Thursday Night Date With S

S and I met last night for the Fireproof movie. I skipped going to Job #2 in order to do so and I paid--horrors!--full price for the movie since it was not a matinee. But I didn't care. On my personal finance blog I post my feelings about money and finances and I have decided that due to our recent marital problems I am going to stop freaking out about money so much. One of my friends said, "You guys never do anything fun with each other!" While that's an exaggeration, we certainly deserve to do more fun things with each other: go out to dinner at a place with waitstaff, see movies when we want to instead of waiting for our next free Sunday and going to the matinee, shopping for new clothes together--we never do these things now. Maybe 1-2 times a year. Now, I don't think we need to be buying another motorcycle or flying to Europe, but we are missing out on so many other perks in our young married life together that honestly, we don't need to be missing out on. 2 3/4 years married should still be the honeymoon period. After the movie we went to Cafe Adobe and had margaritas and shrimp nachos. It was a nice evening so we sat out on the patio and it was just a really great feeling to just sit and enjoy myself with my S. When we got home we had Rice Krispie treats and tried to watch Iron Man but that was not successful. Too bad b/c I hear it's really good, so hopefully we can try again tonight!

Besides, I have no problem with eventually getting another motorcycle if S truly wants one. There are 3 conditions that must be in place first and I think they are totally fair: 1. We must be out of debt. 2. S must have health insurance. and 3. I get a million dollar life insurance policy on S. Ok, maybe $500,000. At the least.

Job #1 is groovy at present time. Everyone went to conference in Dallas, leaving behind me, the Librarian 1 and the Library Assistant. Today I took them to go get Greek food for lunch, yum! And I got to work at 10 am. Perks of being in charge. And the conferencers are not coming back 'til next Thursday so the easy life is here for a few days!

What to do this weekend. I should go patrol a shift. It will have to be tomorrow so S and I can have Sunday together. I just wish I could sleep late on my weekends, but I have to get to the station by 8 or 9 to get 7-8 hours in and be home when S gets home from work. I've also decided we need some traditions. For example, I proposed taking a little vacation every year on our anniversary, even if it's just a weekend away somewhere. Also, I'm going to suggest spending Monday nights at the Mezz. We can watch wrestling and relax in the private room and it's a nice start to the work week. And I think we should go out to dinner on Thursday nights, which means I will also have 1 forced night free of Job #2, which would be nice for me. I only work 1 hour on Thursdays anyway, so it wouldn't be breaking the bank or anything for us.

I'm trying to really get into this concept I was reading about, called "Creating your own reality." It's a psychological training where you control your environment through your mindset. I've always done it throughout life for my major life goals, but I am going to try and adapt it to day-to-day living. Sometimes I use it to get good parking spaces (I swear!) but that's trivial. The mantras are: "But it doesn't matter" and you act "As if." Instead of wasting mental energy on reaction and what if's you focus on your actions instead. It's brain training and about making up your mind to be as happy as you want to be.