Today was a joyous day. I spent so long talking on the phone last night to DA that I was all wired up, also from sushi/sake w/L. that I didn't get to bed 'til around 2:30am. It was then that I realized I would be in no shape to go to Job #1 today and so I called in today to take the day off. I have SIX and a HALF weeks' paid SICK LEAVE and I deserve to be able to tap into that when necessary. Unfortunately I only slept in 'til 8am b/c Phillip had sent me an email saying he would be interviewing for a programmer job at my work and could we get together when he was done interviewing? Damn him! I sent him an email saying I had called in, and I wish I'd had advance notice of his interview; however to call me when he got done and if all went well he should come over for a congratulatory drink.
While waiting I tidied up around the house b/c Stefano had called me last night when he got home from taking his 'rents out to say that he'd told them he'd met a lot of my family this past weekend and guess what the 1st thing out of his mom's mouth was? I guessed correctly that she wanted to know when she was going to get to meet me! So he told me that their synagogue would be celebrating/announcing their 53rd wedding anniversary this Fri. night and if I was ready to meet them then maybe I could come and then we'd all go out to dinner afterwards. I said OF COURSE I was ready, and that that would be so delightful! So Stefano will pick me up at my house and we'll go do that tomorrow night, then we'll spend the night at my place. I can't wait to meet his 'rents! That shit never makes me nervous; parents always love me! Can you blame them!
So finally the big Phil called me and he came over and we proceeded to drain a whole bottle of Reisling from Australia. All I'd had to eat was 3 chocolate chip cookies that L. had made me and gave me last night at our sushi dinner. Then we decided to go grub on Mexican at a restaurant near my house, which was very enjoyable, esp. w/the frozen margaritas. Phillipo feels pretty good about getting an offer from my job and I really hope he does! That would be soooooo fun!!!
Now I'm at Job #2 killing 2 hrs so I'm free tomorrow eve. for the big meet Stefano's parents night! Tonight is rehearsal and after that I really, really need to try and get home and get some rest. I'm still buzzing from the wine/margarita afternoon so things are really mellow and happy right now!
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Chicaaaaago! Chicaaaago!
So I am going to CHICAGO on my birthday weekend!!! May 7-10 specifically, flying out on my actual b-day, Friday the 7th. With Stefano!!! To see my beloved Holmes Brothers in concert at a very hip, quaint lovely looking little theater!!! See, I had mentioned to Stefano recently that I was going to be seeing the Holmes Bros. in June at a festival in Virginia w/Bean and we decided that it would be way fun if he joined me on that trip. I emailed him the deets on Monday, and yesterday he called me to discuss. Apparently Stefano noticed that the HB's had listed many more tour dates on their website that I hadn't seen, and he suggested we go see them in Chicago b/c that is a city we had discussed visiting together someday. I was like, HELL yeah, and called Bean to throw out the idea to him as well although he said he'd have to think about it.
Today Stefano called me to say that last night he'd done some travel research and that the trip was totally doable so I said I wanted to buy the concert tickets NOW. I did so this morning and we are soooo going! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! He's so sweet too, he said b/c it's my b-day weekend he will get the plane tix and hotel. If he does that then I totally want to get most of our meals and the admission tix to the things I want to go do, such as the Art Institute and the Sears Tower. I have already been to the Field Museum but when I tried to go to the Sears Tower in October 2001 they were not letting anyone up there yet, so I must do it now! We also want to check out some great blues music/clubs and also go to Maxwell Street. Shit, this trip is gonna be crazy large FUN! And I'll still do Virginny in June w/the Sweet Dick P.
I hung out w/DA last night. I brought him some huge muffins that were leftover from Job #2. We went to the store b/c we wanted to buy some jeans. I got 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of slick slacks for work and he got a pair of jeans. Then we went to his house, drank wine, watched Three Stooges, and I was so tired from not getting enough sleep the past couple nights I passed out around 10:30p. But I had to wake up around midnight and go home. Disappointingly, he cannot hang out w/me this weekend after all b/c his restaurant called him and said they wanted him to work Thurs-Sat. I was a little miffed b/c we had made plans to hang out on Fri. night and also he had said he'd go w/me on Sat. night to see a Texas legendary guitarist Alan Haynes and now I don't know who I'll go with. Stefano will be busy recording his band's CD all day Sat.-Sun.--they booked 10-hour days, for real. However DA and I made plans to hang out on Sunday and today Stefano said we would hang out on Fri. night, go out to dinner and make it an early night at my house this time so he could leave on Sat. morning to be at the studio in the morning.
Looking forward to tonight which will be dinner w/L. at her fave sushi restaurant. I'm gonna have plenny of Sake and lotsa sushi! Stefano is taking his parents out tonight as it's their 53rd wedding anniversary! I am so glad I get to hang out w/him on Fri. b/c otherwise it was looking like I wasn't going to be able to see him at all this weekend and we all know how I adore him so.
Today Stefano called me to say that last night he'd done some travel research and that the trip was totally doable so I said I wanted to buy the concert tickets NOW. I did so this morning and we are soooo going! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! He's so sweet too, he said b/c it's my b-day weekend he will get the plane tix and hotel. If he does that then I totally want to get most of our meals and the admission tix to the things I want to go do, such as the Art Institute and the Sears Tower. I have already been to the Field Museum but when I tried to go to the Sears Tower in October 2001 they were not letting anyone up there yet, so I must do it now! We also want to check out some great blues music/clubs and also go to Maxwell Street. Shit, this trip is gonna be crazy large FUN! And I'll still do Virginny in June w/the Sweet Dick P.
I hung out w/DA last night. I brought him some huge muffins that were leftover from Job #2. We went to the store b/c we wanted to buy some jeans. I got 4 pairs of jeans and 2 pairs of slick slacks for work and he got a pair of jeans. Then we went to his house, drank wine, watched Three Stooges, and I was so tired from not getting enough sleep the past couple nights I passed out around 10:30p. But I had to wake up around midnight and go home. Disappointingly, he cannot hang out w/me this weekend after all b/c his restaurant called him and said they wanted him to work Thurs-Sat. I was a little miffed b/c we had made plans to hang out on Fri. night and also he had said he'd go w/me on Sat. night to see a Texas legendary guitarist Alan Haynes and now I don't know who I'll go with. Stefano will be busy recording his band's CD all day Sat.-Sun.--they booked 10-hour days, for real. However DA and I made plans to hang out on Sunday and today Stefano said we would hang out on Fri. night, go out to dinner and make it an early night at my house this time so he could leave on Sat. morning to be at the studio in the morning.
Looking forward to tonight which will be dinner w/L. at her fave sushi restaurant. I'm gonna have plenny of Sake and lotsa sushi! Stefano is taking his parents out tonight as it's their 53rd wedding anniversary! I am so glad I get to hang out w/him on Fri. b/c otherwise it was looking like I wasn't going to be able to see him at all this weekend and we all know how I adore him so.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Wrote a Song
I bought me a spiral notebook and some pens from the .99 cent store (receipt to be saved and the cost written off next year--chuckle!) and wrote down a song I wrote primarily in the shower. It's about/inspired by Stefano and it's called "Constant Reminder." He said he'd write the music to it if I wanted but he doesn't know it's about him and now I'm too embarrassed to give it to him. Maybe I'll see if Leo wants to write the music to it, or maybe I'll drag out my guitar and do it myself. I still need to write my other songs: one about chocolate and booze, and one inspired by my old bulletproof vest. I also still want to write a hate song in the vein of Dylan's "Idiot Wind" inspired by all the mean, selfish asshole jerks I've had to deal with lately (S, R. Roo, my aunts, etc.).
Good meeting last night although S was there--I have had the pleasure of not laying eyes on him since October! I tried to speak w/him briefly in the parking lot since his (Mano's) motorcycle was parked 2 spaces from my car and he walked right past me as I was driving out, but he kept his head down and ignored me. He's an immature, uncivilized asshole and I know I need to just forget about his sorry ass and LET IT GO. I went out to eat w/Mudflap and the gang and we had a good time and I ate almost all my enchiladas. Then I had to run by the store to get a big lightbulb for the upstairs bathroom but 2 stores didn't have it. Mudflap said to go to that hellhole BallsMart so I did, at 10pm. I guess that dump is not so bad when it's late and not teeming with the great unwashed. I also bought a big bag of peanut M&M's to take the edge off, and some bathroom accessories.
2nd and last day of all-day-Job #2 today. The accreditation visit has gone well and they spoke to me this a.m. I am Super-Librarian and got my elevator speech DOWN, man. I can't wait 'til tonight when I can go to DA's house and kiss him and cuddle w/him and have sex on his recliner! I may have to write a song about him too. It won't be nearly as mushy as the one I wrote for Stefano though.
This a.m. while driving into work they were talking on the popular radio show about women who date much-older men and what they have in common. I decided to call and tell my story, how I'm dating a 24-yo and a 48-yo and how I have different things in common w/each of them. It took me 3 tries to get through b/c the line was busy, but then they put me on 1st thing, calling me "Gigi" since I didn't want to give my name! They asked which one was better in bed (people always want to know that!) and I said they're both great but different. I said how at my age, 37, I still love to go out and do "young, fun" things which is where DA is a great companion, but as a professional woman I also love to do classy things like go to the symphony, nice restaurants, etc. which is where Stefano comes in. Honestly though, it's my lowbrow activities that I share w/DA, such as eating junk food and watching stupid tv shows and movies--things that I probably couldn't do w/Stefano. But I also need Stefano and his sophistication for my highbrow activities--fancy restaurants, indie movies, etc.! I mean I could probably cross over certain low/highbrow activities between the 2 men, but I just wouldn't feel as comfortable. Things are great the way they are now, and the radio DJ's even asked me that, if I was going to eventually pick one of them and be exclusive but I said I was not ready to do that and didn't know when/if I'd be ready.
Good meeting last night although S was there--I have had the pleasure of not laying eyes on him since October! I tried to speak w/him briefly in the parking lot since his (Mano's) motorcycle was parked 2 spaces from my car and he walked right past me as I was driving out, but he kept his head down and ignored me. He's an immature, uncivilized asshole and I know I need to just forget about his sorry ass and LET IT GO. I went out to eat w/Mudflap and the gang and we had a good time and I ate almost all my enchiladas. Then I had to run by the store to get a big lightbulb for the upstairs bathroom but 2 stores didn't have it. Mudflap said to go to that hellhole BallsMart so I did, at 10pm. I guess that dump is not so bad when it's late and not teeming with the great unwashed. I also bought a big bag of peanut M&M's to take the edge off, and some bathroom accessories.
2nd and last day of all-day-Job #2 today. The accreditation visit has gone well and they spoke to me this a.m. I am Super-Librarian and got my elevator speech DOWN, man. I can't wait 'til tonight when I can go to DA's house and kiss him and cuddle w/him and have sex on his recliner! I may have to write a song about him too. It won't be nearly as mushy as the one I wrote for Stefano though.
This a.m. while driving into work they were talking on the popular radio show about women who date much-older men and what they have in common. I decided to call and tell my story, how I'm dating a 24-yo and a 48-yo and how I have different things in common w/each of them. It took me 3 tries to get through b/c the line was busy, but then they put me on 1st thing, calling me "Gigi" since I didn't want to give my name! They asked which one was better in bed (people always want to know that!) and I said they're both great but different. I said how at my age, 37, I still love to go out and do "young, fun" things which is where DA is a great companion, but as a professional woman I also love to do classy things like go to the symphony, nice restaurants, etc. which is where Stefano comes in. Honestly though, it's my lowbrow activities that I share w/DA, such as eating junk food and watching stupid tv shows and movies--things that I probably couldn't do w/Stefano. But I also need Stefano and his sophistication for my highbrow activities--fancy restaurants, indie movies, etc.! I mean I could probably cross over certain low/highbrow activities between the 2 men, but I just wouldn't feel as comfortable. Things are great the way they are now, and the radio DJ's even asked me that, if I was going to eventually pick one of them and be exclusive but I said I was not ready to do that and didn't know when/if I'd be ready.
Monday, January 25, 2010
This Weekend? Oh jes...
As in it was another excellent, stellar weekend. Man, oh man... Friday was way fun as I picked DA up from his house and we went to see Up in the Air. Really good movie, and DA totally enjoyed it as I knew we both would! Since it was the 7p showing we had plenty of time afterwards back at his place to hang out w/his parents and their friends and DA's dad brought out their Mexican family's tequila that they manufacture and I had a shot of that which was delicious; then I began drinking Canadian whisky w/them. DA was hungry (he's always hungry) so he made some snacks, we nibbled a little, then I wanted to go to his room and watch The Wrestler, which we attempted to do but were unsuccessful. The next morning we slept as late as possible which was only til about 10:30 am, and when I awoke my head was pounding pretty bad from the whisky. This also happened to me back in November, so I think maybe whisky is a bad booze culprit for me! I drove DA to find some slacks/pants that he would need to wear to his cousin's wedding later that day. I also bought a nice candle for my den and some peppermint shortbread, yum. Then we went to buy kolaches for his folks and brother and I paid since his parents are always so hospitable to me. After that I had to head home to get ready for my day w/Stefano.
Stefano picked me up and we went to see Crazy Heart; I treated him since it was my idea, also since Leo would be paying me later that day at the gig. The movie was really good and it was even partly filmed in Houston! Afterwards we came back to my place to rest for a couple of hours and we tried to watch the documentary Tyson, but we were mostly unsuccessful since we had both really missed each other from not seeing each other for 6 days! Soon we had to load up my gear in Stefano's Lexus and head to the gig. My dad, his girlfriend, my Aunt P. and Uncle J. and my li'l brother and his girlfriend were all there so Stefano got to meet all of them (well, he'd met my bro at my Rudz gig in Dec.). Stefano even bought a round of drinks for my dad and his g-friend which was so sweet.
Our gig went well except for the power was iffy so we played w/no lights on us; also the cops showed up twice due to noise complaints and I had to go talk to 'em and ask 'em to lay off, which they did. Rozzy showed up which was great to see! We played 2 solid hours--Leo kept asking me if I wanted to take a break which I didn't so we just played straight through. We even got my Uncle up so he could sing "Red House" w/us, which was so fun and I know tickled him to death that we got him up there! I am hoping to see all the pic's soon, which hopefully will be posted on FB any day now. Stefano and I even got some of the 2 of us together!
After the gig we said our goodbyes and went to Tapatia to grab some grub. While walking into the restaurant I heard someone call my name and it was Jimmy, my old bandmate! He was just leaving and I introduced him to Stefano, and Jimmy gifted me w/his new CD which I was totally delighted to see and get! After a nice light dinner of shared nachos and NO more drinking (I'd had my flask at the gig and also people bought me 2 beers so I'd definitely had enough for the night) we went to Stefano's house and settled in for an early night.
I slept late late late on Sunday and it was a beautiful sunny day! Stefano had gotten up early to throw a bunch of meat on his grill as his bandmates were coming over later to rehearse for their upcoming CD recording. We had a lazy morning together and then I had to get home to get ready for the finish of my CD recording with Leo. We had 4 songs we absolutely had to re-record, and I hit a bad note in one song that needed to be punched in. It was a little frustrating but I think we finally got everything in the can, although "Rude Mood" was pretty rough on all of us. Damn, that song is a workout and it really kind of hurts! My left wrist tendons were aching and George's left shin was hurting bad. But after 5-6 attempts I think we got something we can all live with.
DA had called me earlier asking if I would come to his parents' friend's house (the same friends that had been there on Fri. night) for a steak and shrimp cookout. I had said I didn't know if I could b/c of the recording session, but we were actually done in only a couple of hours, thank GOD! But I had also promised Stefano I'd swing by his house so he could give me a doggie bag of all the meat he'd been cooking up that day too! So I raced to Stefano's house and sat and enjoyed a beer w/him and his drummer (the rest of the band was gone by then), then I bid them adieu, gave Stefano lots of kisses, took my doggie bag home and dropped off the ribs and chicken (1st taking a bite of ribs b/c I was quite hungry--YUMMMMMM!), grabbed a bottle of Reisling from my fridge and then raced over to DA's friend's house which was only about a 20 min. drive from me.
When I arrived they hadn't even begun eating yet so all this racing around served me well. They were watching football of course but they were fast-forwarding through it which I thoroughly enjoyed! The shrimp was deliciously seasoned (DA's idea to use Italian seasoning on it), also the asparagus and potatoes and the steak was a nice pink medium rare. We grubbed, drank, watched a little football, and then DA and I decided to head to his house before the end of the game. Back at his place we again attempted to watch The Wrestler and actually got through some of it, but not all of it. Finally I bid adeiu to DA and headed home, promising of course to return on Tuesday for our Three Stooges night.
Today and tomorrow I am at Job #2 all day for our accreditation visit. So far it's nice and quiet and sedate and I got all the new Vet Tech books catalogued, labeled, and on the shelves at the end of last week. I'm just sitting here in the library waiting for further notification of anything. At lunchtime I'll probably go do a little shopping as I need just a couple items for the house (new trash can, new toilet brush, etc.) and there's plenty good shopping 'round here. Tonight is the 1st monthly sheriff's meeting of the year and I'll have time after work to go home, get my Taser for the annual download, and change into something comfortable. After the meeting hopefully we'll all go to dinner like we usually do, so I am going to be strategic today w/my appetite. I am hoping not to have to lay eyes on S, ugh. I am so ready to be over that whole situation. I have decided to start spending the time when I am in the shower writing songs and I began one yesterday about Stefano b/c he's been so wonderful in my life and has been such an incredible friend and everything else.
Stefano picked me up and we went to see Crazy Heart; I treated him since it was my idea, also since Leo would be paying me later that day at the gig. The movie was really good and it was even partly filmed in Houston! Afterwards we came back to my place to rest for a couple of hours and we tried to watch the documentary Tyson, but we were mostly unsuccessful since we had both really missed each other from not seeing each other for 6 days! Soon we had to load up my gear in Stefano's Lexus and head to the gig. My dad, his girlfriend, my Aunt P. and Uncle J. and my li'l brother and his girlfriend were all there so Stefano got to meet all of them (well, he'd met my bro at my Rudz gig in Dec.). Stefano even bought a round of drinks for my dad and his g-friend which was so sweet.
Our gig went well except for the power was iffy so we played w/no lights on us; also the cops showed up twice due to noise complaints and I had to go talk to 'em and ask 'em to lay off, which they did. Rozzy showed up which was great to see! We played 2 solid hours--Leo kept asking me if I wanted to take a break which I didn't so we just played straight through. We even got my Uncle up so he could sing "Red House" w/us, which was so fun and I know tickled him to death that we got him up there! I am hoping to see all the pic's soon, which hopefully will be posted on FB any day now. Stefano and I even got some of the 2 of us together!
After the gig we said our goodbyes and went to Tapatia to grab some grub. While walking into the restaurant I heard someone call my name and it was Jimmy, my old bandmate! He was just leaving and I introduced him to Stefano, and Jimmy gifted me w/his new CD which I was totally delighted to see and get! After a nice light dinner of shared nachos and NO more drinking (I'd had my flask at the gig and also people bought me 2 beers so I'd definitely had enough for the night) we went to Stefano's house and settled in for an early night.
I slept late late late on Sunday and it was a beautiful sunny day! Stefano had gotten up early to throw a bunch of meat on his grill as his bandmates were coming over later to rehearse for their upcoming CD recording. We had a lazy morning together and then I had to get home to get ready for the finish of my CD recording with Leo. We had 4 songs we absolutely had to re-record, and I hit a bad note in one song that needed to be punched in. It was a little frustrating but I think we finally got everything in the can, although "Rude Mood" was pretty rough on all of us. Damn, that song is a workout and it really kind of hurts! My left wrist tendons were aching and George's left shin was hurting bad. But after 5-6 attempts I think we got something we can all live with.
DA had called me earlier asking if I would come to his parents' friend's house (the same friends that had been there on Fri. night) for a steak and shrimp cookout. I had said I didn't know if I could b/c of the recording session, but we were actually done in only a couple of hours, thank GOD! But I had also promised Stefano I'd swing by his house so he could give me a doggie bag of all the meat he'd been cooking up that day too! So I raced to Stefano's house and sat and enjoyed a beer w/him and his drummer (the rest of the band was gone by then), then I bid them adieu, gave Stefano lots of kisses, took my doggie bag home and dropped off the ribs and chicken (1st taking a bite of ribs b/c I was quite hungry--YUMMMMMM!), grabbed a bottle of Reisling from my fridge and then raced over to DA's friend's house which was only about a 20 min. drive from me.
When I arrived they hadn't even begun eating yet so all this racing around served me well. They were watching football of course but they were fast-forwarding through it which I thoroughly enjoyed! The shrimp was deliciously seasoned (DA's idea to use Italian seasoning on it), also the asparagus and potatoes and the steak was a nice pink medium rare. We grubbed, drank, watched a little football, and then DA and I decided to head to his house before the end of the game. Back at his place we again attempted to watch The Wrestler and actually got through some of it, but not all of it. Finally I bid adeiu to DA and headed home, promising of course to return on Tuesday for our Three Stooges night.
Today and tomorrow I am at Job #2 all day for our accreditation visit. So far it's nice and quiet and sedate and I got all the new Vet Tech books catalogued, labeled, and on the shelves at the end of last week. I'm just sitting here in the library waiting for further notification of anything. At lunchtime I'll probably go do a little shopping as I need just a couple items for the house (new trash can, new toilet brush, etc.) and there's plenty good shopping 'round here. Tonight is the 1st monthly sheriff's meeting of the year and I'll have time after work to go home, get my Taser for the annual download, and change into something comfortable. After the meeting hopefully we'll all go to dinner like we usually do, so I am going to be strategic today w/my appetite. I am hoping not to have to lay eyes on S, ugh. I am so ready to be over that whole situation. I have decided to start spending the time when I am in the shower writing songs and I began one yesterday about Stefano b/c he's been so wonderful in my life and has been such an incredible friend and everything else.
Friday, January 22, 2010
Friday.... Ahhhhhh....
What a good feeling! And it's so nice and sunny and beginning to warm up here again in wonderful, fun, fabulous, soulful H-town!!! I am excited that I am FREE after Job #1 today and I just gotta rush home and change and shower and then get to DA's house so we can go see the 7p showing of Up in the Air. Then we'll hang out at his house and I would like to finally get some drinks in me, and then I'll spend the night.
Tomorrow morning I'll head back home and get ready for a long, fun, romantic day w/Stefano! We'll go to the 2p showing of Crazy Heart and then I've got my gig that evening. After that who knows what we'll do, but of course we'll eventually end up at his place for more drinking and merriment!
Sunday he'll be rehearsing w/his band for their upcoming CD recording and I'm due back in the studio that afternoon so we can re-record some of our songs and tweak some others.
J. is about 99% done w/my townhouse. She just has to do some minor touch ups but the place is really starting to look good. I still have to do some re-arranging though. Stefano has offered to help me w/the back patio project: plants, cactus and such to make it look pretty and green back there. I am going to try and sell as much of S's stuff as I can b/c I am tired of it being there and he seemingly doesn't give a shit about it anyway.
P.S. Last night was kinda strange. Leo texted that our rehearsal was cancelled due to a plumbing prob. that George had to deal with. It was awesome to have an evening free and I felt giddy about the prospect! But when I was at home relaxing/reading the mail/watching Celebrity Rehab/tidying up, suddenly I got some flashbacks of my home as it used to be and who used to be in it. And I felt sad and somewhat lonely. I called DA and he said to imagine him there and it's true that I am working hard on creating new memories in that house and that's definitely one of the reasons for the remodel. But the flashbacks can hit at any moment and it was so weird thinking that I have this incredibly rich, fun life w/2 adoring boyfriends and yet I can still feel lonely in my own home b/c of how things used to be. I wish I had time to read so I could read some of the divorce books I have at my disposal, but in fact I have not had time to crack open a book for months now.
Tomorrow morning I'll head back home and get ready for a long, fun, romantic day w/Stefano! We'll go to the 2p showing of Crazy Heart and then I've got my gig that evening. After that who knows what we'll do, but of course we'll eventually end up at his place for more drinking and merriment!
Sunday he'll be rehearsing w/his band for their upcoming CD recording and I'm due back in the studio that afternoon so we can re-record some of our songs and tweak some others.
J. is about 99% done w/my townhouse. She just has to do some minor touch ups but the place is really starting to look good. I still have to do some re-arranging though. Stefano has offered to help me w/the back patio project: plants, cactus and such to make it look pretty and green back there. I am going to try and sell as much of S's stuff as I can b/c I am tired of it being there and he seemingly doesn't give a shit about it anyway.
P.S. Last night was kinda strange. Leo texted that our rehearsal was cancelled due to a plumbing prob. that George had to deal with. It was awesome to have an evening free and I felt giddy about the prospect! But when I was at home relaxing/reading the mail/watching Celebrity Rehab/tidying up, suddenly I got some flashbacks of my home as it used to be and who used to be in it. And I felt sad and somewhat lonely. I called DA and he said to imagine him there and it's true that I am working hard on creating new memories in that house and that's definitely one of the reasons for the remodel. But the flashbacks can hit at any moment and it was so weird thinking that I have this incredibly rich, fun life w/2 adoring boyfriends and yet I can still feel lonely in my own home b/c of how things used to be. I wish I had time to read so I could read some of the divorce books I have at my disposal, but in fact I have not had time to crack open a book for months now.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
This Past Weekend? Ahhhhhhh......
As in, oh yes...very nice! Extremely wonderful. Plenty of fun-filled activities! With both my menfolks, though Stefano got the bulk of my time which I was happy to give him.
So Friday I went to his place and we headed to the Big Easy to see our friend's band play. They are about to go to Memphis this week to represent Houston in the W.C. Handy blues contest. We said hi to a bunch of folks, danced, drank, and at the end of the 1st set we headed to the Continental for Papa Grows Funk. Unfortunately there were a bunch of juveniles (college age kids) there and I didn't quite understand why. Strangely there is also a new club on the block that is geared towards these kids as well. Bizarre that they would be located there. The band was great, although I wasn't getting into it as much as I usually do. The children and Stefano were both kinda distracting. We didn't stay too long and headed back home.
Saturday we slept in, which is always so blissful for me. But I had to get up at a somewhat decent hour to go on patrol. First I ran by the drugstore to pick up a mustache grooming kit and a birthday card for my Popo, then I went to his house. My aunt who hates me showed up and I was a little amazed at how nasty and bitter she still is; damn, get over it already! Oh well, it's her toxic life and she has to live it. Me and my mom took some pictures w/Popo, then I headed to patrol. I worked w/the fun FTO I worked with once last month; however after making an arrest of the Most Annoying PI Ever, J. called me to tell me my sliding glass door was not locking at my house. I realized I was gonna have to go home and deal w/this problem and call a locksmith on a Saturday night. Sure enough when I got home the lock was not functioning very well and a locksmith said he could come out in an hour or so. I took advantage of being in uniform to go get a discounted meal at friendly Chik-Fil-A while I was waiting.
Long story short, the locksmith said he couldn't get the part until the next day, but recommended I call the place the part was gonna come from anyway. However they were not answering the phone and hopefully would be open on Monday. I didn't know what to do; so I began drinking box wine. Stefano called and asked if he could do anything but I didn't know what to tell him. I decided that the odds of someone trying to get into my place were really, really, really low and I secured the door best I could and went to Stefano's where he distracted me and cheered me up all night long.
Sunday a.m. I really slept in! Like 'til 11am! Then it was time to get home and get all dolled up for our afternoon matinee at the symphony. I have to say, we both looked adorable. It finally warmed up enough where I didn't need a jacket and I wore my red pashmina that I've been wearing a lot lately that was a Xmas gift from my boss. Also a short skirt and tall boots; Stefano wore a gray suit w/black shirt that was sexily unbuttoned just enough! We had great seats; Stefano had splurged a little. And it was so cool to see all these names in the symphony roster that I went way back with, all the way to my teens in a lot of cases! We were treated to an amazing experience indeed: the original arrangement of Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue! I have never seen that and likely never will again. Even Sweet Dick Pete was impressed when I told him about it later!
During intermission we each got a Disarrono on the rocks: YUMMY! After the symphony we headed to the gourmet grocery store and Stefano said he'd make us a nicoise salad w/tuna steak on top and shrimp to snack on. I offered to buy the wine and dessert--b/c I have to have sweets, as we all know. I bought 2 kinds of Reisling (I hadn't yet received my shipment from wine.com) and bread pudding. While there we ran into one of my fellow board members from the High-spanic Health Coalition and I introduced Stefano by his real name since I have decided that Stefano is the new, wonderful, improved, fantastic amazing "S" in my life now!!! [I had really been introducing him to people as "Stefano"; I am ready for this to stop now.]
Back at home we finished off another bottle of sweet white wine that we'd begun drinking on Sat. night. Dinner was quite yummy and then we settled in to watch Cadillac Records, which I had not seen yet. I opened one of the new Reislings and we got a little crazy. It was great watching that movie, especially since Leo is making us do a Muddy Waters song, "I Can Never Be Satisfied". Stefano told me later that I drank the whole bottle of wine by myself although I remember pouring him some! I got pretty crazy and set off his burglar alarm, heh heh! Later I said that was amateur stuff though. I almost lost my booze and Stefano was quite worried about me! He said b/c he cares so much about me... awwww...
The next morning I had to get up early and go pick up my wine.com shipment and also call the other locksmith to see if he could come help me. The guy said he could come possibly around noon; so I struggled to get myself ready for the day and I was feeling kinda lousy, but not anywhere near the worst hangover I've ever had. I went to pick up my shipment later that morning but as I was driving away I did, in fact, have to pull over and... I am officially a crazy bitch that can't hold her liquor! Blehhh. I haven't done that in about 7 years!
My boss at Job #2 had texted me late on Friday to say that there would be a staff meeting on Monday at 1:30 and he'd like me to be there, so I told DA I'd be at his house after that so we could spend some quality time together. Stefano had offered to come help me with the locksmith guy and housesit for me since I had to leave at around 1p but the guy showed up right after noon and I was able to take care of it. $172 and about 20 min. later my door was fixed and better than ever, I must say! I guess that's money well spent. By then I was feeling much much better and after knocking out my 2 hours at Job #2 I picked up DA from his house, we went to Spec's so I could get some Disarrono (my new favorite drink) and some Peppermint Schnappe's so we could put it in some hot chocolate. Back at his house he made us a sandwich and we had chips/queso/salsa and some Friendship Bread his grandma had made and the delicious hot chocolate (which made me a little sick a few hours later but that's only b/c I'm lactose intolerant and DA made it with milk). Then we hung out the rest of the day in his bedroom attempting to watch some movies but that didn't really happen since we hadn't seen each other in awhile... later on we put on some Three Stooges and laughed our asses off. I didn't go shooting after all b/c I decided I'd rather spend the time w/DA. I finally had to bid him adieu around 9:30p so I could get home and try to work on some bass stuff before rehearsal tonight. I called Stefano on the way home since he had called me earlier and I couldn't talk b/c I was with DA. I woke him up but he never minds when I do that and today told me that he had a dream about me!
Today DA went back to school and he is riding his bike since his occupational driver's license has not yet come through. I don't know when I'll be able to see him again; perhaps this Fri. night if he doesn't go into work after all and since Stefano has a gig. (Stefano always wants me to meet him after his gigs, though so far I haven't taken him up on the offer. I'll be w/Stefano on Saturday evening and night for sure anyway since he's coming to my gig!) DA and I will do Stooges again next Tues. night since next Mon. night is my monthly sheriff meeting. Rehearsal tonight and my crazy busy week has just begun! So thank God I had an awesome incredible fun weekend to kick start it off!
So Friday I went to his place and we headed to the Big Easy to see our friend's band play. They are about to go to Memphis this week to represent Houston in the W.C. Handy blues contest. We said hi to a bunch of folks, danced, drank, and at the end of the 1st set we headed to the Continental for Papa Grows Funk. Unfortunately there were a bunch of juveniles (college age kids) there and I didn't quite understand why. Strangely there is also a new club on the block that is geared towards these kids as well. Bizarre that they would be located there. The band was great, although I wasn't getting into it as much as I usually do. The children and Stefano were both kinda distracting. We didn't stay too long and headed back home.
Saturday we slept in, which is always so blissful for me. But I had to get up at a somewhat decent hour to go on patrol. First I ran by the drugstore to pick up a mustache grooming kit and a birthday card for my Popo, then I went to his house. My aunt who hates me showed up and I was a little amazed at how nasty and bitter she still is; damn, get over it already! Oh well, it's her toxic life and she has to live it. Me and my mom took some pictures w/Popo, then I headed to patrol. I worked w/the fun FTO I worked with once last month; however after making an arrest of the Most Annoying PI Ever, J. called me to tell me my sliding glass door was not locking at my house. I realized I was gonna have to go home and deal w/this problem and call a locksmith on a Saturday night. Sure enough when I got home the lock was not functioning very well and a locksmith said he could come out in an hour or so. I took advantage of being in uniform to go get a discounted meal at friendly Chik-Fil-A while I was waiting.
Long story short, the locksmith said he couldn't get the part until the next day, but recommended I call the place the part was gonna come from anyway. However they were not answering the phone and hopefully would be open on Monday. I didn't know what to do; so I began drinking box wine. Stefano called and asked if he could do anything but I didn't know what to tell him. I decided that the odds of someone trying to get into my place were really, really, really low and I secured the door best I could and went to Stefano's where he distracted me and cheered me up all night long.
Sunday a.m. I really slept in! Like 'til 11am! Then it was time to get home and get all dolled up for our afternoon matinee at the symphony. I have to say, we both looked adorable. It finally warmed up enough where I didn't need a jacket and I wore my red pashmina that I've been wearing a lot lately that was a Xmas gift from my boss. Also a short skirt and tall boots; Stefano wore a gray suit w/black shirt that was sexily unbuttoned just enough! We had great seats; Stefano had splurged a little. And it was so cool to see all these names in the symphony roster that I went way back with, all the way to my teens in a lot of cases! We were treated to an amazing experience indeed: the original arrangement of Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue! I have never seen that and likely never will again. Even Sweet Dick Pete was impressed when I told him about it later!
During intermission we each got a Disarrono on the rocks: YUMMY! After the symphony we headed to the gourmet grocery store and Stefano said he'd make us a nicoise salad w/tuna steak on top and shrimp to snack on. I offered to buy the wine and dessert--b/c I have to have sweets, as we all know. I bought 2 kinds of Reisling (I hadn't yet received my shipment from wine.com) and bread pudding. While there we ran into one of my fellow board members from the High-spanic Health Coalition and I introduced Stefano by his real name since I have decided that Stefano is the new, wonderful, improved, fantastic amazing "S" in my life now!!! [I had really been introducing him to people as "Stefano"; I am ready for this to stop now.]
Back at home we finished off another bottle of sweet white wine that we'd begun drinking on Sat. night. Dinner was quite yummy and then we settled in to watch Cadillac Records, which I had not seen yet. I opened one of the new Reislings and we got a little crazy. It was great watching that movie, especially since Leo is making us do a Muddy Waters song, "I Can Never Be Satisfied". Stefano told me later that I drank the whole bottle of wine by myself although I remember pouring him some! I got pretty crazy and set off his burglar alarm, heh heh! Later I said that was amateur stuff though. I almost lost my booze and Stefano was quite worried about me! He said b/c he cares so much about me... awwww...
The next morning I had to get up early and go pick up my wine.com shipment and also call the other locksmith to see if he could come help me. The guy said he could come possibly around noon; so I struggled to get myself ready for the day and I was feeling kinda lousy, but not anywhere near the worst hangover I've ever had. I went to pick up my shipment later that morning but as I was driving away I did, in fact, have to pull over and... I am officially a crazy bitch that can't hold her liquor! Blehhh. I haven't done that in about 7 years!
My boss at Job #2 had texted me late on Friday to say that there would be a staff meeting on Monday at 1:30 and he'd like me to be there, so I told DA I'd be at his house after that so we could spend some quality time together. Stefano had offered to come help me with the locksmith guy and housesit for me since I had to leave at around 1p but the guy showed up right after noon and I was able to take care of it. $172 and about 20 min. later my door was fixed and better than ever, I must say! I guess that's money well spent. By then I was feeling much much better and after knocking out my 2 hours at Job #2 I picked up DA from his house, we went to Spec's so I could get some Disarrono (my new favorite drink) and some Peppermint Schnappe's so we could put it in some hot chocolate. Back at his house he made us a sandwich and we had chips/queso/salsa and some Friendship Bread his grandma had made and the delicious hot chocolate (which made me a little sick a few hours later but that's only b/c I'm lactose intolerant and DA made it with milk). Then we hung out the rest of the day in his bedroom attempting to watch some movies but that didn't really happen since we hadn't seen each other in awhile... later on we put on some Three Stooges and laughed our asses off. I didn't go shooting after all b/c I decided I'd rather spend the time w/DA. I finally had to bid him adieu around 9:30p so I could get home and try to work on some bass stuff before rehearsal tonight. I called Stefano on the way home since he had called me earlier and I couldn't talk b/c I was with DA. I woke him up but he never minds when I do that and today told me that he had a dream about me!
Today DA went back to school and he is riding his bike since his occupational driver's license has not yet come through. I don't know when I'll be able to see him again; perhaps this Fri. night if he doesn't go into work after all and since Stefano has a gig. (Stefano always wants me to meet him after his gigs, though so far I haven't taken him up on the offer. I'll be w/Stefano on Saturday evening and night for sure anyway since he's coming to my gig!) DA and I will do Stooges again next Tues. night since next Mon. night is my monthly sheriff meeting. Rehearsal tonight and my crazy busy week has just begun! So thank God I had an awesome incredible fun weekend to kick start it off!
Friday, January 15, 2010
Friday Take Me Away
So last night ended badly too and was just the perfect capper to a crappy couple days. DA had decided he was going to get in his truck and meet me at my house after my rehearsal--suspended driver's license be damned! I was excited and told him I'd cut rehearsal off at 9p so I could meet him at my place at 9:30. I did so and I was racing home when he texted me that now his parents (!!!) were telling him he couldn't leave b/c they didn't want him taking the risk of driving. AAAAARRRRGHGGGGGHGH!!!!! I was pissed. Mainly b/c I had cut rehearsal short and didn't go out drinking w/my bandmates so I could get home and hang w/DA. Also I really needed him to come over and cheer me up and eat peppermint ice cream with me and hold me all night and keep me warm.
However--I tried a new thing. Instead of ranting and raving and saying some fucked up shit, I told DA I was pissed and that I needed to get off the phone so I could cool off. I did so, went home, drank 2 glasses of box wine, ate 5 bites of chocolate cake, and relaxed on the couch and watched tv and read a magazine. After about an hour I finally decided to call him and he answered by immediately apologizing, to which I accepted b/c I was cooled off enough to realize it wasn't him, it was his parents doing this. Also the box wine helped mellow me out a bit. And I also kept thinking of Stefano's Serenity Prayer advice. I was still a little pissed though! But not as much as I was. DA and I made plans for me to come over on Monday afternoon since I have a holiday from work. Also, I will have spent tonight, tomorrow night, and all day Sunday and Sunday night w/Stefano and surely I'll be able to make a graceful exit on Monday morning. B/c otherwise it's gonna be a good couple of weeks before DA and I can see each other again.
I cannot WAIT for tonight to begin the weekend of festivities w/Stefano! 1st thing we'll do tonight is go see our friend's blues band (incl. a really hot drummer that I dated very briefly years ago--that'll be interesting to see him) at the Big Easy, where we went last Fri. night. That's at 9:30; then we'll head to the Continental Club to see Papa Grows Funk, who we all know I love and adore and who Stefano has never seen! They'll be playing around 11pm so the timing is just perfect. After that we'll go home and spend the night in each other's arms, which is the BEST.... Tomorrow we'll sleep late and then I gotta get home to get ready for a 2p-10p patrol shift. Before doing so I will head to my grandfather's house as tomorrow is his 94th birthday! Then tomorrow night after my shift I'll head back to Stefano's warm bed and adoring arms... Sunday is going to be awesome as Stefano is taking me to the symphony's matinee performance, after which he said we'll go to the gourmet grocery store and buy fixings so he can make me dinner! I am so excited about that b/c I want to hang out in the kitchen while he does it and maybe learn a little bit about cooking! Then Sunday night we will love and adore each other all night again.
Monday we'll sleep in and I'll get to DA's house by noon whereupon he will make lunch for me and we'll hang out until I go to Job #2 around 4pm. That evening I will probably go shooting w/my uncle and his new gun! Ahhhhh... holiday weekends....!
However--I tried a new thing. Instead of ranting and raving and saying some fucked up shit, I told DA I was pissed and that I needed to get off the phone so I could cool off. I did so, went home, drank 2 glasses of box wine, ate 5 bites of chocolate cake, and relaxed on the couch and watched tv and read a magazine. After about an hour I finally decided to call him and he answered by immediately apologizing, to which I accepted b/c I was cooled off enough to realize it wasn't him, it was his parents doing this. Also the box wine helped mellow me out a bit. And I also kept thinking of Stefano's Serenity Prayer advice. I was still a little pissed though! But not as much as I was. DA and I made plans for me to come over on Monday afternoon since I have a holiday from work. Also, I will have spent tonight, tomorrow night, and all day Sunday and Sunday night w/Stefano and surely I'll be able to make a graceful exit on Monday morning. B/c otherwise it's gonna be a good couple of weeks before DA and I can see each other again.
I cannot WAIT for tonight to begin the weekend of festivities w/Stefano! 1st thing we'll do tonight is go see our friend's blues band (incl. a really hot drummer that I dated very briefly years ago--that'll be interesting to see him) at the Big Easy, where we went last Fri. night. That's at 9:30; then we'll head to the Continental Club to see Papa Grows Funk, who we all know I love and adore and who Stefano has never seen! They'll be playing around 11pm so the timing is just perfect. After that we'll go home and spend the night in each other's arms, which is the BEST.... Tomorrow we'll sleep late and then I gotta get home to get ready for a 2p-10p patrol shift. Before doing so I will head to my grandfather's house as tomorrow is his 94th birthday! Then tomorrow night after my shift I'll head back to Stefano's warm bed and adoring arms... Sunday is going to be awesome as Stefano is taking me to the symphony's matinee performance, after which he said we'll go to the gourmet grocery store and buy fixings so he can make me dinner! I am so excited about that b/c I want to hang out in the kitchen while he does it and maybe learn a little bit about cooking! Then Sunday night we will love and adore each other all night again.
Monday we'll sleep in and I'll get to DA's house by noon whereupon he will make lunch for me and we'll hang out until I go to Job #2 around 4pm. That evening I will probably go shooting w/my uncle and his new gun! Ahhhhh... holiday weekends....!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Ugh Day
Yesterday was Ughhhh... but 2010 has been stellar so far for the MOST part so I guess I was due for an UGH day. In the morning, my mom called me and got on my nerves; then at work I had to get IT to upgrade my computer to the new Adobe Flash 15 minutes AFTER I needed it (online web meeting); then J. was at my house to finish painting as well as be there for UPS's delivery of my wine.com purchase but the driver guy didn't knock on the door according to her so now I gotta go pick it up at the UPS store tomorrow; then we had our High-spanic Health Coalition board meeting at the president's house who fortunately lives right near me but it ran an HOUR over 'til 8:30 b/c it was 10 women who just yakked and yakked and yakked so when it was over I raced to the park for my run but the park was completely deserted and I thought it unwise to run in an empty park (armed or not, I just don't need the hassle of having to kill someone if I can avoid it); so I decided to salvage the night by running to Home Depot 10 min. before they closed to buy a new toilet seat so J. could install it today and when I got home found that I'd bought the wrong damn size...
So while home I decided to FINALLY vacuum the upstairs after it's only needed to be done for over a month now and also go through some papers in the file cabinet so it can be moved upstairs and I was recycling and purging when I found a drawing made by S's daughter for me of a mermaid that said "I love you today" and it really got to me. No tears fell but I was tempted and yes, definitely got a little choked up. And I was alone and there was no one I could talk to about it that would understand. Also my chin is badly broken out and has been for over a week now and last night I had to resort to popping a Minocycline, the medication that got me so incredibly sick early last year (loss of appetite and dizziness) so obviously I was feeling desperate. I couldn't even drink a drop of booze last night though the box wine was calling to me, b/c I didn't want the calories since I couldn't get my damn run in.
Today I have a long ass day of my 2 jobs and then rehearsal tonight. But I should be getting the rough mix of the CD so that'll be fun and good to listen to, though we do have to go back in the studio and re-record 2 songs. I have a rainy-weather-induced headache and had to go mail off some more documents to my attorney. I haven't heard from DA today at all and don't know what's up w/him, though we spoke for a long time last night before I went to bed. Fortunately Stefano called me a little while ago and totally made me smile like he always does, the sweetheart! I am also pretty--make that VERY--upset b/c I changed my W-4 at Job #1 to reflect that I am now "single" and my paycheck tomorrow is a shocking $83 less and I am freaking out just a bit about that. I have been praying to Jesus all day, honestly, to get me through today.
So while home I decided to FINALLY vacuum the upstairs after it's only needed to be done for over a month now and also go through some papers in the file cabinet so it can be moved upstairs and I was recycling and purging when I found a drawing made by S's daughter for me of a mermaid that said "I love you today" and it really got to me. No tears fell but I was tempted and yes, definitely got a little choked up. And I was alone and there was no one I could talk to about it that would understand. Also my chin is badly broken out and has been for over a week now and last night I had to resort to popping a Minocycline, the medication that got me so incredibly sick early last year (loss of appetite and dizziness) so obviously I was feeling desperate. I couldn't even drink a drop of booze last night though the box wine was calling to me, b/c I didn't want the calories since I couldn't get my damn run in.
Today I have a long ass day of my 2 jobs and then rehearsal tonight. But I should be getting the rough mix of the CD so that'll be fun and good to listen to, though we do have to go back in the studio and re-record 2 songs. I have a rainy-weather-induced headache and had to go mail off some more documents to my attorney. I haven't heard from DA today at all and don't know what's up w/him, though we spoke for a long time last night before I went to bed. Fortunately Stefano called me a little while ago and totally made me smile like he always does, the sweetheart! I am also pretty--make that VERY--upset b/c I changed my W-4 at Job #1 to reflect that I am now "single" and my paycheck tomorrow is a shocking $83 less and I am freaking out just a bit about that. I have been praying to Jesus all day, honestly, to get me through today.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Sausage Balls Recipe
Ok ok, I can take a damn hint. Here's the recipe for the notorious sausage balls. It is actually my evil aunt's recipe but I am now becoming famous for it in my own right and definitely on my other side of the family.
1 lb. raw sausage--Jimmy Dean or some such thing
2 cups finely shredded cheese
2 cups Bisquick or some such thing
In a big bowl combine all of the above which is kind of fun and messy. Form about 1" sized balls and place on big cookie sheet in rows. I put aluminum foil on top of the sheet for easier cleanup. (It took me a few years but I can perfectly get 8 balls down and 7 across on a big baking sheet now!) Bake at 350 degrees for about 25-30 min. Let cool, enjoy!
For holidays/parties I do it twice and make 2 batches. DA texted me this a.m. to tell me he had my sausage balls for breakfast, and he sent some to work w/his dad yesterday. Yum-my!!!
1 lb. raw sausage--Jimmy Dean or some such thing
2 cups finely shredded cheese
2 cups Bisquick or some such thing
In a big bowl combine all of the above which is kind of fun and messy. Form about 1" sized balls and place on big cookie sheet in rows. I put aluminum foil on top of the sheet for easier cleanup. (It took me a few years but I can perfectly get 8 balls down and 7 across on a big baking sheet now!) Bake at 350 degrees for about 25-30 min. Let cool, enjoy!
For holidays/parties I do it twice and make 2 batches. DA texted me this a.m. to tell me he had my sausage balls for breakfast, and he sent some to work w/his dad yesterday. Yum-my!!!
Monday, January 11, 2010
Stellar, Legendary, Joyfilled Weekend!
Because it was spent with my two menfolks, both of whom make me happy in their own unique ways! In fact, obviously I am having too good of a time b/c I had to shlep myself to the E.R. on Friday evening in desperate need of a prescrip for a bladder infection! Also knows as "honeymoon cystitis" as my mom always used to warn me about. (Although that was primarily from my time spent w/Stefano since DA and I hadn't been intimate since 12/30.)
So Thursday night's rehearsal went well, we have to add a few more songs for our upcoming gigs and we are adding some good ones. Then I raced home so I could shower/change and get to Stefano's house at the last quarter of the big football game that apparently the whole entire world was watching! Stefano had already given up though and indeed his team ended up losing, and he'd already put all his party food away but I made him get out the caviar and feed me. Then I cheered him up in my own unique way and we headed to bed pretty late.
He had taken Fri. off from work and it was my work from home day so we had a nice lazy morning. He made us bagels w/yummy whitefish instead of salmon this time. I couldn't believe it when I checked my phone but I had gotten 2 unbelievable, nervy text msg.'s that morning: 1 from JR and 1 from that rude state trooper from Thanksgiving night!!! JR said Happy New Year and that he'd been thinking of me lately. I did not respond. And the state trooper wanted to know what I was doing on Saturday night! Again, I was pleased as punch to NOT respond to him either! Especially after spending so much time with Stefano, a wonderful, affectionate, cultured, adorable REAL gentleman!!!
I headed home and tried to get some work done but it was rough going. My mom had also called that a.m. to tell me that my li'l bro was crying and suicidal and would I do something about it? [Li'l bro's best friend killed herself right before Christmas and we've been trying to help him through it.] But when I called li'l bro he voicemailed me and then my mom called me back and I got frustrated and snapped at her (while at Stefano's, unfortunately) but she always pulls shit like that on me--makes it seem like the whole world is depending on me when in reality there's nothing I can do sometimes--and I just get so sick of it. Well, li'l bro called later that a.m. to say that he made an appt. with a therapist and since the wind chill was in the teens I offered to take him so he wouldn't have to walk. I did in fact do so, and decided that since my week of drinking cranberry juice wasn't helping, I did need to get my ass to a Dr. to get that prescrip so I wouldn't be in for a long, miserable, uncomfortable weekend. Fortunately I found an ER that had NO ONE in the waiting room so I took care of that while li'l bro was at his appt.
After I was done I picked up li'l bro and asked him to please tell me what he needed or where he would like to go, that whatever he wanted to do, we would do it! (Hell of a deal, huh? I wish someone would make that offer to me sometime! Oh, who'm I kidding? I live my life like that!) He said he wanted to go to the grocery store so we did and I wandered around looking at the beautiful pastries, cake slices, and cookies while he bought some soothing tea he needed. I ended up buying some gourmet soup, 2 kinds. Then he wanted to get a "Lucky Burger" and just go home, so we did that and I got some fried cheese and li'l bro got a fuckin' Oreo shake! I knew he was in bad straits b/c he never eats shit like that!
BTW... this is why I still resolve to spend more time w/li'l bro. He cracks me UP!!! I was telling him about how Stefano says he doesn't want kids, yet has never gotten a vasectomy b/c he says he doesn't want any blades/knives anywhere near down there. Yet li'l bro badly wants one, my ex RB got one, and J1 supposedly is looking to find someplace in Botswana where he can get one. Li'l bro laughed and said, "Botswana Vasectomy" at which point I exclaimed, "Good band name!!!" Also related to our conversation about my ER visit, li'l bro said he can't believe there hasn't been a cow-punk band yet to call themselves "Reverse Cowgirl"! and said it would have to be an all-girl band. He also said his all-time favorite band name he's come up with has been "Cul De Sac Kids." The concert poster would have any still pulled from the documentary Scared Straight! Then he said "Botswana Vasectomy" would be the perfect name for the "Cul De Sac Kids" 1st album!!! We were dying laughing!
After dropping him off I raced home to shower/change and get ready for my date w/Stefano. I wanted to wear my new leather thigh-high boots from Victoria's Secretions! I put that with a tiny black skirt, black tube top, black sweater, and my furry leopard coat and hoped I didn't look too much like a streetwalker! I put my hair up in a clip. Stefano loved the outfit! He drove us to the blues club and I drank coconut rum and we saw lots of folks we both knew. Fortunately there was cake there for the 80-year old birthday boy and I of course had to have some. Stefano and I danced and danced and then we SPLIT so we could have lots of quality time together at his place.
Sat. a.m. we had to be up at a somewhat decent hour for the 10:30am bar mitzvah. I drove the 90 seconds home and showered/changed into my pinstripe "Italian funeral suit" as I call it b/c it was too damn cold for a dress. Stefano picked me up and we went to the humongous synagogue as it actually turned out to be a bnai mitzvah (2 boys). Lots of Stefano's crazy friends were there and it really tickled me to see these normal looking grown up citizens actually cutting up a little and joking around in temple! I had met a lot of them at the NYE party. Stefano looked adorable in his yarmukle and I really tried to pay attention and "get" the whole experience! I even referred to the Torah when necessary. Stefano was very attentive to me during the 2-hour ceremony, holding my hand, rubbing my back, etc. Then there was a nice luncheon and I got to meet more of Stefano's friends. I was, however, feeling a little shy but everyone was very friendly to me. I even ran into the legendary violin teacher that is Stefano's friend's aunt! I got to say hi and tell her what an influence she'd been on me and generations of us young string players!
After Stefano got me "one of each" from the dessert tray we left and went back to his place for a snort of Dalwhinnie scotch and also thought we might try to take a nap but that didn't happen. After spending some fun quality time together he had a gig he needed to get ready for that night and DA was trying to call me and so I knew I needed to get w/him on what time to pick him up. I went home, showered/changed and called DA who said his dad had made a bunch of chili and they were having friends over so I should plan on hanging out at his place for awhile, which was fine w/me. (Sadly, Stefano called me while I was about to go to DA's to tell me that his gig had been cancelled due to the heat going out at the club! Awwww--but I had made these other plans and frankly, when you're a musician you certainly shouldn't plan on your man/woman always sitting at home waiting on you! Especially when your woman is ME!)
I went to the store and picked up the fixings for sausage balls to make later and some beer and headed to DA's house. We ate chili, drank beer, and watched some football with his folks and their friends--though I soon begged DA for us to go to his room and watch...anything else!. We watched the end of the Dark Knight in his room and then Working Girl came on and I got inspired by the tequila-drinking scene and told DA we should go get some! DA's dad gave me a container of chili to take before we left and his mom gave me a hug. We headed to Spec's, got 1800 Reposado, and then I said we needed to go to the grocery store b/c I had been craving cake since taking li'l bro to the store on Fri. night! At the store we got brie, wine port almond cheese, crackers, cake slices (white and chocolate), white chocolate peppermint bark, and those wonderfully delicious cookies w/the chocolate drops on top! (I told DA, "We look like stoners!") Back at my house DA set up the drinks and a snack plate and we drank and ate and drank and ate and watched Swingers, which I had never seen before and which cracked both of us up. DA and I decided I would start calling him "Daddy" and he would call me "Gorgeous"!
Sunday a.m. we slept in, ahhhh... I woke up 1st though when li'l bro called to tell me everything was good with him for the time being. I figured DA would sleep in some more so I went downstairs and made the 2 batches of sausage balls he (and his parents!) had requested. It was a really nice morning and it was great to not have to rush off anywhere, which is how it seems I constantly live my life. DA woke up when the 1st batch was ready and then he made eggs for us. We ate and lazed around. And had fun with each other. But then it was time to do some more work on the upstairs bedroom and we got 2 more garbage bags of things/trash to get rid of. The room is actually finally starting to empty out, thank God. Then we went to the video store to get Zack and Miri Make A Porno since neither of us had seen it. While we were watching it Stefano called me and left a message saying he missed me and for me to call him. I texted back asking how late could I call him and he said anytime, he'd keep the phone by the bed. Awww! So the movie was a riot and had us cracking up and it ended just as it was time to go to the Improv, as I'd gotten free tickets and DA had never been there.
The 2 opening comedians were funny and I had this deliciously tropical fruity drink that had coco rum in it. We also ordered the Date Plate, which I always get. But the headliner, Ian Bagg, was disappointing--he did about 10 min. of his set and then just messed w/the audience for the next 40 minutes! Lame! Unfortunately after the Improv I had to take DA home. He wanted to spend the night again but as I said, I was not about to get up at the dawn of crack on Monday and fight traffic to drive anywhere I didn't have to. DA wanted me to come inside and hang out but I had to get home and get some sleep! On the way home I called Stefano who again told me how much he missed me. Then I called DA when I got home to say good night. And thus ended a stellar, fun, fabulous Adela weekend!
So Thursday night's rehearsal went well, we have to add a few more songs for our upcoming gigs and we are adding some good ones. Then I raced home so I could shower/change and get to Stefano's house at the last quarter of the big football game that apparently the whole entire world was watching! Stefano had already given up though and indeed his team ended up losing, and he'd already put all his party food away but I made him get out the caviar and feed me. Then I cheered him up in my own unique way and we headed to bed pretty late.
He had taken Fri. off from work and it was my work from home day so we had a nice lazy morning. He made us bagels w/yummy whitefish instead of salmon this time. I couldn't believe it when I checked my phone but I had gotten 2 unbelievable, nervy text msg.'s that morning: 1 from JR and 1 from that rude state trooper from Thanksgiving night!!! JR said Happy New Year and that he'd been thinking of me lately. I did not respond. And the state trooper wanted to know what I was doing on Saturday night! Again, I was pleased as punch to NOT respond to him either! Especially after spending so much time with Stefano, a wonderful, affectionate, cultured, adorable REAL gentleman!!!
I headed home and tried to get some work done but it was rough going. My mom had also called that a.m. to tell me that my li'l bro was crying and suicidal and would I do something about it? [Li'l bro's best friend killed herself right before Christmas and we've been trying to help him through it.] But when I called li'l bro he voicemailed me and then my mom called me back and I got frustrated and snapped at her (while at Stefano's, unfortunately) but she always pulls shit like that on me--makes it seem like the whole world is depending on me when in reality there's nothing I can do sometimes--and I just get so sick of it. Well, li'l bro called later that a.m. to say that he made an appt. with a therapist and since the wind chill was in the teens I offered to take him so he wouldn't have to walk. I did in fact do so, and decided that since my week of drinking cranberry juice wasn't helping, I did need to get my ass to a Dr. to get that prescrip so I wouldn't be in for a long, miserable, uncomfortable weekend. Fortunately I found an ER that had NO ONE in the waiting room so I took care of that while li'l bro was at his appt.
After I was done I picked up li'l bro and asked him to please tell me what he needed or where he would like to go, that whatever he wanted to do, we would do it! (Hell of a deal, huh? I wish someone would make that offer to me sometime! Oh, who'm I kidding? I live my life like that!) He said he wanted to go to the grocery store so we did and I wandered around looking at the beautiful pastries, cake slices, and cookies while he bought some soothing tea he needed. I ended up buying some gourmet soup, 2 kinds. Then he wanted to get a "Lucky Burger" and just go home, so we did that and I got some fried cheese and li'l bro got a fuckin' Oreo shake! I knew he was in bad straits b/c he never eats shit like that!
BTW... this is why I still resolve to spend more time w/li'l bro. He cracks me UP!!! I was telling him about how Stefano says he doesn't want kids, yet has never gotten a vasectomy b/c he says he doesn't want any blades/knives anywhere near down there. Yet li'l bro badly wants one, my ex RB got one, and J1 supposedly is looking to find someplace in Botswana where he can get one. Li'l bro laughed and said, "Botswana Vasectomy" at which point I exclaimed, "Good band name!!!" Also related to our conversation about my ER visit, li'l bro said he can't believe there hasn't been a cow-punk band yet to call themselves "Reverse Cowgirl"! and said it would have to be an all-girl band. He also said his all-time favorite band name he's come up with has been "Cul De Sac Kids." The concert poster would have any still pulled from the documentary Scared Straight! Then he said "Botswana Vasectomy" would be the perfect name for the "Cul De Sac Kids" 1st album!!! We were dying laughing!
After dropping him off I raced home to shower/change and get ready for my date w/Stefano. I wanted to wear my new leather thigh-high boots from Victoria's Secretions! I put that with a tiny black skirt, black tube top, black sweater, and my furry leopard coat and hoped I didn't look too much like a streetwalker! I put my hair up in a clip. Stefano loved the outfit! He drove us to the blues club and I drank coconut rum and we saw lots of folks we both knew. Fortunately there was cake there for the 80-year old birthday boy and I of course had to have some. Stefano and I danced and danced and then we SPLIT so we could have lots of quality time together at his place.
Sat. a.m. we had to be up at a somewhat decent hour for the 10:30am bar mitzvah. I drove the 90 seconds home and showered/changed into my pinstripe "Italian funeral suit" as I call it b/c it was too damn cold for a dress. Stefano picked me up and we went to the humongous synagogue as it actually turned out to be a bnai mitzvah (2 boys). Lots of Stefano's crazy friends were there and it really tickled me to see these normal looking grown up citizens actually cutting up a little and joking around in temple! I had met a lot of them at the NYE party. Stefano looked adorable in his yarmukle and I really tried to pay attention and "get" the whole experience! I even referred to the Torah when necessary. Stefano was very attentive to me during the 2-hour ceremony, holding my hand, rubbing my back, etc. Then there was a nice luncheon and I got to meet more of Stefano's friends. I was, however, feeling a little shy but everyone was very friendly to me. I even ran into the legendary violin teacher that is Stefano's friend's aunt! I got to say hi and tell her what an influence she'd been on me and generations of us young string players!
After Stefano got me "one of each" from the dessert tray we left and went back to his place for a snort of Dalwhinnie scotch and also thought we might try to take a nap but that didn't happen. After spending some fun quality time together he had a gig he needed to get ready for that night and DA was trying to call me and so I knew I needed to get w/him on what time to pick him up. I went home, showered/changed and called DA who said his dad had made a bunch of chili and they were having friends over so I should plan on hanging out at his place for awhile, which was fine w/me. (Sadly, Stefano called me while I was about to go to DA's to tell me that his gig had been cancelled due to the heat going out at the club! Awwww--but I had made these other plans and frankly, when you're a musician you certainly shouldn't plan on your man/woman always sitting at home waiting on you! Especially when your woman is ME!)
I went to the store and picked up the fixings for sausage balls to make later and some beer and headed to DA's house. We ate chili, drank beer, and watched some football with his folks and their friends--though I soon begged DA for us to go to his room and watch...anything else!. We watched the end of the Dark Knight in his room and then Working Girl came on and I got inspired by the tequila-drinking scene and told DA we should go get some! DA's dad gave me a container of chili to take before we left and his mom gave me a hug. We headed to Spec's, got 1800 Reposado, and then I said we needed to go to the grocery store b/c I had been craving cake since taking li'l bro to the store on Fri. night! At the store we got brie, wine port almond cheese, crackers, cake slices (white and chocolate), white chocolate peppermint bark, and those wonderfully delicious cookies w/the chocolate drops on top! (I told DA, "We look like stoners!") Back at my house DA set up the drinks and a snack plate and we drank and ate and drank and ate and watched Swingers, which I had never seen before and which cracked both of us up. DA and I decided I would start calling him "Daddy" and he would call me "Gorgeous"!
Sunday a.m. we slept in, ahhhh... I woke up 1st though when li'l bro called to tell me everything was good with him for the time being. I figured DA would sleep in some more so I went downstairs and made the 2 batches of sausage balls he (and his parents!) had requested. It was a really nice morning and it was great to not have to rush off anywhere, which is how it seems I constantly live my life. DA woke up when the 1st batch was ready and then he made eggs for us. We ate and lazed around. And had fun with each other. But then it was time to do some more work on the upstairs bedroom and we got 2 more garbage bags of things/trash to get rid of. The room is actually finally starting to empty out, thank God. Then we went to the video store to get Zack and Miri Make A Porno since neither of us had seen it. While we were watching it Stefano called me and left a message saying he missed me and for me to call him. I texted back asking how late could I call him and he said anytime, he'd keep the phone by the bed. Awww! So the movie was a riot and had us cracking up and it ended just as it was time to go to the Improv, as I'd gotten free tickets and DA had never been there.
The 2 opening comedians were funny and I had this deliciously tropical fruity drink that had coco rum in it. We also ordered the Date Plate, which I always get. But the headliner, Ian Bagg, was disappointing--he did about 10 min. of his set and then just messed w/the audience for the next 40 minutes! Lame! Unfortunately after the Improv I had to take DA home. He wanted to spend the night again but as I said, I was not about to get up at the dawn of crack on Monday and fight traffic to drive anywhere I didn't have to. DA wanted me to come inside and hang out but I had to get home and get some sleep! On the way home I called Stefano who again told me how much he missed me. Then I called DA when I got home to say good night. And thus ended a stellar, fun, fabulous Adela weekend!
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Isn't Fun the Best Thing to Have?
That's a quote from one of my fave movies of all time, Arthur. He's a loveable drunk, just like me! But that's not really fair, I mean I didn't even drink last night at all. I still have to lose 1 of the 2 lbs. I gained over the holidays. Even though it's bitterly and unreasonably cold here in H-town this week (wind chill will be in the fuckin' teens the next 2 days!) I am getting my ass to the park tonight to run the 3 miles that I did w/Tito J. last week. I put my workout clothes in the car this a.m. and I'll change at Job #2 and then DO IT, baby! Besides, I want my naked ass to look as good as possible now that I've got these 2 adorable men looking at it all the time, hee hee!
Had rehearsal last night and we were all out of shape, i.e., my fingers were just not moving as fast as they needed to and Leo's voice was ragged and George's drums were out of tune. I even drank a Lone Star beer which I never do, since I thought it might help. But they guys loved my song suggestion of Gram Parson's "She" and we're also going to add Albert Collins' "I Ain't Drunk" with me singing to the set list. The next gig is at a beloved local icehouse on Sat. Jan. 23rd. DA had wanted me to go with him and his family to his cousin's wedding that day but his cousin was being completely weird and ridiculous about him bringing a date; anyway that's moot since I now have the gig which takes precedence over everything. We have another gig coming up on Sat. Feb. 6 and I am a little concerned b/c it's an afternoon gig and conceivable both Stefano and DA could come and I don't want that. But as always, I won't worry about that 'til it gets here.
I miss both my men, but they are constantly texting/calling me. Yesterday I was texting both of them literally at the same time which was a little bizarro. I am thinking of making an appt. with my therapist in order to work out some head stuff I still may have that needs working out re: my transition period. Or--I could just read some of the many books I have on the subject that I have not yet had time to read!
So my upcoming week and weekend looks like this: rehearsal tomorrow night again (I know I had decided to keep rehearsing to once/week but I actually suggested another rehearsal this week b/c I want to be SOLID for our upcoming gig--there's my classical music/perfectionist background rearing its head) after which I will meet up w/Stefano once his UT/Alabama football game is over. He took Friday off from work and I am working from home on Friday so that worked out well! Friday night we're going to one of our local blues bars for a concert/birthday celebration for a local 80-yr old blues piano legend. Saturday a.m. he is taking me to my 1st ever Bar Mitzvah and I am pretty excited about that! Then we will spend the day together until he has to get ready for his gig that night. At which time I will make more sausage balls by popular request from DA and his parents, go pick up DA if he is still not cleared to drive (he has a court date tomorrow) and then we will spend Saturday night-Sunday night together at my place. Fun certainly IS the best thing to have!
Had rehearsal last night and we were all out of shape, i.e., my fingers were just not moving as fast as they needed to and Leo's voice was ragged and George's drums were out of tune. I even drank a Lone Star beer which I never do, since I thought it might help. But they guys loved my song suggestion of Gram Parson's "She" and we're also going to add Albert Collins' "I Ain't Drunk" with me singing to the set list. The next gig is at a beloved local icehouse on Sat. Jan. 23rd. DA had wanted me to go with him and his family to his cousin's wedding that day but his cousin was being completely weird and ridiculous about him bringing a date; anyway that's moot since I now have the gig which takes precedence over everything. We have another gig coming up on Sat. Feb. 6 and I am a little concerned b/c it's an afternoon gig and conceivable both Stefano and DA could come and I don't want that. But as always, I won't worry about that 'til it gets here.
I miss both my men, but they are constantly texting/calling me. Yesterday I was texting both of them literally at the same time which was a little bizarro. I am thinking of making an appt. with my therapist in order to work out some head stuff I still may have that needs working out re: my transition period. Or--I could just read some of the many books I have on the subject that I have not yet had time to read!
So my upcoming week and weekend looks like this: rehearsal tomorrow night again (I know I had decided to keep rehearsing to once/week but I actually suggested another rehearsal this week b/c I want to be SOLID for our upcoming gig--there's my classical music/perfectionist background rearing its head) after which I will meet up w/Stefano once his UT/Alabama football game is over. He took Friday off from work and I am working from home on Friday so that worked out well! Friday night we're going to one of our local blues bars for a concert/birthday celebration for a local 80-yr old blues piano legend. Saturday a.m. he is taking me to my 1st ever Bar Mitzvah and I am pretty excited about that! Then we will spend the day together until he has to get ready for his gig that night. At which time I will make more sausage balls by popular request from DA and his parents, go pick up DA if he is still not cleared to drive (he has a court date tomorrow) and then we will spend Saturday night-Sunday night together at my place. Fun certainly IS the best thing to have!
Monday, January 04, 2010
Treasure In, Garbage Out
I regret titling the blog post that b/c of what I'm about to write about but I feel I have been left no choice. I am happy that yesterday's 1st blog post of the year was so happy and fun-filled and hopefully that reflects my optimistic outlook which I am going to adopt from here on out, just as J2 has committed to doing. I think it says a lot that all I wrote about yesterday was happy, joyful stuff--that that's what is totally overshadowing any bad stuff currently going on in my life and it is doing so magnificently and effortlessly.
So what happened was, last Weds. afternoon I found out that I have no best friend/sister in R. anymore. In fact, I have completely stricken her from my life forever as far as I'm concerned. The last time I saw her was at my gig, the one Stefano came to. She brought her husband and then sent me a nice text message the next day. I saw some Facebook status updates throughout the rest of the month, and then all of a sudden I noticed that she was no longer my FB friend. I knew she had a FB hacker get into her account so I assumed somehow I was accidently unfriended and I re-friended her. I tried to call her last Monday morning, knowing she'd be off work and watching cartoons and did not hear back from her. Meanwhile I saw her posting things on FB on our mutual friends' pages, so I knew she had to have seen my re-friend request. I sent her a message thru FB telling her I'd been trying to contact her, and was she avoiding me? I was only 1/2-kidding. But she sent back a message saying "Yes, actually."
I immediately responded asking why, was she going to tell me or was she just going to continue to avoid me and the situation??? While waiting for her response I tried to call her husband whose voicemail I got. I called my mom to ask her to call R. on my behalf and try to find out what's going on. I called Tito J. and asked him to do the same thing. I wracked my brain trying to figure out what the hell I had done to her (since my gig) and could come up with nothing! Awhile later she wrote back that I am "out of control" and while she still loves me, she cannot pretend to "condone my behavior" any longer. I. Was. Flabbergasted!!!!!!!!!! Then I was pissed. And offended at her junior-high, passive-aggressive behavior. I wanted to reply back that I'm sure my lifestyle seems out of control in comparison to her boring, married old existence which revolves around her fat, boring engineer husband, cat, 2 dogs, and 2 guinea pigs!!! But I didn't. I responded that in the words of Dave Barry, everyone is entitled to their opinion and hers is wrong. I pointed out that I am happier now than I have been in years and I'm sorry she feels that way and that someday if she ever decides to try and fix this, it will be a tough fix indeed. I ended with "Fine. Goodbye!" She had to have the final word of course, and responded that all she did was voice her opinion which I "forced" her to do. Oh my God. That deserves absolutely no response and I realized that I don't need her in my life anymore if this is how she's going to be, and obviously she is.
I FB-unfriended her husband and another friend that is really her friend. I untagged the photos of her in my photo albums. I deleted her stupid dog blog link off my blog here. I removed her from 2 of my FB fan pages as I don't need her "fan-dom". I told my mom, Tito J., my brother, J.Fu, DA, and Stefano what had happened. Everyone said fine, be done with her! which kind of shocked and surprised me, that they would all be so lackadaisical about me losing my best friend/sister. But Stefano reminded me of the Serenity Prayer and although this hurts me/pisses me off, there truly is no point in wasting my time lamenting over this at all. Because my #1 NY's resolution is to continue to have as much fun as is humanly possible, and R. is just no fun at all anymore and also wants to be, as Tito J. put it, "Judgey McJudgey." I mean shit, I could've done the exact same thing to her: "Well R., since you never want to go anywhere anymore or do anything fun anymore and you're in bed by 9pm every night, I can't condone your lifestyle or your behavior any longer and I'm done with you!!!"
So yeah, I had already decided to do this during the course of my divorce process but it just bears reminding and that is to not let ANYONE be in my life that does not deserve to be there. And my #2 NY's resolution is to not do anything that I don't want to do, such as feel obligated to do anything or go anywhere or hang out with anyone I don't really want to! I think with those 2 resolutions I can't go wrong in life, for real.
Tonight I am looking forward to going to buy a coat rack to put by the door. I got a lot done yesterday hanging out at my house--threw away a bunch of crap, recycled a bunch more. I took the TV rolling cart from the 2nd bedroom upstairs downstairs to the dining room and turned it into a liquor cart, heh heh. I need more liquor to put on it though, some more wine, etc! At the risk of seeming "out of control" and a danger to myself and others or WHATEVER.
So what happened was, last Weds. afternoon I found out that I have no best friend/sister in R. anymore. In fact, I have completely stricken her from my life forever as far as I'm concerned. The last time I saw her was at my gig, the one Stefano came to. She brought her husband and then sent me a nice text message the next day. I saw some Facebook status updates throughout the rest of the month, and then all of a sudden I noticed that she was no longer my FB friend. I knew she had a FB hacker get into her account so I assumed somehow I was accidently unfriended and I re-friended her. I tried to call her last Monday morning, knowing she'd be off work and watching cartoons and did not hear back from her. Meanwhile I saw her posting things on FB on our mutual friends' pages, so I knew she had to have seen my re-friend request. I sent her a message thru FB telling her I'd been trying to contact her, and was she avoiding me? I was only 1/2-kidding. But she sent back a message saying "Yes, actually."
I immediately responded asking why, was she going to tell me or was she just going to continue to avoid me and the situation??? While waiting for her response I tried to call her husband whose voicemail I got. I called my mom to ask her to call R. on my behalf and try to find out what's going on. I called Tito J. and asked him to do the same thing. I wracked my brain trying to figure out what the hell I had done to her (since my gig) and could come up with nothing! Awhile later she wrote back that I am "out of control" and while she still loves me, she cannot pretend to "condone my behavior" any longer. I. Was. Flabbergasted!!!!!!!!!! Then I was pissed. And offended at her junior-high, passive-aggressive behavior. I wanted to reply back that I'm sure my lifestyle seems out of control in comparison to her boring, married old existence which revolves around her fat, boring engineer husband, cat, 2 dogs, and 2 guinea pigs!!! But I didn't. I responded that in the words of Dave Barry, everyone is entitled to their opinion and hers is wrong. I pointed out that I am happier now than I have been in years and I'm sorry she feels that way and that someday if she ever decides to try and fix this, it will be a tough fix indeed. I ended with "Fine. Goodbye!" She had to have the final word of course, and responded that all she did was voice her opinion which I "forced" her to do. Oh my God. That deserves absolutely no response and I realized that I don't need her in my life anymore if this is how she's going to be, and obviously she is.
I FB-unfriended her husband and another friend that is really her friend. I untagged the photos of her in my photo albums. I deleted her stupid dog blog link off my blog here. I removed her from 2 of my FB fan pages as I don't need her "fan-dom". I told my mom, Tito J., my brother, J.Fu, DA, and Stefano what had happened. Everyone said fine, be done with her! which kind of shocked and surprised me, that they would all be so lackadaisical about me losing my best friend/sister. But Stefano reminded me of the Serenity Prayer and although this hurts me/pisses me off, there truly is no point in wasting my time lamenting over this at all. Because my #1 NY's resolution is to continue to have as much fun as is humanly possible, and R. is just no fun at all anymore and also wants to be, as Tito J. put it, "Judgey McJudgey." I mean shit, I could've done the exact same thing to her: "Well R., since you never want to go anywhere anymore or do anything fun anymore and you're in bed by 9pm every night, I can't condone your lifestyle or your behavior any longer and I'm done with you!!!"
So yeah, I had already decided to do this during the course of my divorce process but it just bears reminding and that is to not let ANYONE be in my life that does not deserve to be there. And my #2 NY's resolution is to not do anything that I don't want to do, such as feel obligated to do anything or go anywhere or hang out with anyone I don't really want to! I think with those 2 resolutions I can't go wrong in life, for real.
Tonight I am looking forward to going to buy a coat rack to put by the door. I got a lot done yesterday hanging out at my house--threw away a bunch of crap, recycled a bunch more. I took the TV rolling cart from the 2nd bedroom upstairs downstairs to the dining room and turned it into a liquor cart, heh heh. I need more liquor to put on it though, some more wine, etc! At the risk of seeming "out of control" and a danger to myself and others or WHATEVER.
Sunday, January 03, 2010
2010...Peach of a Year!
Great things going on this year. I have beautiful red blooming roses on my coffee table courtesy of Stefano. I have eaten so many delicious meals the past few days. I went for 3 runs w/Tito J. and I have drank a lot of booze. I spent most of today still trying to get my home in order and relaxing here and enjoying some Adela time. I have decided to cut back on my hours at Job #2 so I have more free time. Hopefully I will get to see DA tomorrow and get some! Lots of fun so far.
So Wednesday was great. I went to DA's house and spent the afternoon with him and got some in his bedroom while his mom and stepbrother were elsewhere in the house... it was very high school! Then he went to work and I came home and got ready for my date w/Stefano. Stefano's heat was not working at his house so he came over to stay w/me and he brought me the red roses, totally melting my heart! He took me to see the klassic kuntry band I wanted to see and we danced a little and had fun but didn't stay long b/c we wanted to come home and get it on. The next morning he left early to go meet the heat folks and I slept in until it was time to go meet Tito J. for a run. We did 3 miles and I can't believe I was actually able to do it b/c for me, 1 mile is totally fine! But it was a great end-of-the-year activity. Later I did a little shopping as my new sweaters from Victoria's Secretions had arrived so I was totally ready with a cute NYE outfit, however I needed pants and new boots which I managed to find at the last minute.
So I finally headed to the party at around 8pm and I was wearing my sexy new off the shoulder sweater, tight black pants, new party jewelry, and new boots. The party was at the beautiful big home of Stefano's friends. I knew a couple of their friends as I had met them at Stefano's blues jam a few weeks ago (when I almost got into the bar fight). The host couple were very sweet to me and immediately got me plenty to drink. I did, in fact, get pretty drunk but a lot of people were also so hopefully I didn't stand out too much! At one point one of Stefano's friends told me I had lipstick on my face and when I went to the restroom to look someone had left lip prints on my lower cheek and I have no idea who did that or when! Stefano's band sounded great and I even danced a little w/various people and when the band finally got to stop for the night I got lots and lots of hugs and kisses from Stefano. I got to meet a lot of Stefano's other friends and we stayed just until midnight for the champagne toast and kiss, and then we headed home to his house. Unfortunately I had a real, as Stefano described it, "Woody Allen moment" b/c I was so drunk I couldn't finish getting it on w/Stefano and apparently I rolled over, told him, "We'll have to finish this tomorrow", and passed out!!! Hee hee.
The next day we slept in and Stefano made us bagels w/lox, cream cheese, tomato and capers! He promised to make black eyed peas, cabbage, and chicken for dinner for me that night and I promised to make cornbread and bring mimosa supplies. He told me his friends' son's bar mitzvah is next Saturday and would I like to come with him. Would I! My first bar mitzvah! So then I had to leave to run down to Pasadena to see Ma, then get home and make the cornbread. I went to Stefano's that evening and he had made a lovely dinner and even set a nice table w/cloth napkins, etc. What a romantic! After dinner we tried to watch the movie Garden State and almost got through the whole thing before getting distracted.
Saturday morning I had to come home and make sausage balls for DA, who was all depressed b/c he got his license suspended for 180 days due to his pending DWI case (a long story). So I had promised to bring him sausage balls and we'd go see Invictus. I went to his house early so we'd have a little time to hang out before the movie. DA's dad heated up some of his black eyed peas for me, which were absolutely delicious! The movie was very good, a beautiful story, and I wouldn't mind reading the book except for the fact that I already have over 90 titles on my "To Read" list as it is. Poor DA was not feeling well though and didn't want to kiss me since his throat was sore and he had a slight cough. So I didn't get very much kissing/cuddling action.
I left just in time to go meet Tito J for another run in the park. His friend D. joined us and I couldn't believe anyone was a slower runner than I, but she sure did slow us down! Just b/c she's been doing Bikram Yoga forever and therefore had no cardio endurance. But I finished our run just in time to run home, shower, change and get dressed for a romantic dinner w/Stefano who wanted to take me to his favorite French bistro! I had never had escargot before but I am, of course, an adventurous eater so we got some and it was delicious! Also we had plenty of wine and we shared pate, salmon salad, and some wonderful bread. Finally we shared a decadent dessert. On the way home we decided to go meet Tito J for a quick nightcap at the bar behind my house, but Tito J was too late in meeting us however we did run into my other librarian friend/neighbor. Back at Stefano's house he gave me a present: a fishnet bodystocking! Later on I got bold enough to ask Stefano if he was crazy about me, and he confirmed that yes he was.
This morning he was cuddling w/me and told me again how crazy he is about me; then he said he's not dating anyone else and doesn't want to. I said, "Aw, that makes me feel bad!" and when he asked why I reminded him about the conversation I'd had with him a couple of weeks ago and he said, "Oh because you're seeing other people?" and I said yes. But he said not to worry about it, that these things usually work themselves out. He said he wants to spend more time w/me in 2010 and I said I did with him too. And he also asked me out on Friday and Saturday night but said he didn't want to co-op all my time from the "other men" in my life and I said that was ok and pointed out that he got NYE and is also getting all my weekends and I was happy to give them to him! He said he can't imagine any man who spends time with me not falling completely in love with me. Hmmmm! He's so incredibly sweet and adorable and I can't even believe it sometimes.
I left his house just in time today to run home and freshen up and meet Tito J and a couple other girlfriends for lunch at Frenchy's fried chicken. I had invited Stefano to come too but he didn't want to be tempted by the decadent food! We had a great lunch, finalized the dates for Tito J's Vegas birthday party weekend "Pleasure and Treasure", and then I headed home to try and get some things around the house accomplished. I've talked/texted to DA throughout the day. I also have Stefano's NY Times here which he gave to me to read. DA is going to try and come see me tomorrow night for our Stooges Monday if he is feeling better and feels lucky enough to drive!
So Wednesday was great. I went to DA's house and spent the afternoon with him and got some in his bedroom while his mom and stepbrother were elsewhere in the house... it was very high school! Then he went to work and I came home and got ready for my date w/Stefano. Stefano's heat was not working at his house so he came over to stay w/me and he brought me the red roses, totally melting my heart! He took me to see the klassic kuntry band I wanted to see and we danced a little and had fun but didn't stay long b/c we wanted to come home and get it on. The next morning he left early to go meet the heat folks and I slept in until it was time to go meet Tito J. for a run. We did 3 miles and I can't believe I was actually able to do it b/c for me, 1 mile is totally fine! But it was a great end-of-the-year activity. Later I did a little shopping as my new sweaters from Victoria's Secretions had arrived so I was totally ready with a cute NYE outfit, however I needed pants and new boots which I managed to find at the last minute.
So I finally headed to the party at around 8pm and I was wearing my sexy new off the shoulder sweater, tight black pants, new party jewelry, and new boots. The party was at the beautiful big home of Stefano's friends. I knew a couple of their friends as I had met them at Stefano's blues jam a few weeks ago (when I almost got into the bar fight). The host couple were very sweet to me and immediately got me plenty to drink. I did, in fact, get pretty drunk but a lot of people were also so hopefully I didn't stand out too much! At one point one of Stefano's friends told me I had lipstick on my face and when I went to the restroom to look someone had left lip prints on my lower cheek and I have no idea who did that or when! Stefano's band sounded great and I even danced a little w/various people and when the band finally got to stop for the night I got lots and lots of hugs and kisses from Stefano. I got to meet a lot of Stefano's other friends and we stayed just until midnight for the champagne toast and kiss, and then we headed home to his house. Unfortunately I had a real, as Stefano described it, "Woody Allen moment" b/c I was so drunk I couldn't finish getting it on w/Stefano and apparently I rolled over, told him, "We'll have to finish this tomorrow", and passed out!!! Hee hee.
The next day we slept in and Stefano made us bagels w/lox, cream cheese, tomato and capers! He promised to make black eyed peas, cabbage, and chicken for dinner for me that night and I promised to make cornbread and bring mimosa supplies. He told me his friends' son's bar mitzvah is next Saturday and would I like to come with him. Would I! My first bar mitzvah! So then I had to leave to run down to Pasadena to see Ma, then get home and make the cornbread. I went to Stefano's that evening and he had made a lovely dinner and even set a nice table w/cloth napkins, etc. What a romantic! After dinner we tried to watch the movie Garden State and almost got through the whole thing before getting distracted.
Saturday morning I had to come home and make sausage balls for DA, who was all depressed b/c he got his license suspended for 180 days due to his pending DWI case (a long story). So I had promised to bring him sausage balls and we'd go see Invictus. I went to his house early so we'd have a little time to hang out before the movie. DA's dad heated up some of his black eyed peas for me, which were absolutely delicious! The movie was very good, a beautiful story, and I wouldn't mind reading the book except for the fact that I already have over 90 titles on my "To Read" list as it is. Poor DA was not feeling well though and didn't want to kiss me since his throat was sore and he had a slight cough. So I didn't get very much kissing/cuddling action.
I left just in time to go meet Tito J for another run in the park. His friend D. joined us and I couldn't believe anyone was a slower runner than I, but she sure did slow us down! Just b/c she's been doing Bikram Yoga forever and therefore had no cardio endurance. But I finished our run just in time to run home, shower, change and get dressed for a romantic dinner w/Stefano who wanted to take me to his favorite French bistro! I had never had escargot before but I am, of course, an adventurous eater so we got some and it was delicious! Also we had plenty of wine and we shared pate, salmon salad, and some wonderful bread. Finally we shared a decadent dessert. On the way home we decided to go meet Tito J for a quick nightcap at the bar behind my house, but Tito J was too late in meeting us however we did run into my other librarian friend/neighbor. Back at Stefano's house he gave me a present: a fishnet bodystocking! Later on I got bold enough to ask Stefano if he was crazy about me, and he confirmed that yes he was.
This morning he was cuddling w/me and told me again how crazy he is about me; then he said he's not dating anyone else and doesn't want to. I said, "Aw, that makes me feel bad!" and when he asked why I reminded him about the conversation I'd had with him a couple of weeks ago and he said, "Oh because you're seeing other people?" and I said yes. But he said not to worry about it, that these things usually work themselves out. He said he wants to spend more time w/me in 2010 and I said I did with him too. And he also asked me out on Friday and Saturday night but said he didn't want to co-op all my time from the "other men" in my life and I said that was ok and pointed out that he got NYE and is also getting all my weekends and I was happy to give them to him! He said he can't imagine any man who spends time with me not falling completely in love with me. Hmmmm! He's so incredibly sweet and adorable and I can't even believe it sometimes.
I left his house just in time today to run home and freshen up and meet Tito J and a couple other girlfriends for lunch at Frenchy's fried chicken. I had invited Stefano to come too but he didn't want to be tempted by the decadent food! We had a great lunch, finalized the dates for Tito J's Vegas birthday party weekend "Pleasure and Treasure", and then I headed home to try and get some things around the house accomplished. I've talked/texted to DA throughout the day. I also have Stefano's NY Times here which he gave to me to read. DA is going to try and come see me tomorrow night for our Stooges Monday if he is feeling better and feels lucky enough to drive!
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