyone likes me!" Later DA's teenage stepbrother showed up too and he was pretty amusing. The whole day was really fun and enjoyable and I had a great time. DA had to leave eventually to go to work and I gave everyone hugs goodbye and they said they hope I come back and I said I will come back anytime they invite me to.
So I headed down south to pick up my mom for the Ruben Ramos concert which I was so excited about! And even P. had said he'd probably swing by, too! Unfortunately my mom and I got there 2 1/2 hours before the damn band was scheduled to play at 11pm! Holy shit. But I could not get any advance information from the club on what time the damn band played, so whatever. I spent the time chatting w/my mom, drinking Crown and Diet Coke, and downloading ringtones for my 2 men so I can ID them when they call me: DA got "Play that Funky Music White Boy" and Stefano got "Let's Get it On." I also called the trumpet player for Ruben Ramos since he's a Facebook friend and he had sent me a message awhile back saying he wanted to meet me. But the phone call was kind of strange and abrupt and I was like, whatever. But then he sent me a text saying he was with his girlfriend! Like I care!
Incredibly, I ran into my girlfriend from years ago, Diana who I have totally lost track of and she was THERE!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelievable. And I showed her the # I had for her in my cell phone and it's still good! So who knew! Then P. showed up like he said he would and we danced a couple of songs and then I just wanted to watch the band, and they were KILLER! Awesome fucking band! And I felt so ethnic being around my people! After the band took a break my mom got picked up by my stepdad and I decided to go say a quick hi to the trumpet player, who had been dancing w/his girlfriend, so I did, just a quick one. Then P. and I decided to leave and he wanted to go to my place since he lives in BFE and his wife is out of town, so we did and I made him listen to the Holmes Brothers and we had a couple drinks and smoked cigars and watched the Rhythm Country and Blues video and then I put in Y Tu Mama Tambien and then I passed out in the chair and he passed out on the couch. Gotta love the holidays!!!
More later, I gotta get to the Target. Job #1 is totally dead. There were like 3 cars in my parking lot this morning. Love it!
So where the hell did I leave off? Oh, Wednesday me and DA went to the House of Blues and I had to give DA a quick lesson in two-stepping before we left the house. The drinks were incredibly overpriced there but we had drank egg nog before leaving and then I had 2 Southern Comforts on the rocks and I was feeling pretty, pretty, pretty good! The bands were great but we didn't stay long b/c we wanted to get home and drink some more and have sexy time with each other. But unfortunately when we got home I began drinking coconut rum and drunk dialing my cousin and breaking the bottom off my crystal wine glass and eventually passing out. Gotta love the holidays!!!
The next morning we slept in and tried the warming Astroglide and then I had to get ready for patrol. I got mad at DA b/c I told him not to read my text messages when he was playing w/my phone b/c "You will not like what you see." He read them anyway and saw sexy hot mushy stuff from Stefano and what pissed me off more than anything was that I had TRUSTED DA to honor my request and not read my fucking text messages. We left on a bad note and I didn't even hug him or kiss him b/c he also did not apologize like I kept waiting for. But after he left he did call me and left messages saying he was sorry and that he doesn't know what he was thinking and he was really just curious to see what Stefano said to me. DA had invited me to his house on Saturday to meet his family and I had accepted and even wanted to go but now I wasn't even sure I wanted to keep seeing DA due to my hypersensitivity to trust issues. Anyway, patrol was busy but mostly bullshit calls all day, and I decided to accept DA's apology after awhile and lots of texts on the subject and discussing the situation w/Brandone and just decided to get over it--as long as it doesn't happen again.
Meanwhile--my ex M. kept calling me all day wanting me to go to Christmas service with him that night at our old church, and then he just came out and told me he's not completely over me yet and is jealous that I'm seeing Stefano and that he was also jealous when I married someone else! OMG. I couldn't believe the conversation we were having and I felt nothing when he was telling me all that. Ain't it funny how time slips away... Like I told our mutual friend, my drummer George when he told me a couple weeks ago M. was not over me: "When you take bitches for granted, bitches pack up their shit and leave." Snap!
So after patrol I raced home, changed and showered and got to Stefano's house toot suite where he greeted me with Scotch and chocolate! Then he gave me a back massage w/warmed up baby oil and I returned the favor and then we took a bubble bath together! See, now that's a sophisticated gent! And I just LOVE and ADORE sleeping with him b/c he holds me tight and constantly kisses me and doesn't ever seem to stop and we all know what an affection/attention junkie I am. I hated to leave so early on Friday but I had to get home and make my 2 batches of sausage balls and wrap presents still.
Friday morning was so cold and I was moving real slow and running late as always but I picked up li'l bro and we headed down to see the fam. Fortunately it was a slow casual kind of day anyway and actually pretty pleasant. I was just glad li'l bro was w/me and I wasn't alone like I was on Thanksgiving. (Incidentally--LDB has a new girlfriend which is why he did not contact me about sneaking away for drinks again. Good for him! He needs someone to love and I'm glad he got it.) I had brought my flask and me and li'l bro spiked our drinks; later my uncle brought out the Crown Royal which we also enjoyed. Before heading back to Houston we stopped by and saw our mom and grandfather.
After dropping off li'l bro I raced home to change out of my slacks into a cute girly outfit and got to Stefano's house again (oh man--it's so fucking awesome driving only 90 seconds to see him!) and we got in his Lexus and drove to the sushi restaurant. I was so NOT hungry but we got large hot sakes and I tried 2 pieces of sushi and we just talked and talked and had a great time. He later said I looked so good we almost didn't make it to the restaurant. He lays it on pretty thick all the time but I am just hoping it's sincere and if it truly is, then I love it! Back at his place we broke out the scotch and tried to watch a movie but that didn't really happen. The next morning he let me sleep in a little and before I left made me a bagel w/lox and cream cheese and a cup of tea which is what I always drink in the mornings at his house. What a man!
I raced home (see how my life goes?) to change clothes and get to the park to meet Tito J for our run we had planned on doing to pay penance for eating too much on Christmas. He wasn't even awake when I was on my way so I did 3 laps before he even got there. We did a few more laps and then I had to split to get to DA's house in time. I raced to the store to get 2 bottles of wine to bring and then raced home to shower and change into an appropriate "Meet Your Boyfriend's Family for the 1st Time" outfit. You know, cute but not sexy, classy but fun since they also know I'm 13 years older than DA and I also wanted to look as young as possible! I wore a black scoopneck velvet top, tight dark blue jeans, cowboy boots, and I had blow-dried my hair very straight. DA lives in a very nice house on a cul-de-sac w/his dad, stepmom and stepbrother and his parents were really, really friendly and nice to me! We hung out in DA's room while his dad was frying the turkey and then I suggested to DA that we not be so antisocial and get out there and mingle a little. We got some drinks and soon people started showing up: their family friend--a drunk, funny desperate Housewife type--and DA's stepsister, her husband, and then his grandparents. His grandmother is actually Mexican and she very clearly adored me and kept saying how pretty I was and later pulled DA to the side and said that of all his girlfriends I was her favorite one she's ever met!
The turkey and everything was delicious and I also had to sample all 4 desserts, forcing DA to help me w/that project. Then everyone opened Christmas presents and DA had some for me and even his parents had got me a couple of things, which was SOOOOO sweet!!! DA got me 2 books and I got him 2 books but he forgot to inscribe my books and I made him do it right then and there. He wrote in one, "To Adela, the love of my life!" He said that his whole family really liked me and I was like, "Of course they do! Everyone likes me!" Later DA's teenage stepbrother showed up too and he was pretty amusing. The whole day was really fun and enjoyable and I had a great time. DA had to leave eventually to go to work and I gave everyone hugs goodbye and they said they hope I come back and I said I will come back anytime they invite me to.
So I headed down south to pick up my mom for the Ruben Ramos concert which I was so excited about! And even P. had said he'd probably swing by, too! Unfortunately my mom and I got there 2 1/2 hours before the damn band was scheduled to play at 11pm! Holy shit. But I could not get any advance information from the club on what time the damn band played, so whatever. I spent the time chatting w/my mom, drinking Crown and Diet Coke, and downloading ringtones for my 2 men so I can ID them when they call me: DA got "Play that Funky Music White Boy" and Stefano got "Let's Get it On." I also called the trumpet player for Ruben Ramos since he's a Facebook friend and he had sent me a message awhile back saying he wanted to meet me. But the phone call was kind of strange and abrupt and I was like, whatever. But then he sent me a text saying he was with his girlfriend! Like I care!
Incredibly, I ran into my girlfriend from years ago, Diana who I have totally lost track of and she was THERE!!!!!!!!!!! Unbelievable. And I showed her the # I had for her in my cell phone and it's still good! So who knew! Then P. showed up like he said he would and we danced a couple of songs and then I just wanted to watch the band, and they were KILLER! Awesome fucking band! And I felt so ethnic being around my people! After the band took a break my mom got picked up by my stepdad and I decided to go say a quick hi to the trumpet player, who had been dancing w/his girlfriend, so I did, just a quick one. Then P. and I decided to leave and he wanted to go to my place since he lives in BFE and his wife is out of town, so we did and I made him listen to the Holmes Brothers and we had a couple drinks and smoked cigars and watched the Rhythm Country and Blues video and then I put in Y Tu Mama Tambien and then I passed out in the chair and he passed out on the couch. Gotta love the holidays!!!
More later, I gotta get to the Target. Job #1 is totally dead. There were like 3 cars in my parking lot this morning. Love it!
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
What a Great Week
This has been the funnest week and it's only Wednesday! Thanks to my 2 menfolks who I adore. On Monday my headache didn't go away for a long time and then I just all of a sudden felt fatigued and drained. So DA suggested he come over with his Three Stooges DVD set and we just chill and cuddle, which we did and it was sooooo great. I was a little embarrassed b/c I was laughing so hard but goddamn, I fucking LOVE the Stooges! Then we went to bed and tried to watch the 2nd Harold and Kumar movie but of course we got distracted by each other. Fun times, baby!
Yesterday I got ALL my Xmas shopping done in an hour and a half on my lunch break. I went to 1/2 Price Books which is next door to Spec's Liquor. DA had told me he always gets people books for Xmas and I was inspired. So I got my uncle, aunt, cousin's baby and my dad books. I got my cousin some note cards w/her last name initial on them. And I got DA 2 books as well. Then next door at Spec's I got myself some egg nog and my dad's girlfriend a tiny Mexican liquor cake in a cute tin. Hey--it's the thought that counts and I put plenty thought into all this stuff.
Last night after Job #2 I picked up li'l bro and we met the cousins for a holiday cousin tea at the tea house we'd met at a few months ago. It was so nice to catch up with them, though I have been seeing my cousin Townes a lot these past few months. After tea it was time for me to head downtown to see Stefano's band open up for the blues jam that my friend A. usually heads up. When I got there there was pretty much nobody there, maybe just 5 other people, for real! But it was nice to see Stefano play/sing since it's been months and months since I've seen him do either. In fact the last time was in February when he and I played together at a benefit at the Big Easy. He was so glad to see me and we hugged and kissed and he bought me a drink, etc. And a couple of his friends showed up and I got introduced to them and one of them stayed near me all night and we chatted it up. Stefano had to get back up to play guitar another time or 2 and A. showed up and it was nice to see him too.
Unfortunately at one point I almost got into a bar fight with this asshole who was getting in the face of my new friend, a guy who was kind of running the jam and had to pull this drunk girl off the stage when she got up there for some stupid reason. The couple had wandered into the bar from the Rockets game after it let out down the street and I had actually danced with the drunk girl just to be cute and silly. But when my friend tried to help her off the stage she stumbled and fell and although my friend tried to help her up the drunk bitch's boyfriend got all up in my friend's face and I had already had 2 drinks and I was having none of that. I got in between them and started yelling at the guy and I had a candy cane in my mouth and it fell out; meanwhile poor Stefano was up onstage playing and he was having to watch all this craziness. He later told me he thought he was going to have to jump off and come get involved! I remember saying to the guy, "You wanna fight someone, fight me!" (Hilarious! But I meant it at the time.) My friend and Stefano's bandmate pulled me away and made me go outside to calm down. Later the guy apologized to my friend and the drunk bitch apologized for her boyfriend.
When Stefano came offstage I apologized for his having to see my temper flare up; but he knew I was just trying to keep the peace and I reminded him I *am* a Texas peace officer! Then he pulled me to the back of the club onto a couch and we made out furiously. Stefano said he is attracted to tough, strong women b/c his mom and sister are like that. I asked if they were ballbreakers like me and he said yes! We made out so long his friend said he was glad to see us finally come up for air when we did after awhile. Stefano was really sexy up onstage playing his big guitar; I couldn't help it.
We made big plans! We're gonna go see my beloved Keb Mo in February at the House of Blues, and also Stefano's gonna take me to the symphony in January! Also we're gonna hang out this Thursday night after I get off patrol and he's also going to take me out for sushi on Friday night after I'm done with Xmas festivities at my aunt's house.
Meanwhile I am taking DA to the House of Blues tonight, as my friend gave me free tickets to see Two Tons of Steel. And DA said we should make the Three Stooges viewing a regular Monday night event, to which I agreed. His DVD set has 25 DVD's, so this project should take us several months! I am soooo looking forward to sleeping in with him tomorrow, though I will have to start getting ready to go on patrol at noon-ish. I adore my menfolks!
Yesterday I got ALL my Xmas shopping done in an hour and a half on my lunch break. I went to 1/2 Price Books which is next door to Spec's Liquor. DA had told me he always gets people books for Xmas and I was inspired. So I got my uncle, aunt, cousin's baby and my dad books. I got my cousin some note cards w/her last name initial on them. And I got DA 2 books as well. Then next door at Spec's I got myself some egg nog and my dad's girlfriend a tiny Mexican liquor cake in a cute tin. Hey--it's the thought that counts and I put plenty thought into all this stuff.
Last night after Job #2 I picked up li'l bro and we met the cousins for a holiday cousin tea at the tea house we'd met at a few months ago. It was so nice to catch up with them, though I have been seeing my cousin Townes a lot these past few months. After tea it was time for me to head downtown to see Stefano's band open up for the blues jam that my friend A. usually heads up. When I got there there was pretty much nobody there, maybe just 5 other people, for real! But it was nice to see Stefano play/sing since it's been months and months since I've seen him do either. In fact the last time was in February when he and I played together at a benefit at the Big Easy. He was so glad to see me and we hugged and kissed and he bought me a drink, etc. And a couple of his friends showed up and I got introduced to them and one of them stayed near me all night and we chatted it up. Stefano had to get back up to play guitar another time or 2 and A. showed up and it was nice to see him too.
Unfortunately at one point I almost got into a bar fight with this asshole who was getting in the face of my new friend, a guy who was kind of running the jam and had to pull this drunk girl off the stage when she got up there for some stupid reason. The couple had wandered into the bar from the Rockets game after it let out down the street and I had actually danced with the drunk girl just to be cute and silly. But when my friend tried to help her off the stage she stumbled and fell and although my friend tried to help her up the drunk bitch's boyfriend got all up in my friend's face and I had already had 2 drinks and I was having none of that. I got in between them and started yelling at the guy and I had a candy cane in my mouth and it fell out; meanwhile poor Stefano was up onstage playing and he was having to watch all this craziness. He later told me he thought he was going to have to jump off and come get involved! I remember saying to the guy, "You wanna fight someone, fight me!" (Hilarious! But I meant it at the time.) My friend and Stefano's bandmate pulled me away and made me go outside to calm down. Later the guy apologized to my friend and the drunk bitch apologized for her boyfriend.
When Stefano came offstage I apologized for his having to see my temper flare up; but he knew I was just trying to keep the peace and I reminded him I *am* a Texas peace officer! Then he pulled me to the back of the club onto a couch and we made out furiously. Stefano said he is attracted to tough, strong women b/c his mom and sister are like that. I asked if they were ballbreakers like me and he said yes! We made out so long his friend said he was glad to see us finally come up for air when we did after awhile. Stefano was really sexy up onstage playing his big guitar; I couldn't help it.
We made big plans! We're gonna go see my beloved Keb Mo in February at the House of Blues, and also Stefano's gonna take me to the symphony in January! Also we're gonna hang out this Thursday night after I get off patrol and he's also going to take me out for sushi on Friday night after I'm done with Xmas festivities at my aunt's house.
Meanwhile I am taking DA to the House of Blues tonight, as my friend gave me free tickets to see Two Tons of Steel. And DA said we should make the Three Stooges viewing a regular Monday night event, to which I agreed. His DVD set has 25 DVD's, so this project should take us several months! I am soooo looking forward to sleeping in with him tomorrow, though I will have to start getting ready to go on patrol at noon-ish. I adore my menfolks!
Monday, December 21, 2009
Ow My Achin Head
Have I already titled a blog post that before? Can't remember, don't care anyway. So this weekend was wild but no one should be surprised about that. I don't even remember some of it. I do know I had rehearsal w/the guys on Thursday night and we went back to the icehouse and drank beers and all danced with the same chick. Leo was trying to have a serious conversation w/me and kept making me look him in the eye and later when we left and he hugged me goodbye he rubbed my ass, the wise guy. I went over to Stefano's house on Friday night and I knew I had to have the talk with him first thing about how I am not being exclusive and am "seeing" other people during this transitional period of my life. He was quite understanding and cool about it and said that he agreed w/me when I said I wanted to keep spending time with him, that he feels the same way about me. I was soooo relieved! So we drank 15-year old scotch and I ate several kinds of chocolate he'd gotten me and we listened to Tom Waits and played strip poker and then had sex like crazed weasels. In the morning he made breakfast for me (scrambled egg whites/sausage) and he'd also bought me my own toothbrush to keep at his place and he is really, really scoring MAJOR adoration and affection points with me!
I had to run myself out of town and got a late start due to the morning w/Stefano but head out I did finally and it was a long drive to Ft. Worth. But it was relaxing and Stefano had lent me a Gram Parsons CD and I got addicted to the song "She" and listened to it about 50 times in a row, at least. Boof's bday party was at her parents house, who I had not seen in YEARS and it was a wonderful festive event with all kinds of ridiculously delicious food and I was actually starving for once and I grubbed seriously. Then we started drinking champagne and the football game came on and I amused myself by taking lots of pictures. Also texting Stefano and DA repeatedly!
We had discussed going out on the town after the party but in the end that didn't work out for a variety of reasons and truthfully I was exhausted anyway from the week and not getting any sleep hardly and also that long ass drive so Boof, T. and I just went back to their place and crashed. We'd made plans in the a.m. to go eat at Waffle House but 1. I couldn't wake up early enough to do it and 2. I was not even hungry in the slightest due to eating all that food at the party! I headed back to Houston an hour off schedule but drove 80mph and got to the studio only a little bit late.
Recording went mostly well. I have FINALLY learned Stevie Ray Vaughan's "Rude Mood", one of the trickiest songs ever! I am actually pretty proud of myself. I think we mostly laid down everything we needed to. It has been years since I've been in a recording studio and it was fun. Even if I was tired and sleep-deprived, and Leo was hungover.
Last night when I got home DA came over and we commenced with the drinking and hanging out and making out and having sex like crazed weasels. Unfortunately today I have a highly unusual coconut rum headache, which has never happened, I don't think. Tonight DA and I will go to an anarchist bookstore event (li'l bro said last night he was so proud of me for going to this event!) and then home to my house to play Scrabble, probably!
I had to run myself out of town and got a late start due to the morning w/Stefano but head out I did finally and it was a long drive to Ft. Worth. But it was relaxing and Stefano had lent me a Gram Parsons CD and I got addicted to the song "She" and listened to it about 50 times in a row, at least. Boof's bday party was at her parents house, who I had not seen in YEARS and it was a wonderful festive event with all kinds of ridiculously delicious food and I was actually starving for once and I grubbed seriously. Then we started drinking champagne and the football game came on and I amused myself by taking lots of pictures. Also texting Stefano and DA repeatedly!
We had discussed going out on the town after the party but in the end that didn't work out for a variety of reasons and truthfully I was exhausted anyway from the week and not getting any sleep hardly and also that long ass drive so Boof, T. and I just went back to their place and crashed. We'd made plans in the a.m. to go eat at Waffle House but 1. I couldn't wake up early enough to do it and 2. I was not even hungry in the slightest due to eating all that food at the party! I headed back to Houston an hour off schedule but drove 80mph and got to the studio only a little bit late.
Recording went mostly well. I have FINALLY learned Stevie Ray Vaughan's "Rude Mood", one of the trickiest songs ever! I am actually pretty proud of myself. I think we mostly laid down everything we needed to. It has been years since I've been in a recording studio and it was fun. Even if I was tired and sleep-deprived, and Leo was hungover.
Last night when I got home DA came over and we commenced with the drinking and hanging out and making out and having sex like crazed weasels. Unfortunately today I have a highly unusual coconut rum headache, which has never happened, I don't think. Tonight DA and I will go to an anarchist bookstore event (li'l bro said last night he was so proud of me for going to this event!) and then home to my house to play Scrabble, probably!
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Pick Up Artist?
L. said that I should research how to be a pick up artist for tips on juggling several men at once. I did google the term and everything seems to relate to men's perspectives! My only other real influence is Samantha on SATC. But I'll keep looking. So far things are working out. Spent time w/DA on Sunday, Monday, and last nite and Stefano will be tomorrow night when DA is working at his waiter job. DA keeps telling me he loves me and everytime he does my heart melts, though I am still not willing to say it back yet. Cuz truthfully while I am very fond of him I don't love him currently. We had a good time last night tho'; he came over after I got home from Job#2 and he wanted to take me out to eat before we went to see the Mighty Orq play but I of course was having none of that since I am still working on being as thin as possible and all these holiday parties with all this food is wreaking havoc with my "slimagineering" to quote Tito J. So he made mac and cheese at my house and I settled in with a glass of coconut rum in my new tumblers I won at Job #1's White Elephant gift party yesterday. We then headed out to the Orq and Stefano had told me about these frozen drinks they have at this particular venue, but I couldn't remember which drink he recommended so I had a frozen Cuba Libre! DA paid for it which was a good thing b/c I kept joking around that although he's low on funds these days (and is looking for a better-paying waiter job) that if I had to pay for my own drinks he would not be getting laid later!
Speaking of which, I guess I'm being a little reckless in that regard. DA didn't use a condom last nite and Stefano has never used one with me (then again, I'm not sure they make condoms that big). My friends are scolding me about this crazy behavior and Tito J. even gave me a bunch of condoms and lube (but the condoms he gave me are too small for both my guys!). Then again JR and I never used them, and I didn't use them with anyone else I've brought home recently either. CRAZY!!! I know.
Rehearsal tonite, the last one before we record the CD on Sunday. Jesus, I really wish I had time to practice some cool bass lines on my own but I simply do NOT. Not with all this dating and rehearsing w/the band and work and then I'm headed to DFW on Saturday for Boof's 40th birthday party celebration. It's gonna suck having to get up early on Sunday in order to get back to Houston by 1pm to meet the guys at the studio. DA says he wants to come over on Sunday night which I said was fine. I invited him to come to this anarchist bookstore thing with me on Monday night, which is one of the things I love about him, that he's into books/reading. Hell, he's an English major at UH, which is awesome! Also that he's available to come to these things w/me during the week so I don't have to go alone! Tuesday night will be a holiday cousin tea, with my li'l bro and our 2 cousins. Wednesday night DA has said he'll come over and cook for me and he'll bring some boxes and we can tackle the 2nd bedroom so that J. can continue work asap. This was actually his idea even though it's something I've been meaning to do, and I told him I will totally appreciate the help but more importantly, the emotional support. S's baby mama actually called me on Tues. morning to ask for an update on my divorce situation, but I told her I had none. She asked me to please not throw any of her daughter's stuff out and I said I would never, ever do that. I asked about her daughter, how she was doing in school and everything, and she said that she's still not paying attention in class and is still in counseling. SIGH. I still care... obviously, huh? Shit.
Honestly though, I have been the happiest lately that I've been in years. My 2 men are constantly after me to spend time with them and are both constantly telling/texting me how "hot" and "gorgeous" and "amazing" I look/am and this is music to my ears since S never told me that--literally. They both say they're great cooks and both want to cook for me, again something I haven't had in years! Stefano will be first on Saturday morning before I leave town, and DA of course will be next Wednesday! I am having so much fun with the attention and the cherishing, and they are both sooo awesome to sleep (slumber) with, as they both are into holding me all night long, kissing my face, hair, shoulders, etc. And of course all of this incredible sex is some of the best exercise I could ask for, as well as being the only exercise that fits into my schedule! There is nothing stressful about dating either of them, we're all just having fun and letting the good times roll. I am also totally enjoying playing in the band and it's so much fun being a rock star again, having people fawn over you and want to meet you, etc. I am enjoying not thinking about the future and taking a break from being Super Extreme Planner Adela. That was a concept Brandone suggested to me, to not make ANY PLANS until an arbitrary date, say, March 1, and though it was a mind-blowing concept I decided it was just what I needed to try and he was so right.
Speaking of which, I guess I'm being a little reckless in that regard. DA didn't use a condom last nite and Stefano has never used one with me (then again, I'm not sure they make condoms that big). My friends are scolding me about this crazy behavior and Tito J. even gave me a bunch of condoms and lube (but the condoms he gave me are too small for both my guys!). Then again JR and I never used them, and I didn't use them with anyone else I've brought home recently either. CRAZY!!! I know.
Rehearsal tonite, the last one before we record the CD on Sunday. Jesus, I really wish I had time to practice some cool bass lines on my own but I simply do NOT. Not with all this dating and rehearsing w/the band and work and then I'm headed to DFW on Saturday for Boof's 40th birthday party celebration. It's gonna suck having to get up early on Sunday in order to get back to Houston by 1pm to meet the guys at the studio. DA says he wants to come over on Sunday night which I said was fine. I invited him to come to this anarchist bookstore thing with me on Monday night, which is one of the things I love about him, that he's into books/reading. Hell, he's an English major at UH, which is awesome! Also that he's available to come to these things w/me during the week so I don't have to go alone! Tuesday night will be a holiday cousin tea, with my li'l bro and our 2 cousins. Wednesday night DA has said he'll come over and cook for me and he'll bring some boxes and we can tackle the 2nd bedroom so that J. can continue work asap. This was actually his idea even though it's something I've been meaning to do, and I told him I will totally appreciate the help but more importantly, the emotional support. S's baby mama actually called me on Tues. morning to ask for an update on my divorce situation, but I told her I had none. She asked me to please not throw any of her daughter's stuff out and I said I would never, ever do that. I asked about her daughter, how she was doing in school and everything, and she said that she's still not paying attention in class and is still in counseling. SIGH. I still care... obviously, huh? Shit.
Honestly though, I have been the happiest lately that I've been in years. My 2 men are constantly after me to spend time with them and are both constantly telling/texting me how "hot" and "gorgeous" and "amazing" I look/am and this is music to my ears since S never told me that--literally. They both say they're great cooks and both want to cook for me, again something I haven't had in years! Stefano will be first on Saturday morning before I leave town, and DA of course will be next Wednesday! I am having so much fun with the attention and the cherishing, and they are both sooo awesome to sleep (slumber) with, as they both are into holding me all night long, kissing my face, hair, shoulders, etc. And of course all of this incredible sex is some of the best exercise I could ask for, as well as being the only exercise that fits into my schedule! There is nothing stressful about dating either of them, we're all just having fun and letting the good times roll. I am also totally enjoying playing in the band and it's so much fun being a rock star again, having people fawn over you and want to meet you, etc. I am enjoying not thinking about the future and taking a break from being Super Extreme Planner Adela. That was a concept Brandone suggested to me, to not make ANY PLANS until an arbitrary date, say, March 1, and though it was a mind-blowing concept I decided it was just what I needed to try and he was so right.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
One Guy+Another Guy=Happy Adela
Not at the same time, however! Anyway, so last nite I took DA to the holiday party w/me and we had a nice time. However I had to drink 3 whiskey/Diet Cokes in order to loosen up a little. It was kinda embarrassing since we are both sporting hiccy's too. I took a couple of cute pic's of us, including one of us kissing. I guess I'll put them both up on Facebook although it's a gamble since Stefano might see it and he probably doesn't know yet that I'm seeing someone else. He hasn't asked me outright and I haven't brought it up, so I'll just cross that bridge when it comes a'askin'.
After the party DA and I went back to my place and drank some more and smoked a little and decided to get in bed and watch Fargo since the lad had never seen it. But so far we cannot get through any movies we attempt to watch. After a couple of hours DA told me that he loves me. I was so touched, although he said he wanted to tell me last week when I met him for lunch and also he was afraid telling me would make me mad! (Where do people get this shit?) Anyway, I told him that while I cannot say it back yet, I do really really like him and I care for him and there's things I love about him. He was fine with all that. And although he has been saying he's not the jealous type he did say last night that he's starting to get a little jealous of Stefano. He says the worst part is thinking of someone else kissing on me.
Speaking of Stefano, I was really hoping he'd ask me to hang out on Friday night and today he did Facebook chat me to ask, yay!!! He invited me over for wine, chocolate, and all the hugs and kisses I can stand and also promised to cook breakfast for me on Saturday before I leave for DFW. See--Stefano really pampers me and takes care of me, whereas DA is not in the position to do so. In fact, I shared my "8 Dateable Items" list with Stefano on Sunday morning and Stefano has all but ONE of them! (He's a musician, of course.) Of those items DA has all but TWO of them. But combined they've got all EIGHT, heh heh! Which is why I keep both of them around!!! And combined they are both making me really happy and I am totally having an awesome time with both of them.
After the party DA and I went back to my place and drank some more and smoked a little and decided to get in bed and watch Fargo since the lad had never seen it. But so far we cannot get through any movies we attempt to watch. After a couple of hours DA told me that he loves me. I was so touched, although he said he wanted to tell me last week when I met him for lunch and also he was afraid telling me would make me mad! (Where do people get this shit?) Anyway, I told him that while I cannot say it back yet, I do really really like him and I care for him and there's things I love about him. He was fine with all that. And although he has been saying he's not the jealous type he did say last night that he's starting to get a little jealous of Stefano. He says the worst part is thinking of someone else kissing on me.
Speaking of Stefano, I was really hoping he'd ask me to hang out on Friday night and today he did Facebook chat me to ask, yay!!! He invited me over for wine, chocolate, and all the hugs and kisses I can stand and also promised to cook breakfast for me on Saturday before I leave for DFW. See--Stefano really pampers me and takes care of me, whereas DA is not in the position to do so. In fact, I shared my "8 Dateable Items" list with Stefano on Sunday morning and Stefano has all but ONE of them! (He's a musician, of course.) Of those items DA has all but TWO of them. But combined they've got all EIGHT, heh heh! Which is why I keep both of them around!!! And combined they are both making me really happy and I am totally having an awesome time with both of them.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Blooz, Booze, and Sexy Time
Lotta that going on in Adela land! So here was my weekend, in a nutshell: 1 Brave Combo concert, 2 gigs, 3 hot and heavy dates with 2 men, and 1 patrol shift. Adds up to lotsa good God almighty times!
I guess I have officially become a player. At the gig on Friday was my 48yo boyfriend, S.G., or as I call him "Stefano". He got to meet lots of my friends and my li'l bro, as li'l bro and I arrived at the gig fresh from The Dosey Doe in The Woodlands where we went to spend a little time with Brave Combo and our mother since it was her birthday weekend. Earlier that day my little boyfriend, the 24yo, D.A., had driven all the way near my Job #1 to meet me for lunch as he was dying to see me, the poor lad! So I had him meet me at La Mad and while there I bought my mom a small tart as she loves that shit. D.A. has grown a cute little goatee per my request as I think it makes him look a little older and it makes him look like the writer that he is. I do think he's adorable, and told me on Friday that he is starting to fall for me--his words.
I wasn't sure how to act around Stefano at my gig but he was very attentive and clearly wanted me to be aware he was there for me, so that helped gauge my attention and interest. To be honest I was nervous due to 2 of my most incredible bass playing friends there, including Rozzy and my other dear friend, Q. And Stefano sat right up front to watch us play which also made me nervous. I played mostly ok except I did make a couple obvious mistakes. But I think everyone knew I was nervous, and afterwards got lots of compliments, as always, but men are never 100% honest with me so that's to be expected. Even my ex, M. was there and I actually DID call him on the way home from the gig b/c I was confident he would be mostly truthful with me since he has no agenda with me and never will again! He did in fact tell me lots of nice things about my playing. I had so many people there to see me, it was awesome! L. came and brought her new man, also R. and T. However my dad didn't show and I had even put him on the door... damn him.
I met Stefano at my place so he could help me unload my amp and we had a drink of the scotch that D.A. had brought over, but I didn't want to hang out at my place b/c the bed was unmade, the house was a little untidy, and there were D.A.'s condoms all over the place! So we went to Stefano's house which is literally a 90-second drive away, and commenced with getting to know one another much better. He really is very sexy and cute and gentlemanly and apparently really really really likes me.
Of course he had to drive me back home at a somewhat decent hour the next morning b/c I had to go on patrol by 1400 hrs. Patrol was mostly uneventful except the Sgt. paired me with an FTO who I'd never ridden with before and he was very funny and we had a good time yukking it up all day. But it was drizzly and cold which meant the turds stayed indoors to smoke their crack. I got off around 2130 and went home to change and go to Stefano's house. We listened to music, drank wine, I smoked a cigar, and then yadda yadda yadda. The next morning he got up early to listen to our local blues radio programs and read the NY Times--what a nice change of pace to be dating a cultured, informed, intelligent man for once! I stayed in bed to sleep some more, but he came and very affectionately woke me later. He took me to breakfast at a very cool, very delicious local bagel shop and I am starting to feel more relaxed around him though to be honest I am still pretty shy around both my guys, not sure why. Back at his place he even gave me the Times and his Esquire magazine to take home with me--love it!!!
When I got home I told D.A. to meet me at my place so we could go to my 4pm gig at some biker place together. He came over and I immediately put him to work as my roadie, heh heh. The biker gig was outside in the cold which I was afraid of, but Leo had given me no specifics. There were several musician friends I saw there. This was D.A.'s 1st time to see me play, and he said we did great. I kinda wanted to hang out after we played to see my other friends' bands play but it was cold, I was tired, and I wanted to go home and cuddle, which is what we did. Also I'd had 2 beers at the gig b/c that's all there was to drink there and back home we shared some nachos and I drank some passion fruit rum, delish! D.A. later made himself a whiskey and coke before yadda yadda yadda. (Which I have only done one time before--sexy time with 2 guys in the same day!). The subject of Stefano came up and I told D.A. that Stefano has nothing to do with D.A. or how I feel about him, which is so true. D.A. told me he's been telling his dad how much he cares about me and that his dad said we should all do dinner someday, and I am totally fine with that!
So tonight is the annual holiday party for the High-spanic Health Coalition and I invited D.A. to come with me. We'll hang out tonight and then on Weds. we'll go see our friend play a gig. I'll have Tues. and Thurs. to myself since those are rehearsal nights, and Thurs. my band mates want to go out drinking again, which we did last Thurs. and I got so incredibly wasted but it was way fun. Friday and Saturday is when D.A. has his waiter job so I am hoping Stefano wants to hang out again on Friday (I'll be in Dallas on Saturday). Stefano gets up very early during the week so he can go to the gym and work early so workweek hanging with him is probably not realistic due to my crazy ass schedule. Thus, so far it seems this scheduling time with my menfolk thing will work out since they both have different schedules and hopefully there won't be too many conflicts where I'll have to choose between them!
I guess I have officially become a player. At the gig on Friday was my 48yo boyfriend, S.G., or as I call him "Stefano". He got to meet lots of my friends and my li'l bro, as li'l bro and I arrived at the gig fresh from The Dosey Doe in The Woodlands where we went to spend a little time with Brave Combo and our mother since it was her birthday weekend. Earlier that day my little boyfriend, the 24yo, D.A., had driven all the way near my Job #1 to meet me for lunch as he was dying to see me, the poor lad! So I had him meet me at La Mad and while there I bought my mom a small tart as she loves that shit. D.A. has grown a cute little goatee per my request as I think it makes him look a little older and it makes him look like the writer that he is. I do think he's adorable, and told me on Friday that he is starting to fall for me--his words.
I wasn't sure how to act around Stefano at my gig but he was very attentive and clearly wanted me to be aware he was there for me, so that helped gauge my attention and interest. To be honest I was nervous due to 2 of my most incredible bass playing friends there, including Rozzy and my other dear friend, Q. And Stefano sat right up front to watch us play which also made me nervous. I played mostly ok except I did make a couple obvious mistakes. But I think everyone knew I was nervous, and afterwards got lots of compliments, as always, but men are never 100% honest with me so that's to be expected. Even my ex, M. was there and I actually DID call him on the way home from the gig b/c I was confident he would be mostly truthful with me since he has no agenda with me and never will again! He did in fact tell me lots of nice things about my playing. I had so many people there to see me, it was awesome! L. came and brought her new man, also R. and T. However my dad didn't show and I had even put him on the door... damn him.
I met Stefano at my place so he could help me unload my amp and we had a drink of the scotch that D.A. had brought over, but I didn't want to hang out at my place b/c the bed was unmade, the house was a little untidy, and there were D.A.'s condoms all over the place! So we went to Stefano's house which is literally a 90-second drive away, and commenced with getting to know one another much better. He really is very sexy and cute and gentlemanly and apparently really really really likes me.
Of course he had to drive me back home at a somewhat decent hour the next morning b/c I had to go on patrol by 1400 hrs. Patrol was mostly uneventful except the Sgt. paired me with an FTO who I'd never ridden with before and he was very funny and we had a good time yukking it up all day. But it was drizzly and cold which meant the turds stayed indoors to smoke their crack. I got off around 2130 and went home to change and go to Stefano's house. We listened to music, drank wine, I smoked a cigar, and then yadda yadda yadda. The next morning he got up early to listen to our local blues radio programs and read the NY Times--what a nice change of pace to be dating a cultured, informed, intelligent man for once! I stayed in bed to sleep some more, but he came and very affectionately woke me later. He took me to breakfast at a very cool, very delicious local bagel shop and I am starting to feel more relaxed around him though to be honest I am still pretty shy around both my guys, not sure why. Back at his place he even gave me the Times and his Esquire magazine to take home with me--love it!!!
When I got home I told D.A. to meet me at my place so we could go to my 4pm gig at some biker place together. He came over and I immediately put him to work as my roadie, heh heh. The biker gig was outside in the cold which I was afraid of, but Leo had given me no specifics. There were several musician friends I saw there. This was D.A.'s 1st time to see me play, and he said we did great. I kinda wanted to hang out after we played to see my other friends' bands play but it was cold, I was tired, and I wanted to go home and cuddle, which is what we did. Also I'd had 2 beers at the gig b/c that's all there was to drink there and back home we shared some nachos and I drank some passion fruit rum, delish! D.A. later made himself a whiskey and coke before yadda yadda yadda. (Which I have only done one time before--sexy time with 2 guys in the same day!). The subject of Stefano came up and I told D.A. that Stefano has nothing to do with D.A. or how I feel about him, which is so true. D.A. told me he's been telling his dad how much he cares about me and that his dad said we should all do dinner someday, and I am totally fine with that!
So tonight is the annual holiday party for the High-spanic Health Coalition and I invited D.A. to come with me. We'll hang out tonight and then on Weds. we'll go see our friend play a gig. I'll have Tues. and Thurs. to myself since those are rehearsal nights, and Thurs. my band mates want to go out drinking again, which we did last Thurs. and I got so incredibly wasted but it was way fun. Friday and Saturday is when D.A. has his waiter job so I am hoping Stefano wants to hang out again on Friday (I'll be in Dallas on Saturday). Stefano gets up very early during the week so he can go to the gym and work early so workweek hanging with him is probably not realistic due to my crazy ass schedule. Thus, so far it seems this scheduling time with my menfolk thing will work out since they both have different schedules and hopefully there won't be too many conflicts where I'll have to choose between them!
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Good Times, Mane
Last night was a hoot. DA came over and brought me the bottle of Johnny Walker Red he'd promised me, since he'd gone to the casino in Lake Charles w/his dad on Sunday and won $200. We had time for one drink and to relax a little before meeting Tito J at Karoake. It was later than planned b/c Tito J was delayed getting out of San Antonio; consequently our other boring librarian girlfriends did not show--big fuckin' surprise. But later Janel came and that was awesome since I hadn't seen her in forever. Tito J and I sang a couple and so did DA! Yay for him. It was a late night and after DA and I got back to my place and drank a little more it was an even later night for us. Ya know, he's only 24 but he's got some skills, I tell ya! (Including #5 on my infamous list!)
This morning he was saying he couldn't believe he won't be able to see me until Monday and sent me a text today saying he misses me. Awwww. I like the kid; I'm not gaga though. He's cute and even Tito J said so a couple of times. I love that he's an English major and reads. It's been soooo long since I dated someone who actually reads!!! He says he loves my honesty, that it's refreshing. Yeah, I bet! B/c I was telling him how I have a date this weekend w/SG and DA said that's fine b/c he knows I am going through a transitional phase right now and deserve to have as much fun as I want; also he's not the jealous kind. He says he just enjoys hanging out w/me, that he admires me and I inspire him and motivate him to do better in life. I told him I like hanging out w/him too and we can continue to do so. He's so sweet; he kisses me while I'm sleeping, holds me all the time, caresses, all that wonderful stuff.
Rehearsal tonight and I apparently have so many friends/music peeps coming to the gig tomorrow I am kinda nervous. Esp. having to play in front of Rozz and SG, who keeps saying he knows what a rockin' bass player I am and not to worry so much. He Facebook chatted today to tell me he can't wait to see me tomorrow and I can't wait to see him either. We have date plans on Sat. night after I get done w/my patrol shift but I'm hoping he wants to hang after the gig tomorrow too! I really want to get some SG action if you know what I mean. I didn't get any this past weekend when he was over b/c Aunt Flo was visiting but SG has some incredible qualities, or at least one BIG ONE in particular that I can't wait to familiarize myself with! Thank God my mother is no longer reading this blog!!!
This morning he was saying he couldn't believe he won't be able to see me until Monday and sent me a text today saying he misses me. Awwww. I like the kid; I'm not gaga though. He's cute and even Tito J said so a couple of times. I love that he's an English major and reads. It's been soooo long since I dated someone who actually reads!!! He says he loves my honesty, that it's refreshing. Yeah, I bet! B/c I was telling him how I have a date this weekend w/SG and DA said that's fine b/c he knows I am going through a transitional phase right now and deserve to have as much fun as I want; also he's not the jealous kind. He says he just enjoys hanging out w/me, that he admires me and I inspire him and motivate him to do better in life. I told him I like hanging out w/him too and we can continue to do so. He's so sweet; he kisses me while I'm sleeping, holds me all the time, caresses, all that wonderful stuff.
Rehearsal tonight and I apparently have so many friends/music peeps coming to the gig tomorrow I am kinda nervous. Esp. having to play in front of Rozz and SG, who keeps saying he knows what a rockin' bass player I am and not to worry so much. He Facebook chatted today to tell me he can't wait to see me tomorrow and I can't wait to see him either. We have date plans on Sat. night after I get done w/my patrol shift but I'm hoping he wants to hang after the gig tomorrow too! I really want to get some SG action if you know what I mean. I didn't get any this past weekend when he was over b/c Aunt Flo was visiting but SG has some incredible qualities, or at least one BIG ONE in particular that I can't wait to familiarize myself with! Thank God my mother is no longer reading this blog!!!
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
It's Raining Men
At least, it feels like that a little bit! D.A. stayed over last night and we had a rockin' good time. We watched the old horror movie "The Fog", ate popcorn, drank a bunch of booze, and then... Today we're both covered in hiccy's. He wanted to come over again tonight but I have rehearsal this evening and after that I kinda want to enjoy some Adela time with myself. Besides he'll be over again tomorrow, as we'll join Tito J for some Karoake good times. Tito J is interviewing at my library on Thursday for a job! I need Tito J back home and yes, I am being totally selfish about that.
So then I heard from S.G. today and he asked me to hang out on Saturday night. He's also coming to the gig on Friday night and D.A. told me last night he could not get off work for my gig, to my actual relief! B/c I really want to get some S.G. action this weekend! I just hope the hiccy's wear off by Friday b/c I don't want S.G. to think I'm some kind of fast girl. Which I am! But he doesn't need to know that. I still would like to be treated like a lady by these gentlemen callers. Which is a tough balancing act, b/c D.A. said he hoped he has a future with me and that he hopes I don't have sex with anyone else ("I can't promise that," I told him--100% honesty!) and Jesus, I hope he doesn't fall for me but I kinda think he is already. But if I tell him look, I just want to be fuck-buddies and pals then will he act differently, treat me not so tenderly, not care about me anymore? Should I even not worry/care about this?
JR texted me yesterday "Hey!:)" and I immediately texted back "I thought you told me to quit texting you so how is it I keep hearing from you?" and he responded "I just wanted to see how you were doing Adela, that's all!:)" and I did not respond at all to that. Sounds suspiciously manipulative and I don't trust him. If only he knew how many new dudes I've hung out with after him!
I am beginning to think my eating habits are perhaps altered forever. I actually ate a damn SALAD today--from McDonald's. I rarely eat salads and never salads from McDonald's. But I still don't have any real consistent interest in eating, I just knew I had to eat something so I'd have energy for Job #2 and rehearsal this evening. Yesterday I ate a frozen bagel at work and then on the way to Job #2 I got a $1 double cheeseburger from Burger King and ate it with only 1/2 the bun. Then last night I ate just a tiny bit of popcorn and drank a bunch of box wine. And that is a typical day of eating for me--seriously. I was actually pretty hungry this morning so I got an Egg McMuffin from McD's and then ate the salad this afternoon, and that's all I'll eat today! The other typical thing I'll do is get the 3-strip meal from KFC that comes w/potato wedges and a biscuit--and it'll take me the entire day to eat it and that's all I'll eat that day. This has been going on since August. My only concern, since I am enjoying the weight staying off, is that I do need to eat more fruits/vegetables. Just not sure when/where I can sneak them in.
I do want to start running again and have decided to do Memorial Park as soon as I have the time, which I don't anytime soon. But that means at least I will be forced to eat bananas on days I run. I just have no patience for eating anymore. I'd rather be doing other stuff--hanging out w/gentlemen callers, listening to and playing music, planning my next road trips, going out and drinking, etc.
So then I heard from S.G. today and he asked me to hang out on Saturday night. He's also coming to the gig on Friday night and D.A. told me last night he could not get off work for my gig, to my actual relief! B/c I really want to get some S.G. action this weekend! I just hope the hiccy's wear off by Friday b/c I don't want S.G. to think I'm some kind of fast girl. Which I am! But he doesn't need to know that. I still would like to be treated like a lady by these gentlemen callers. Which is a tough balancing act, b/c D.A. said he hoped he has a future with me and that he hopes I don't have sex with anyone else ("I can't promise that," I told him--100% honesty!) and Jesus, I hope he doesn't fall for me but I kinda think he is already. But if I tell him look, I just want to be fuck-buddies and pals then will he act differently, treat me not so tenderly, not care about me anymore? Should I even not worry/care about this?
JR texted me yesterday "Hey!:)" and I immediately texted back "I thought you told me to quit texting you so how is it I keep hearing from you?" and he responded "I just wanted to see how you were doing Adela, that's all!:)" and I did not respond at all to that. Sounds suspiciously manipulative and I don't trust him. If only he knew how many new dudes I've hung out with after him!
I am beginning to think my eating habits are perhaps altered forever. I actually ate a damn SALAD today--from McDonald's. I rarely eat salads and never salads from McDonald's. But I still don't have any real consistent interest in eating, I just knew I had to eat something so I'd have energy for Job #2 and rehearsal this evening. Yesterday I ate a frozen bagel at work and then on the way to Job #2 I got a $1 double cheeseburger from Burger King and ate it with only 1/2 the bun. Then last night I ate just a tiny bit of popcorn and drank a bunch of box wine. And that is a typical day of eating for me--seriously. I was actually pretty hungry this morning so I got an Egg McMuffin from McD's and then ate the salad this afternoon, and that's all I'll eat today! The other typical thing I'll do is get the 3-strip meal from KFC that comes w/potato wedges and a biscuit--and it'll take me the entire day to eat it and that's all I'll eat that day. This has been going on since August. My only concern, since I am enjoying the weight staying off, is that I do need to eat more fruits/vegetables. Just not sure when/where I can sneak them in.
I do want to start running again and have decided to do Memorial Park as soon as I have the time, which I don't anytime soon. But that means at least I will be forced to eat bananas on days I run. I just have no patience for eating anymore. I'd rather be doing other stuff--hanging out w/gentlemen callers, listening to and playing music, planning my next road trips, going out and drinking, etc.
Sunday, December 06, 2009
Well Obviously the Good Times Is Rollin'
I have been way busy these past few days w/my gentlemen callers! Thurs. night is when D.A. came over and we got seriously drunk and he spent the night. He came back over Friday night so he could accompany me to the Continental Club for Big Sam's Funky Nation which was KILLER as always! He left on Saturday early afternoon to go watch football w/his dad and I got ready for my "date" that evening with my guitarist friend/neighbor, S.G. (Which D.A. knew about, since I am all about 100% honesty and everyone knows it!) S.G. took me to a local neighborhood dive bar and we drank several Crown and Cokes, after which time I invited him to come with me to Dan's to see Tommy Castro. The place was packed and M.B. was there, back reunited w/his girlfriend, and A. was there of course. Rozzy's band was opening up too--bonus! S.G. and I watched the show from right in front of the stage and he brought me a couple glasses of wine and soon he went in for the kiss and we were making out on the dance floor. The band was incredible, and S.C. texted me while I was there telling me I would totally dig the bass player which I totally did!
So when the show was over we headed back to our neighborhood and S.G. lives maybe 1/2 mile from me so he wanted to show me his house, which was really nice and clean and decorated nice and everything! We made out awhile there and then I said I wanted to show him my place so we hopped over here and made out a lot more and then passed out. He stayed the night and this morning he took me out for breakfast. I've known S.G. for years and always thought he was cute although he is a guitarist so is probably a bit of a player, but at least I'm aware of that! What's funny is that I never thought the evening would end like that b/c I never gave him much thought before, but he really is cute and sweet and fun and seems to enjoy taking care of me, so who knows?
So D.A. went out of town overnight w/his dad and keeps texting/calling me. He wants to come over tomorrow night, wants to come make me dinner later on in the week, wants me to come see his house in Sugar Land, wants to come to my gig on Friday night! And S.G. said he'd come to my gig on Friday night as well!!! Holy sheep shit, I am not sure how to handle this!!! I think I won't worry about it for the time being b/c I just can't deal with it. I'm trying to have a sense of humor about it though.
Tonight B.B. invited me to the Bach society concert which was a wonderful thing to go to and it was beautiful and classy and just such a nice change of pace from all the crazy things I usually do. Afterwards he had a gift card to Pappadeux so we went there and had a very nice meal, including wine and dessert. I hadn't been eating hardly anything all weekend (b/c I've been lounging around in bed with menfolk and drinking a lot) and dropped another couple pounds but tonight I ate a whole lot. I have to admit, I'm having fun and that's what I need to be doing. Although I ran into my neighbor this evening in the courtyard and he told me that J.R. had called him last week to ask if I was dating anyone new!!! Oh good lord!
So when the show was over we headed back to our neighborhood and S.G. lives maybe 1/2 mile from me so he wanted to show me his house, which was really nice and clean and decorated nice and everything! We made out awhile there and then I said I wanted to show him my place so we hopped over here and made out a lot more and then passed out. He stayed the night and this morning he took me out for breakfast. I've known S.G. for years and always thought he was cute although he is a guitarist so is probably a bit of a player, but at least I'm aware of that! What's funny is that I never thought the evening would end like that b/c I never gave him much thought before, but he really is cute and sweet and fun and seems to enjoy taking care of me, so who knows?
So D.A. went out of town overnight w/his dad and keeps texting/calling me. He wants to come over tomorrow night, wants to come make me dinner later on in the week, wants me to come see his house in Sugar Land, wants to come to my gig on Friday night! And S.G. said he'd come to my gig on Friday night as well!!! Holy sheep shit, I am not sure how to handle this!!! I think I won't worry about it for the time being b/c I just can't deal with it. I'm trying to have a sense of humor about it though.
Tonight B.B. invited me to the Bach society concert which was a wonderful thing to go to and it was beautiful and classy and just such a nice change of pace from all the crazy things I usually do. Afterwards he had a gift card to Pappadeux so we went there and had a very nice meal, including wine and dessert. I hadn't been eating hardly anything all weekend (b/c I've been lounging around in bed with menfolk and drinking a lot) and dropped another couple pounds but tonight I ate a whole lot. I have to admit, I'm having fun and that's what I need to be doing. Although I ran into my neighbor this evening in the courtyard and he told me that J.R. had called him last week to ask if I was dating anyone new!!! Oh good lord!
Tuesday, December 01, 2009
Crazy Holiday Times Cont.
Whoo, before I get back into my tales of the weekend I should give a shout out to last night which was indeed crazy large! I didn't even get home until almost 5am today and subsequently am running on fumes with just over 2 hrs. sleep. I still have Job #2 this evening and rehearsal after that. I am out of my damn mind, but I think we established that a long time ago. But after rehearsal I think I will have no choice but to get my crazy ass home and seriously collapse and will try to force myself to go to sleep waaaaay earlier than usual tonight. I just hope I'm able.
But anyway, so last night I'd made previous plans w/my little drummer cop friend M.B. (the one I played with in a band c. 10 yrs. ago when he was 15 years old) to go see our friend's killer band at the Big Easy. Actually this is the same band that I just opened up for at my gig a couple weeks ago. Monday is "Tequila Mondays" at the Big E and M.B. was all depressed b/c his girlfriend just moved out yesterday! I thought I was going to be depressed b/c I had the monthly sheriff meeting last night and was in no mood to be in the same room as S, however S did not show and Mudflap said he didn't know where he was. So after we all went to eat dinner (I just had chips/queso but then our secretary forced me to eat one of her tacos) I ran out to meet M.B. and he was bummed b/c the scene was dead. Well duh, it was a Monday night after all! I wasn't surprised but he was hoping to find some women, heh heh.
We started drinking tequila immediately and M.B. had a friend there with him, another 24-year old friend of his that he's known since high school, D.A. He was kinda quiet but kinda cute and the 3 of us just hung together all night long. I tried to coax them to come with me to see LDB's other band play at the Continental but M.B. really wanted to see our friend's band play, so we just stayed there. I danced with both the boys. Nice slow dance w/D.A.! He said he wanted to hang out with me more which I thought was sweet! M.B. kept flirting with me and then D.A. started doing the same and I told them both they were drunk. I had 4 tequila shots which I barely felt b/c they were spread out over 3 hours and I'd eaten a good amount that evening and my alcohol tolerance is admittedly kinda high these days! I had a small amount of beer later but I was fine. M.B. had like 8 tequila shots and D.A. had one but stuck w/the beer all night.
We decided to go to the House of Guys and M.B. called his fellow officer friend, the one we had gone to eat with the last time M.B. and I went out. D.A. started laying it on a little thick, asking if I'd remember him today, putting his arm around my back, trying to share his hamburger with me, asking if he could call me today, etc. It was really quite funny and when D.A. left to smoke a cig the other guys were cracking up over it. M.B. forced me to share my "8 Dateable Qualities" list with him and he was pointing out all the items he had on the list and insisting that I should date him. Wise ass! Anyway, I am actually hoping D.A. calls/texts me today. He says he plays a little guitar and I told him he MUST see The Last Waltz! Meaning, he needs to come to my house to see it!
Ok so picking up on the holiday weekend where I left off. So I left town on Friday evening around 6:30 for the drive to Burnet, TX. (BTW, JR texted me 3 times that morning! Aaargh! Now under the guise of looking for a pair of his jeans, also to offer to give me my sheriff belt buckle back! OMG. Aggravated sigh.) I took my time on the drive, blasted my tunes, enjoyed the Texas countryside and my freedom--it was awesome. G. and B. met me down the country road from G.'s house and guided me in since it was late by then and dark. G. lives in a nice house on the lake w/his mom and aunt and it was really pretty great, with their big wooden deck out back that overlooks the lake. We drank--a lot--out there and smoked (them cigs, me cigars) and stayed up late and G. and I got so giddy his mom had to come out and ask us to keep it down! There was also a humongous Rottweiler in the house named Duke that was scaring me until he was finally let out of his cage and forced to become friends with me. Later on Duke and I danced to Los Lobos out on the deck. For real!
I slept in G.'s room on his fabulous comfy bed. I tried to get him to sleep w/me (we've shared many a bed together on many a road trip over the years) but I passed out drunk and he split soon after I'm sure. I slept until almost noon on Sat. morning and really, really needed to! B. had made a delicious breakfast and soon after we got ready to head to Austin for the day. We went in B.'s big comfy pickup truck and the drive took about an hour but we were in no hurry. B. had promised me nothing but R&R that weekend and that is what I got! In Austin I had to find a Spec's so I could buy some sweet-tea flavored vodka and we finally found one on the damn freeway. We also drove a little bit around the city which was a great feeling, as I have always adored Austin except for the traffic and the yuppies. G. had never visited the Stevie Ray Vaughan statue on the lake so we did that and took pic's. Then we went to the Continental Club to have a drink before going next door to the tattoo parlor for G.
I had decided to tattoo 2 blue eighth-notes on the inside of my right ring finger. I thought that would be unobtrusive enough to not get noticed very often, esp. while on duty by any Sgt. or higher-up! G. wanted a spider web on his elbow (at first I had joked that I would get the spider on my elbow!) There was an awesome band playing at the CC and I had Southern Comfort on the rocks for a change of pace. Finally we went next door. But they said my idea wouldn't work!!! Apparently you have to use a thick-ass needle for the palm of the hand area due to the skin type and tiny delicate eighth-notes would not be possible on a finger. Damn! I tried to think of alternate areas to place them while G. was getting worked on and even discussed the situation long-distance w/Tito J. I came very close to the behind the ear area but B. made me go to the Continental to drink with him and then I was just over it. Glad now!!!
After G. was done we headed back to the house and G. had to drive b/c B. was drunk by then. I sat in the back of the truck and began drinking my sweet tea vodka and was feeling pretty groovy by the time we got home! SC even texted me at one point and said he was drinking "devil rum" wherever the hell he was. G.'s mom had made ribs for us so we ate and drank some more and then settled in to watch movies. I made G. lie on the big chair next to me but passed out pretty soon, at which point B. and G. made me go to bed!
Sunday I slept late again... bliss... and their mom made us a killer country breakfast! I ate a lot, which was probably a good thing for me to do, but B. ended up tossing his up outside near our cars! Crazy bitch can't hold his liquor! We watched a little football but then I had to head out around 2 in order to make it to the Horn to see the Houston Funk Factory play that night at 7:30. We made plans to visit again for New Year's, perhaps do the Marfa trip at that time too. I miss G. so much sometimes!!!
The drive home was a little frustrating, with lots of traffic and rain and bleh. I blasted my tunes though and enjoyed myself regardless. Got home barely in time to throw on a cute outfit, do my face/makeup and meet my girlfriend K. at the Horn! (Rozz had flaked, damn him.) The joint was really really nice and it was great to see it renovated, as I used to play the jams there and also a gig or 2. While I was waiting for K. to show up I UNBELIEVABLY got a text from the state trooper that said "So when do I see you again"!!! Is he FOR REAL??? After his manners??? When K. showed up I caught her up to speed on that and she was like, "Uh-UH!" I began drinking my Rieslings on an empty stomach and after an hour I actually did text back, "I am out all the time! I'm out right now!" and he texted back, "Cool. Well u have my number if u need anything." I can't think of anything I could possibly need from him. He blew it, man.
The band was KILLER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Holy shit! My friend from high school on trombone killed it--actually he used to play and tour with many jazz legends so no surprise there. K. and I noticed how cute the sax player is, and I had heard his name before and I also decided I had to meet him. Another musician I know showed up to watch the show and it was nice to see him. K. left during the 2nd set and I stayed to finish it out. Then I introduced myself to the bass player who I have been seeing play since I was a teenager (he's also an alum of my high school) and then the cute sax player and they were both so incredibly nice! I told K. we MUST return next week and I texted Rozz that he also MUST join me next week. Last night I told M.B. about it too and he agreed to accompany me as well!
But anyway, so last night I'd made previous plans w/my little drummer cop friend M.B. (the one I played with in a band c. 10 yrs. ago when he was 15 years old) to go see our friend's killer band at the Big Easy. Actually this is the same band that I just opened up for at my gig a couple weeks ago. Monday is "Tequila Mondays" at the Big E and M.B. was all depressed b/c his girlfriend just moved out yesterday! I thought I was going to be depressed b/c I had the monthly sheriff meeting last night and was in no mood to be in the same room as S, however S did not show and Mudflap said he didn't know where he was. So after we all went to eat dinner (I just had chips/queso but then our secretary forced me to eat one of her tacos) I ran out to meet M.B. and he was bummed b/c the scene was dead. Well duh, it was a Monday night after all! I wasn't surprised but he was hoping to find some women, heh heh.
We started drinking tequila immediately and M.B. had a friend there with him, another 24-year old friend of his that he's known since high school, D.A. He was kinda quiet but kinda cute and the 3 of us just hung together all night long. I tried to coax them to come with me to see LDB's other band play at the Continental but M.B. really wanted to see our friend's band play, so we just stayed there. I danced with both the boys. Nice slow dance w/D.A.! He said he wanted to hang out with me more which I thought was sweet! M.B. kept flirting with me and then D.A. started doing the same and I told them both they were drunk. I had 4 tequila shots which I barely felt b/c they were spread out over 3 hours and I'd eaten a good amount that evening and my alcohol tolerance is admittedly kinda high these days! I had a small amount of beer later but I was fine. M.B. had like 8 tequila shots and D.A. had one but stuck w/the beer all night.
We decided to go to the House of Guys and M.B. called his fellow officer friend, the one we had gone to eat with the last time M.B. and I went out. D.A. started laying it on a little thick, asking if I'd remember him today, putting his arm around my back, trying to share his hamburger with me, asking if he could call me today, etc. It was really quite funny and when D.A. left to smoke a cig the other guys were cracking up over it. M.B. forced me to share my "8 Dateable Qualities" list with him and he was pointing out all the items he had on the list and insisting that I should date him. Wise ass! Anyway, I am actually hoping D.A. calls/texts me today. He says he plays a little guitar and I told him he MUST see The Last Waltz! Meaning, he needs to come to my house to see it!
Ok so picking up on the holiday weekend where I left off. So I left town on Friday evening around 6:30 for the drive to Burnet, TX. (BTW, JR texted me 3 times that morning! Aaargh! Now under the guise of looking for a pair of his jeans, also to offer to give me my sheriff belt buckle back! OMG. Aggravated sigh.) I took my time on the drive, blasted my tunes, enjoyed the Texas countryside and my freedom--it was awesome. G. and B. met me down the country road from G.'s house and guided me in since it was late by then and dark. G. lives in a nice house on the lake w/his mom and aunt and it was really pretty great, with their big wooden deck out back that overlooks the lake. We drank--a lot--out there and smoked (them cigs, me cigars) and stayed up late and G. and I got so giddy his mom had to come out and ask us to keep it down! There was also a humongous Rottweiler in the house named Duke that was scaring me until he was finally let out of his cage and forced to become friends with me. Later on Duke and I danced to Los Lobos out on the deck. For real!
I slept in G.'s room on his fabulous comfy bed. I tried to get him to sleep w/me (we've shared many a bed together on many a road trip over the years) but I passed out drunk and he split soon after I'm sure. I slept until almost noon on Sat. morning and really, really needed to! B. had made a delicious breakfast and soon after we got ready to head to Austin for the day. We went in B.'s big comfy pickup truck and the drive took about an hour but we were in no hurry. B. had promised me nothing but R&R that weekend and that is what I got! In Austin I had to find a Spec's so I could buy some sweet-tea flavored vodka and we finally found one on the damn freeway. We also drove a little bit around the city which was a great feeling, as I have always adored Austin except for the traffic and the yuppies. G. had never visited the Stevie Ray Vaughan statue on the lake so we did that and took pic's. Then we went to the Continental Club to have a drink before going next door to the tattoo parlor for G.
I had decided to tattoo 2 blue eighth-notes on the inside of my right ring finger. I thought that would be unobtrusive enough to not get noticed very often, esp. while on duty by any Sgt. or higher-up! G. wanted a spider web on his elbow (at first I had joked that I would get the spider on my elbow!) There was an awesome band playing at the CC and I had Southern Comfort on the rocks for a change of pace. Finally we went next door. But they said my idea wouldn't work!!! Apparently you have to use a thick-ass needle for the palm of the hand area due to the skin type and tiny delicate eighth-notes would not be possible on a finger. Damn! I tried to think of alternate areas to place them while G. was getting worked on and even discussed the situation long-distance w/Tito J. I came very close to the behind the ear area but B. made me go to the Continental to drink with him and then I was just over it. Glad now!!!
After G. was done we headed back to the house and G. had to drive b/c B. was drunk by then. I sat in the back of the truck and began drinking my sweet tea vodka and was feeling pretty groovy by the time we got home! SC even texted me at one point and said he was drinking "devil rum" wherever the hell he was. G.'s mom had made ribs for us so we ate and drank some more and then settled in to watch movies. I made G. lie on the big chair next to me but passed out pretty soon, at which point B. and G. made me go to bed!
Sunday I slept late again... bliss... and their mom made us a killer country breakfast! I ate a lot, which was probably a good thing for me to do, but B. ended up tossing his up outside near our cars! Crazy bitch can't hold his liquor! We watched a little football but then I had to head out around 2 in order to make it to the Horn to see the Houston Funk Factory play that night at 7:30. We made plans to visit again for New Year's, perhaps do the Marfa trip at that time too. I miss G. so much sometimes!!!
The drive home was a little frustrating, with lots of traffic and rain and bleh. I blasted my tunes though and enjoyed myself regardless. Got home barely in time to throw on a cute outfit, do my face/makeup and meet my girlfriend K. at the Horn! (Rozz had flaked, damn him.) The joint was really really nice and it was great to see it renovated, as I used to play the jams there and also a gig or 2. While I was waiting for K. to show up I UNBELIEVABLY got a text from the state trooper that said "So when do I see you again"!!! Is he FOR REAL??? After his manners??? When K. showed up I caught her up to speed on that and she was like, "Uh-UH!" I began drinking my Rieslings on an empty stomach and after an hour I actually did text back, "I am out all the time! I'm out right now!" and he texted back, "Cool. Well u have my number if u need anything." I can't think of anything I could possibly need from him. He blew it, man.
The band was KILLER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Holy shit! My friend from high school on trombone killed it--actually he used to play and tour with many jazz legends so no surprise there. K. and I noticed how cute the sax player is, and I had heard his name before and I also decided I had to meet him. Another musician I know showed up to watch the show and it was nice to see him. K. left during the 2nd set and I stayed to finish it out. Then I introduced myself to the bass player who I have been seeing play since I was a teenager (he's also an alum of my high school) and then the cute sax player and they were both so incredibly nice! I told K. we MUST return next week and I texted Rozz that he also MUST join me next week. Last night I told M.B. about it too and he agreed to accompany me as well!
Monday, November 30, 2009
Crazy Holiday Times!
I have been drunk every day since last Wednesday! Now that's what I call a fun holiday week! Last night was a little more sedate though, seeing as how it was a school night. I only had 2 glasses of Riesling on an empty stomach. So wasn't really drunk, just slightly buzzed. Yay me and my restraint!
So last Wednesday night was So. Much. Fun!!! Rozzy took me to this awesome place he knows that has a Frozen Mojito machine!!! I never even heard of such! We knocked back a few--DELICIOUS--and I wanted to take him to see LDB's band (the one that had the CD release party on Tues. night) at the place where my cousin spins traxx which is also next door to this place where B.B. had told me has a killer honkytonk band on Weds. nights. LDB had called and texted me earlier in the evening to remind me. Rozz and I finally made our way over there but when we arrived the band was already in the parking lot, finished already. Boo! LDB and I quickly finalized our Sneak Away Thanksgiving Day Drink plans and he headed out and Rozz and I went next door. The place was packed! The band was killer! It was a fun scene for sure! I had been wanting to try this sweet tea flavored vodka so I ordered it up on the rocks and it was soooo yummy! Even smelled like sweet tea! I had 2 and Rozz had beer. The band did all klassic kuntry and I loved every damn bit of it. B.B. was there dancing, as always. SC texted me while I was there. What a sweetheart.
Soon I wanted to go to the Big Easy for the last part of the jam, since I'd had a personal invite from the guitar player and everything. My ex, Mike, had not contacted me to meet him there after all but I was not heartbroken over it! I was outside finishing my cigar and this cute guitar player that I had a brief fling with years ago (I used to call him "Scooter" b/c he looked so young) all of a sudden popped up out of the crowd and grabbed me and gave me a huge hug. He got married right before I did, and he is in fact, still married so good for him! Back inside, the blues music was quite enjoyable and Rozz and I continued drinking. When it was all over Rozz said he would take me to an underground speakeasy but I was pretty drunk and decided I needed a taco first, so we went to my favorite local taqueria where we ended up getting kicked out at 3:30 am. I didn't even know the place closed at 3:30! By then I was too drunk to do a speakeasy so I gave Rozz a hug and went home.
Thursday morning was a little rough, and I was moving pretty slow. I had to make 2 batches of sausage balls and normally I eat a few of them as they are made but I had no appetite whatsoever. LDB texted me saying to let him know when I was ready for the drink, that he needed one already. For breakfast I had finished some coconut rum that was left out the night before, just b/c I didn't want to waste it. My aunt had said to be at her house at 1pm but I couldn't make it out the door until almost 1:30 and my uncle even called me to check on me! But I got there in time to start eating w/everyone, including il pater familias and girlfriend. I still wasn't hungry but tried to eat a little bit of everything. Frankly I couldn't wait to meet LDB for that drink. My aunt said that my cousin would be arriving around 3pm and my uncle left to go buy limes for his Crown Royal, so I secretly called LDB (the fun of the whole thing was how secretive he and I were being, sneaking out like teenagers!) and said I could get away before my cousin showed up.
He was pretty much down the street from me and so we decided to meet on the major street that we were both located off of. He headed towards me and I investigated a few parking lots and decided on the side of an Auto Zone which was nice and shaded and private, right near my aunt's house. I told him to block my car w/his in case my uncle drove by and spotted me! I got in LDB's Nissan Xterra with my bag o' liquor: Johnny Walker Red and in case he didn't like scotch, Malibu Passion Fruit Rum. As I explained to LDB I wanted to get something to drink that I never had before (the Malibu) or that I hadn't had in years (the scotch) just to enhance the memory of the Sneakaway Thanksgiving Day Drink! LDB had the scotch and I had a bit of the Malibu before I switched to the scotch, which was very soothing I must say. We listened to a bunch of music and drank and chatted and next thing I knew it was almost 4pm so I said I had to get back before I got grounded and lost my phone privileges. We had both been commiserating on how this was the 1st Thanksgiving in years that we had to do solo since we're both going through divorces. But for me the music and companionship and booze made up for it, at least a little bit!
Fortunately when I got back to my aunt's house my cousin had just arrived and my uncle handed me a Crown and Sprite w/lime! I visited for a bit, took pictures, texted LDB some wise cracks, and then loaded up to-go plates for my brother and myself and took off to meet li'l bro. I picked him and we went to his girlfriend's house where her family was visiting. Finally it was time to meet Tito J. at my house, as we'd planned to crash R.'s Tgiving festivities and then go out all night long afterwards! Tito J. came over and he looked fabulous as always so I threw on my leather pants so I could look almost as sexy as he! We went to R.'s place and ended up playing a couple rounds of Taboo with the group. Tito J. had met a guy online the night before that he was to meet at 10:30 so we still had an hour to kill so I decided we'd run by the blues jam for a bit. My friend A. (SC's and my mutual friend) was there and he told me to put an upcoming show on my calendar, so I did. Then Tito J and I went to meet his new friend at the gay club.
I talked Tito J into having a sweet tea flavored vodka on the rocks w/me but Tito J had to have them water it down! The guy he met was very sweet and they seemed to be hitting it off. There were cute gay guys dancing on tables in their underwear but my main entertainment was drinking. Then I remembered my cousin was going to be spinning traxx that night, and I told Tito J I was gonna run over there for a bit. The place was literally a 2-minute drive away anyway, and as I walked in my cousin was doing his thing. Then my cousin's friend starting buying me drinks. I had one, danced a little bit, and as I came off the dance floor I was immediately handed another drink! My cousin and I got to visit a little bit but I was getting drunker and decided to sneak out with my drink in hand and tell Tito J it was time for karoake! I texted Tito J and he agreed so I met him and his friend at the Spotlight.
The Spotlight was not too crowded, of course by this time it was around 12:30am. We got a table and started signing up for songs. At the table next to us were 3 Hispanic guys and I decided I would go say hi to them. It was 2 brothers and their friend and I was trying to find out if they were going to get up and sing or not! Then I went back to our table and one of the guys came over to me after a few minutes. Turns out he is a state trooper! Ooh sexy. I got called up and sang R. Kelly's "Bump and Grind". Joel sang too and then he and I did our famous "Seasons of Love" from Rent. I chatted w/the state trooper some more and next thing I knew I was slow dancing w/him, ha ha! After that it didn't take much to invite him back to my place for some Johnny Walker Red! Also Tito J was really hitting it off w/his friend and also he kept telling me how cute the state trooper was.
So the state trooper had to drop off his brother and turns out they don't even live that far from me. Tito J and I went back to my place so he could get his car and go meet his friend. I was really, really, really pretty drunk but figured I could get my act together enough in order to hang out with the trooper. So he came over and he had some scotch though I was pretty much just sipping/finishing my stolen drink from earlier. Then he decided it was time to make out and things progressed from there. Finally around 6am I passed out and he also said he was going to sleep for an hour or so.
Around 9:30am he said he had to go and my head was spinning. We went downstairs and I sat on the chair while he put his clothes on. I got the gate clicker to click him out and he went out the door and said "Bye, see ya" and left!!! No hug, no kiss, nada! I was surprised AND put out! I don't think that's ever happened to me before, one night stand or not!!! Okaaaaay, fine! Whatever!
I was supposed to do a patrol shift that afternoon but realized that would be even too crazy for me, considering my delicate state. I decided what I needed to do was be on time for my eyebrow appointment, come back home and take a good nap, then drive to the Hill country that night! Which is what I did. Surprisingly, state trooper texted me at around 4:30pm to ask how my day was going?!?!? I waited 15 min. and sent back, "Good after I took a nap! How about you?" and he responded "Still tired. :)" and I was done.
Next post: weekend fun in the hill country and Austin w/G. and B., and Sunday night back in Houston!
So last Wednesday night was So. Much. Fun!!! Rozzy took me to this awesome place he knows that has a Frozen Mojito machine!!! I never even heard of such! We knocked back a few--DELICIOUS--and I wanted to take him to see LDB's band (the one that had the CD release party on Tues. night) at the place where my cousin spins traxx which is also next door to this place where B.B. had told me has a killer honkytonk band on Weds. nights. LDB had called and texted me earlier in the evening to remind me. Rozz and I finally made our way over there but when we arrived the band was already in the parking lot, finished already. Boo! LDB and I quickly finalized our Sneak Away Thanksgiving Day Drink plans and he headed out and Rozz and I went next door. The place was packed! The band was killer! It was a fun scene for sure! I had been wanting to try this sweet tea flavored vodka so I ordered it up on the rocks and it was soooo yummy! Even smelled like sweet tea! I had 2 and Rozz had beer. The band did all klassic kuntry and I loved every damn bit of it. B.B. was there dancing, as always. SC texted me while I was there. What a sweetheart.
Soon I wanted to go to the Big Easy for the last part of the jam, since I'd had a personal invite from the guitar player and everything. My ex, Mike, had not contacted me to meet him there after all but I was not heartbroken over it! I was outside finishing my cigar and this cute guitar player that I had a brief fling with years ago (I used to call him "Scooter" b/c he looked so young) all of a sudden popped up out of the crowd and grabbed me and gave me a huge hug. He got married right before I did, and he is in fact, still married so good for him! Back inside, the blues music was quite enjoyable and Rozz and I continued drinking. When it was all over Rozz said he would take me to an underground speakeasy but I was pretty drunk and decided I needed a taco first, so we went to my favorite local taqueria where we ended up getting kicked out at 3:30 am. I didn't even know the place closed at 3:30! By then I was too drunk to do a speakeasy so I gave Rozz a hug and went home.
Thursday morning was a little rough, and I was moving pretty slow. I had to make 2 batches of sausage balls and normally I eat a few of them as they are made but I had no appetite whatsoever. LDB texted me saying to let him know when I was ready for the drink, that he needed one already. For breakfast I had finished some coconut rum that was left out the night before, just b/c I didn't want to waste it. My aunt had said to be at her house at 1pm but I couldn't make it out the door until almost 1:30 and my uncle even called me to check on me! But I got there in time to start eating w/everyone, including il pater familias and girlfriend. I still wasn't hungry but tried to eat a little bit of everything. Frankly I couldn't wait to meet LDB for that drink. My aunt said that my cousin would be arriving around 3pm and my uncle left to go buy limes for his Crown Royal, so I secretly called LDB (the fun of the whole thing was how secretive he and I were being, sneaking out like teenagers!) and said I could get away before my cousin showed up.
He was pretty much down the street from me and so we decided to meet on the major street that we were both located off of. He headed towards me and I investigated a few parking lots and decided on the side of an Auto Zone which was nice and shaded and private, right near my aunt's house. I told him to block my car w/his in case my uncle drove by and spotted me! I got in LDB's Nissan Xterra with my bag o' liquor: Johnny Walker Red and in case he didn't like scotch, Malibu Passion Fruit Rum. As I explained to LDB I wanted to get something to drink that I never had before (the Malibu) or that I hadn't had in years (the scotch) just to enhance the memory of the Sneakaway Thanksgiving Day Drink! LDB had the scotch and I had a bit of the Malibu before I switched to the scotch, which was very soothing I must say. We listened to a bunch of music and drank and chatted and next thing I knew it was almost 4pm so I said I had to get back before I got grounded and lost my phone privileges. We had both been commiserating on how this was the 1st Thanksgiving in years that we had to do solo since we're both going through divorces. But for me the music and companionship and booze made up for it, at least a little bit!
Fortunately when I got back to my aunt's house my cousin had just arrived and my uncle handed me a Crown and Sprite w/lime! I visited for a bit, took pictures, texted LDB some wise cracks, and then loaded up to-go plates for my brother and myself and took off to meet li'l bro. I picked him and we went to his girlfriend's house where her family was visiting. Finally it was time to meet Tito J. at my house, as we'd planned to crash R.'s Tgiving festivities and then go out all night long afterwards! Tito J. came over and he looked fabulous as always so I threw on my leather pants so I could look almost as sexy as he! We went to R.'s place and ended up playing a couple rounds of Taboo with the group. Tito J. had met a guy online the night before that he was to meet at 10:30 so we still had an hour to kill so I decided we'd run by the blues jam for a bit. My friend A. (SC's and my mutual friend) was there and he told me to put an upcoming show on my calendar, so I did. Then Tito J and I went to meet his new friend at the gay club.
I talked Tito J into having a sweet tea flavored vodka on the rocks w/me but Tito J had to have them water it down! The guy he met was very sweet and they seemed to be hitting it off. There were cute gay guys dancing on tables in their underwear but my main entertainment was drinking. Then I remembered my cousin was going to be spinning traxx that night, and I told Tito J I was gonna run over there for a bit. The place was literally a 2-minute drive away anyway, and as I walked in my cousin was doing his thing. Then my cousin's friend starting buying me drinks. I had one, danced a little bit, and as I came off the dance floor I was immediately handed another drink! My cousin and I got to visit a little bit but I was getting drunker and decided to sneak out with my drink in hand and tell Tito J it was time for karoake! I texted Tito J and he agreed so I met him and his friend at the Spotlight.
The Spotlight was not too crowded, of course by this time it was around 12:30am. We got a table and started signing up for songs. At the table next to us were 3 Hispanic guys and I decided I would go say hi to them. It was 2 brothers and their friend and I was trying to find out if they were going to get up and sing or not! Then I went back to our table and one of the guys came over to me after a few minutes. Turns out he is a state trooper! Ooh sexy. I got called up and sang R. Kelly's "Bump and Grind". Joel sang too and then he and I did our famous "Seasons of Love" from Rent. I chatted w/the state trooper some more and next thing I knew I was slow dancing w/him, ha ha! After that it didn't take much to invite him back to my place for some Johnny Walker Red! Also Tito J was really hitting it off w/his friend and also he kept telling me how cute the state trooper was.
So the state trooper had to drop off his brother and turns out they don't even live that far from me. Tito J and I went back to my place so he could get his car and go meet his friend. I was really, really, really pretty drunk but figured I could get my act together enough in order to hang out with the trooper. So he came over and he had some scotch though I was pretty much just sipping/finishing my stolen drink from earlier. Then he decided it was time to make out and things progressed from there. Finally around 6am I passed out and he also said he was going to sleep for an hour or so.
Around 9:30am he said he had to go and my head was spinning. We went downstairs and I sat on the chair while he put his clothes on. I got the gate clicker to click him out and he went out the door and said "Bye, see ya" and left!!! No hug, no kiss, nada! I was surprised AND put out! I don't think that's ever happened to me before, one night stand or not!!! Okaaaaay, fine! Whatever!
I was supposed to do a patrol shift that afternoon but realized that would be even too crazy for me, considering my delicate state. I decided what I needed to do was be on time for my eyebrow appointment, come back home and take a good nap, then drive to the Hill country that night! Which is what I did. Surprisingly, state trooper texted me at around 4:30pm to ask how my day was going?!?!? I waited 15 min. and sent back, "Good after I took a nap! How about you?" and he responded "Still tired. :)" and I was done.
Next post: weekend fun in the hill country and Austin w/G. and B., and Sunday night back in Houston!
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